Looking for advice on how to progress from fantasy stage. Wife is at the point where she will talk about how much she wants other cock when we have sex. She REALLY gets into it, telling me how she wants to suck and fuck them while I watch them use her. I can tell she is into it as her pussy gets SOAKING wet whenever we roleplay this during sex. Much wetter than with any other type of fantasy. We watch a lot of MFM/cuck porn together, and she does on her own too, but we are stuck at this point. She gets uncomfortable thinking about moving on to trying something in real life. I respect her comfort level but would love to have things progress, any advice on next steps?
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Have you introduced toys into the equation? I highly suggest getting a strap-on setup with a cock of her choice to begin with. I am going through this process with my wife and she gets so horny taking other "cocks".
This is a great idea. Right now she uses a vibrator but mainly on her clit. For those that were also in the “fantasy” phase for a while, how likely do you think it is she will eventually move on to the real thing?
how much do you really want it to happen? Are you pushing or giving her time to play with others.
I don't set any time table on her playing. Right now she is totally addicted to big cocks and openly says so. I'm willing to bet if we had a kid free night and all the cards aligned just right...she'd do it in a heartbeat.
I REALLY want it to happen. I Want her to get there on her own but the process feels stuck at this point. She is SO into it when we talk about it during sex but is concerned it will affect our relationship if we take the next step and do it…
Just keep reassuring her that you will not throw it back in her face and that you want this to happen. I only express doubts on here, to my wife I am always supportive and positive.
We’re just about right in the same boat as you… me wanting to move forward and my wife happy with the role playing aspect… so far.
We did introduce a couple very realistic looking and feeling dildos into our role play which has been great. She loves sucking on a cock suctioned onto the wall while I drill her from behind…. Sometimes putting on a cock sleeve to make my cock thicker and longer so she feels like she is really getting shared by 2 of her fuck buddies.
I do love the thought of her fucking other men…. But the role playing is pretty good without all the complications that can come with doing this for real.
Would love to chat to compare our journeys.
This works well. I bought a lifelike 9" dildo, and while she was blindfolded with a ... audience I left the room. She could hear me open the front door, close it, then I pretended to be two different people re-entering the room. I loudly unzipped my pants next to her face, and then dangled the toy dong across her lips. They parted and she began sucking the head. It took almost a minute before she figured out it wasn't a stranger. After that, we knew she was ready. I built up to it over the course of a few months.
The wife and I had been talking about getting a bull for her for awhile. We were however in couples therapy at the time which was very helpful. I’m 51 and my wife is 41, so I would suppose because of early menopause, she needed more in the way of sex than I could provide for her. My blood pressure has been somewhat high off and on and when then happens to a guy, it lessens our libido a bit. Bringing someone into your sex life is not to be taken lightly, we didn’t take it lightly anyway. Being our first time we progressed slowly and so far, after getting past the initial discomfort, it’s working out fine. Just take it slow and you might want to consult a therapist in regards to it, or keep talking to folks who are experienced. We viewed our bull as someone who provides a service and that’s helped a lot. Not a good idea to get friends, neighbors, etc..., involved. It does take awhile to find a bull. It did for us at least anyway.
We’ve been talking more and more about this. She admitted she really gets turned on thinking about being with another man but what is stopping her is that she can’t separate sex from developing an emotion connection with another man. She wants the sex but doesn’t want the emotional connection part with someone else. She says she can’t separate the two in her mind. When we have sex she brings up the idea and practically begs me to let her fuck other men but after she cums she just can’t bring herself to do it...I hope we can progress from here. Anyone been in a similar situation?
We approached getting a bull for my wife in that he would be providing a service. It took awhile to find the right guy. He’s married, only services one couple at a time. Except for the first time, he services my wife at our home. Everyone’s friends but because of the way we approached it, there’s very little chance of a strong emotional connection developing. You have to lay out all of the ground rules before you take the plunge. Also, we were in couples therapy at the time which helped in how we made decisions about it.
females just like males - once we cum we want to stop being a slut for awhile then that urge returns. Encourage her to suck and fuck any cock she wants 1on1 or 3way. If she fucks a cock without you then she should ride your face and share the details.
lots of married males that would like to find a couple that could host. He does not want to lose his marriage but willing to play anyway you prefer.
Shes sending you a serious and honest message. You probably should keep it a fantasy for now. It still doesnt mean it wont happen someday in the future. However, pushing her to try this now could really push your relationship in to the danger zone. For the time being just use the fantasy but let her decide if or when she wants to make it a reality. You certainly dont want to push her and have emotions for another guy that will threaten your relationship. Some women can seperate sex from love and others have issues making the distinction between the two.
Every woman and most couples have these feelings at the beginning and all the time but the fun is worth it - do it
You should try to find an attractive but non-threatening male to flirt with in a public setting. Have him talk to you both about watching you guys together, show him some sexy pictures of you guys. Get her really worked up and then take her and fuck her silly! While you are fucking her, talk about how you wish he was there watching you guys and encouraging you. Maybe next time he could watch you guys together and take some pictures of you guys. Make sure you start slow and don’t do anything that either of you are uncomfortable with. Good luck to you!
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