Holiday on my Own

WetWild

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Nov 1, 2016
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We been married for 40 years this year and most of it my husband has allowed me to have lovers , I am turning 60 and he is 62. We have raised 3 beautiful successful daughters , yes there his and now I have been asked by my current lover to enjoy a 3 week holiday up north in Qld with him. He great company, incredible lover and a perfect gentleman, my husband and him are good friends also.



Question is my lover wants only me to join him and does not want my husband, on the other hand my husband has said no and that he doesn’t want me to go. Me on the other hand I want to go with my lover and prefer my husband didn’t come .

What does others think, should I say no also and obey my husband wishes or should I do what makes me happy?
 

Reveur

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Apr 29, 2020
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It is always depending witch rules you have done at the beginning of your life style, if there is no rules and your husband it is a cucki, then do it and go with your lover
 

Hwcouple702

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We been married for 40 years this year and most of it my husband has allowed me to have lovers , I am turning 60 and he is 62. We have raised 3 beautiful successful daughters , yes there his and now I have been asked by my current lover to enjoy a 3 week holiday up north in Qld with him. He great company, incredible lover and a perfect gentleman, my husband and him are good friends also.



Question is my lover wants only me to join him and does not want my husband, on the other hand my husband has said no and that he doesn’t want me to go. Me on the other hand I want to go with my lover and prefer my husband didn’t come .

What does others think, should I say no also and obey my husband wishes or should I do what makes me happy?
Going away for a weekend or even a week vacation is one thing. Three weeks away is quite another and your husband has already told you he doesn't want that. He's been very tolerant and supportive of you all of these years so this must be a real issue for him. You probably need to compromise quite a bit here.
 

2wheel

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Apr 21, 2016
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We been married for 40 years this year and most of it my husband has allowed me to have lovers , I am turning 60 and he is 62. We have raised 3 beautiful successful daughters , yes there his and now I have been asked by my current lover to enjoy a 3 week holiday up north in Qld with him. He great company, incredible lover and a perfect gentleman, my husband and him are good friends also.



Question is my lover wants only me to join him and does not want my husband, on the other hand my husband has said no and that he doesn’t want me to go. Me on the other hand I want to go with my lover and prefer my husband didn’t come .

What does others think, should I say no also and obey my husband wishes or should I do what makes me happy?
Rule #1 - protect the primary relationship

For the LS to successfully work all participants must be on the same page
 

jusme

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Dec 10, 2019
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I do agree with 2wheel in protecting the prime relationship, however you could try saying to your husband that you will contact him every night letting him know the ins and out (pardon the pun) and also sending him lots of photos. I speak from experience and at first I wasn't for it but now I actually encourage my wife to do it
 
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keylife022

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Sep 10, 2021
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We been married for 40 years this year and most of it my husband has allowed me to have lovers , I am turning 60 and he is 62. We have raised 3 beautiful successful daughters , yes there his and now I have been asked by my current lover to enjoy a 3 week holiday up north in Qld with him. He great company, incredible lover and a perfect gentleman, my husband and him are good friends also.



Question is my lover wants only me to join him and does not want my husband, on the other hand my husband has said no and that he doesn’t want me to go. Me on the other hand I want to go with my lover and prefer my husband didn’t come .

What does others think, should I say no also and obey my husband wishes or should I do what makes me happy?
Only go with husbands permission. Respect his wishes as much as you may want to go. Now if he was all for it, Go get pounded and knocked up if possible.
 

Fayetteman

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Sep 14, 2021
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Lexington,ky
We been married for 40 years this year and most of it my husband has allowed me to have lovers , I am turning 60 and he is 62. We have raised 3 beautiful successful daughters , yes there his and now I have been asked by my current lover to enjoy a 3 week holiday up north in Qld with him. He great company, incredible lover and a perfect gentleman, my husband and him are good friends also.



Question is my lover wants only me to join him and does not want my husband, on the other hand my husband has said no and that he doesn’t want me to go. Me on the other hand I want to go with my lover and prefer my husband didn’t come .

What does others think, should I say no also and obey my husband wishes or should I do what makes me happy?
Do what pleases you.
 

louisjenk

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Sep 23, 2021
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I do not see the reason why your husband does not leave you alone with your lover, mine does not comment in the choices I make, he must understand that you are his wife, even if a slutwife, not a slave and you are free to decide what is best for you, the fact that it bothers him in the end is his problem, if he agreed to share you with other men he doesn't have to impose certain limits on you, it seems absurd and stupid to me.
couldn't disagree more with all of this...

it all depends on what rules / boundaries you both agreed at the beginning. If one of them is for example that you don't do anything unless you have his blessing then he's totally within his rights to state he's not happy with a proposed arrangement and no, that doesn't mean you are his slave.

There is only one "victim" here if you do something against your agreed rules and that's your husband, not you!

I'm saying this as a Bull / Dom hence against my own interest if this was my situation with me being the lover but nonetheless, I have to look at this objectively
 
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franklyn

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Sep 9, 2021
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We been married for 40 years this year and most of it my husband has allowed me to have lovers , I am turning 60 and he is 62. We have raised 3 beautiful successful daughters , yes there his and now I have been asked by my current lover to enjoy a 3 week holiday up north in Qld with him. He great company, incredible lover and a perfect gentleman, my husband and him are good friends also.



Question is my lover wants only me to join him and does not want my husband, on the other hand my husband has said no and that he doesn’t want me to go. Me on the other hand I want to go with my lover and prefer my husband didn’t come .

What does others think, should I say no also and obey my husband wishes or should I do what makes me happy?
your husband should always come first. He has gone along with you having a lover which is not easy for a man to do. I think you need to respect his wishes if my wife ever chose another man over me it would be marriage over so unless your marriage means nothing to you don't go. My wife and I are married 39 years and the reason we are is we always put each others needs and feeling first
 

Bjorn

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Aug 11, 2021
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We been married for 40 years this year and most of it my husband has allowed me to have lovers , I am turning 60 and he is 62. We have raised 3 beautiful successful daughters , yes there his and now I have been asked by my current lover to enjoy a 3 week holiday up north in Qld with him. He great company, incredible lover and a perfect gentleman, my husband and him are good friends also.



Question is my lover wants only me to join him and does not want my husband, on the other hand my husband has said no and that he doesn’t want me to go. Me on the other hand I want to go with my lover and prefer my husband didn’t come .

What does others think, should I say no also and obey my husband wishes or should I do what makes me happy?
Words can be twisted to mean anything one wants them to mean. Primary rule: Protect and be true in the primary relationship. What you do is a LifeStyle, not a "Life". What rules were in place when you started this lifestyle with your husband? I think his response is enough for your answer if you respect the relationship you are in. He has agreed and respected you enough to allow the lifestyle into the marriage. Ultimately it's your decision but I believe your husband deserves to be listened too and respected.
 

Hwcouple702

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I do not see the reason why your husband does not leave you alone with your lover, mine does not comment in the choices I make, he must understand that you are his wife, even if a slutwife, not a slave and you are free to decide what is best for you, the fact that it bothers him in the end is his problem, if he agreed to share you with other men he doesn't have to impose certain limits on you, it seems absurd and stupid to me.
In our opinion, the "reason" for his disapproval is immaterial. Always preserve your primary relationship. He doesn't want this, it is "excessive" and his wishes must be respected.
 

WetWild

Couple
Nov 1, 2016
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Australia
Words can be twisted to mean anything one wants them to mean. Primary rule: Protect and be true in the primary relationship. What you do is a LifeStyle, not a "Life". What rules were in place when you started this lifestyle with your husband? I think his response is enough for your answer if you respect the relationship you are in. He has agreed and respected you enough to allow the lifestyle into the marriage. Ultimately it's your decision but I believe your husband deserves to be listened too and respected.
yes i feel this way too, but i also feel i and not doing the right thing with him, He knows i love spending time outside our marriage .
 

WetWild

Couple
Nov 1, 2016
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Australia
I do agree with 2wheel in protecting the prime relationship, however you could try saying to your husband that you will contact him every night letting him know the ins and out (pardon the pun) and also sending him lots of photos. I speak from experience and at first I wasn't for it but now I actually encourage my wife to do it
so ur wife does spend time away with her lovers regularly?