Help - I am stuck, how do I get my wife to move to the next level

[njcuck2022]

The hotwife thing was never in my mind until 4 years ago. We were at home having some wine and we started discussing fantasies. In her drunken state she confessed that in the past she has flirted with some men at work and had often fantasized about a particular ex coworker pushing her into the bathroom at a bar she used to go to for happy hour and having his way with her. She told me she often thought about it when we had sex. Since then, I started exploring this idea (hotwife/cuck type stuff) and I became obsessed. A year later I confessed that the idea of her being with other men turns me on and we started role playing a bit in bed. That's where we have been stuck for 3 years. I have not been able to progress to the stage where she is willing to actually get physical with other men, even though she is constantly pointing out to me how she wants to fuck other men whenever she goes out or goes to the gym, or we're out somewhere together.

What am I doing wrong? any advise on how to give her that last push so we can make this fantasy reality? We're in the Philadelphia area, my wife is very attractive (tall, 34DDs, blonde hair, blue eyes, nice figure, 40 but looks a lot younger) and she gets lots of attention from men and gets hit often, but she has yet to get past some light flirting with other men.

 

[NRW_Bull]

Be honest and talk to her about what you want.
Honesty / openness and communication are the key.

There is no magic trick - and above all: accept when she doesn't want.

 

[njcuck2022]

Be honest and talk to her about what you want.
Honesty / openness and communication are the key.

There is no magic trick - and above all: accept when she doesn't want.

Thank you sir! I truly appreciate the feedback.

 

[firststeps]

Be honest and talk to her about what you want.
Honesty / openness and communication are the key.

There is no magic trick - and above all: accept when she doesn't want.

Absolutely spot on. It took 20 years for us to get to the stage that we are now looking for someone to join us. Keep talking and communicating.

 

[Hwcouple702]

Take her on a vacation to a CLASSY nude resort, topless resort (Temptation, etc) or even lifestyle resort for couples (Desire). There is no pressure to do anything but if you can get her topless around others and then comfortable being nude around other couples and socializing nude, then that might help to "normalize" more adventurous sexual experiences.

Warning, average, downscale swingers clubs will not likely be a positive in any way. Try nudity first.

 

[njcuck2022]

Take her on a vacation to a CLASSY nude resort, topless resort (Temptation, etc) or even lifestyle resort for couples (Desire). There is no pressure to do anything but if you can get her topless around others and then comfortable being nude around other couples and socializing nude, then that might help to "normalize" more adventurous sexual experiences.

Warning, average, downscale swingers clubs will not likely be a positive in any way. Try nudity first.

Thanks so much for the advice. I will definitely see if I can make that happen.

 

[jonnboy]

The hotwife thing was never in my mind until 4 years ago. We were at home having some wine and we started discussing fantasies. In her drunken state she confessed that in the past she has flirted with some men at work and had often fantasized about a particular ex coworker pushing her into the bathroom at a bar she used to go to for happy hour and having his way with her. She told me she often thought about it when we had sex. Since then, I started exploring this idea (hotwife/cuck type stuff) and I became obsessed. A year later I confessed that the idea of her being with other men turns me on and we started role playing a bit in bed. That's where we have been stuck for 3 years. I have not been able to progress to the stage where she is willing to actually get physical with other men, even though she is constantly pointing out to me how she wants to fuck other men whenever she goes out or goes to the gym, or we're out somewhere together.

What am I doing wrong? any advise on how to give her that last push so we can make this fantasy reality? We're in the Philadelphia area, my wife is very attractive (tall, 34DDs, blonde hair, blue eyes, nice figure, 40 but looks a lot younger) and she gets lots of attention from men and gets hit often, but she has yet to get past some light flirting with other men.

email me and ill tell you haven't got any farther with her . John jonnboy62000@yahoo.com

 

[Goodlife2023]

The hotwife thing was never in my mind until 4 years ago. We were at home having some wine and we started discussing fantasies. In her drunken state she confessed that in the past she has flirted with some men at work and had often fantasized about a particular ex coworker pushing her into the bathroom at a bar she used to go to for happy hour and having his way with her. She told me she often thought about it when we had sex. Since then, I started exploring this idea (hotwife/cuck type stuff) and I became obsessed. A year later I confessed that the idea of her being with other men turns me on and we started role playing a bit in bed. That's where we have been stuck for 3 years. I have not been able to progress to the stage where she is willing to actually get physical with other men, even though she is constantly pointing out to me how she wants to fuck other men whenever she goes out or goes to the gym, or we're out somewhere together.

What am I doing wrong? any advise on how to give her that last push so we can make this fantasy reality? We're in the Philadelphia area, my wife is very attractive (tall, 34DDs, blonde hair, blue eyes, nice figure, 40 but looks a lot younger) and she gets lots of attention from men and gets hit often, but she has yet to get past some light flirting with other men.

Being much more incremental can sometimes be helpful, too. Instead of the next step from light flirting being hooking up, she might be more comfortable with just leaving a hand on a shoulder for an extra minute, put an arm around a guy, hugging for an extra minute. So she gets used to contact with other men at her own comfort level. Even these little gestures can be a huge turn on, also. Very small steps can sometimes be very helpful for exploration. I hope you get there! Wherever it ends up the journey will be fun.

 

[deth]

قد يكون من المفيد ان تجعلها تبوح لك بسر من اسرارها مثلا ان تخبرك بإسم أحد معارفكم يثير اعجابها
ثم أذكر اسمه عند لحظاتكم الحميمية

 

[CuckmeCleveland]

‘It may be useful to make her reveal one of her secrets to you, for example, to tell you the name of one of your acquaintances that impresses her. Then mention his name in your intimate moments…’

Interesting! Over time, more may be learned— as what things ABOUT him she finds impressive. Studying those qualities may offer insights into a wife’s thinking and emotional responses.

So many immediately go into ‘show her hot porn’ mode. Then they wonder why it seldom goes anywhere. Above all else, we must know our wives if we are to lead them into this lifestyle!

 

[shycuckold]

‘It may be useful to make her reveal one of her secrets to you, for example, to tell you the name of one of your acquaintances that impresses her. Then mention his name in your intimate moments…’

Interesting! Over time, more may be learned— as what things ABOUT him she finds impressive. Studying those qualities may offer insights into a wife’s thinking and emotional responses.

So many immediately go into ‘show her hot porn’ mode. Then they wonder why it seldom goes anywhere. Above all else, we must know our wives if we are to lead them into this lifestyle!

So true and so many never understand that this is way deeper than just some guy fucking her.

 

[Mxfunguy]

So true and so many never understand that this is way deeper than just some guy fucking her

What if they always say they have no secrets or fantasy or anything

 

[njcuck2022]

‘It may be useful to make her reveal one of her secrets to you, for example, to tell you the name of one of your acquaintances that impresses her. Then mention his name in your intimate moments…’

Interesting! Over time, more may be learned— as what things ABOUT him she finds impressive. Studying those qualities may offer insights into a wife’s thinking and emotional responses.

So many immediately go into ‘show her hot porn’ mode. Then they wonder why it seldom goes anywhere. Above all else, we must know our wives if we are to lead them into this lifestyle!

That makes lots of sense, thanks for the insight!

 

[CuckmeCleveland]

That makes lots of sense, thanks for the insight!

To give credit where credit is due, this was really deth’s insight [translated with the google translation app].

This past month, I’ve begun seeing that the ‘lifestyle’ is moving toward critical mass. As cuckoldry increasingly mainstreams, I want its more intelligent and thoughtful strains to be established as the dominant forms.

Powerful and important changes are at work in social and family relations. I believe these things matter more than we know.

Take care!

 

[nobodysrage]

Well it sounds like you didn't get any rejection so far, but just didn't progress? So far so good.

Then try with tiny incremental baby steps. And those should focus on her fantasies not yours. Try to find out what turns her really on and encourage her to tell you about it. Integrate it into roleplay. And then see what matches. When she opens up with some fatansiess and asks you about yours you can ask her: Would the fantasy of a threesome turn you on? Important: Ask about the fantasy only. Then it's only theoretical. Use baby seteps to check whether as threesome with a guy turns her on, if she would go into a swinger club with you, if she would love to date others couples, mens etc. You will find it out.

Nothing is lost, the progress was just stuck.

Make sure if she has fantasies that you fulfill her those. If she feels like in heaven with your new sex life new experiments will be easier.

 

[njcuck2022]

Well it sounds like you didn't get any rejection so far, but just didn't progress? So far so good.

Then try with tiny incremental baby steps. And those should focus on her fantasies not yours. Try to find out what turns her really on and encourage her to tell you about it. Integrate it into roleplay. And then see what matches. When she opens up with some fatansiess and asks you about yours you can ask her: Would the fantasy of a threesome turn you on? Important: Ask about the fantasy only. Then it's only theoretical. Use baby seteps to check whether as threesome with a guy turns her on, if she would go into a swinger club with you, if she would love to date others couples, mens etc. You will find it out.

Nothing is lost, the progress was just stuck.

Make sure if she has fantasies that you fulfill her those. If she feels like in heaven with your new sex life new experiments will be easier.

Thanks for the advice. All great points. I do think focusing on what she fantasizes about might help. Much appreciated!

 

[cuck52]

The hotwife thing was never in my mind until 4 years ago. We were at home having some wine and we started discussing fantasies. In her drunken state she confessed that in the past she has flirted with some men at work and had often fantasized about a particular ex coworker pushing her into the bathroom at a bar she used to go to for happy hour and having his way with her. She told me she often thought about it when we had sex. Since then, I started exploring this idea (hotwife/cuck type stuff) and I became obsessed. A year later I confessed that the idea of her being with other men turns me on and we started role playing a bit in bed. That's where we have been stuck for 3 years. I have not been able to progress to the stage where she is willing to actually get physical with other men, even though she is constantly pointing out to me how she wants to fuck other men whenever she goes out or goes to the gym, or we're out somewhere together.

What am I doing wrong? any advise on how to give her that last push so we can make this fantasy reality? We're in the Philadelphia area, my wife is very attractive (tall, 34DDs, blonde hair, blue eyes, nice figure, 40 but looks a lot younger) and she gets lots of attention from men and gets hit often, but she has yet to get past some light flirting with other men.

She had probably already cheated on you behind your back and likes to keep it that way

 

[Hotwyfhubby]

The hotwife thing was never in my mind until 4 years ago. We were at home having some wine and we started discussing fantasies. In her drunken state she confessed that in the past she has flirted with some men at work and had often fantasized about a particular ex coworker pushing her into the bathroom at a bar she used to go to for happy hour and having his way with her. She told me she often thought about it when we had sex. Since then, I started exploring this idea (hotwife/cuck type stuff) and I became obsessed. A year later I confessed that the idea of her being with other men turns me on and we started role playing a bit in bed. That's where we have been stuck for 3 years. I have not been able to progress to the stage where she is willing to actually get physical with other men, even though she is constantly pointing out to me how she wants to fuck other men whenever she goes out or goes to the gym, or we're out somewhere together.

What am I doing wrong? any advise on how to give her that last push so we can make this fantasy reality? We're in the Philadelphia area, my wife is very attractive (tall, 34DDs, blonde hair, blue eyes, nice figure, 40 but looks a lot younger) and she gets lots of attention from men and gets hit often, but she has yet to get past some light flirting with other men.

 

[Hotwyfhubby]

Hello,
I had a 3 stage approach with my wife. My best friend and I took her out together and we went to dinner and then a club. Had a few drinks and he danced and flirted with her a little. Next I planned a dinner date for just my friend and wife without me. 3rd step was a massage gift for my wife given by my friend. I told her it would be an erotic massage. She was nervous but agreed. My friend did good. Brought massage oils and a bottle of wine. Next thing she knew her clothes were off and he was giving her a nude massage. Then his clothes came off and she got the works! She was hooked after that. They have fucked about 20 times now in 2 years. I always make the arrangements for them. That’s our rule….. hope this helps! Good luck!

 

[Eroc2777]

Bring on vacation down to mexico and we can get her relaxed with a couple of margaritas and tell her what happens in mexico stays in mexico