How did you find out and what was your response to finding out that your wife was cheating?

[caribvistors]

The one time she actually "cheated on me", I was a victim of her deception.. In that instance I was not a cuckold, as I had no idea she had become involved and never gave her any encouragement or permission to have an affair with this 1st lover.

We were married 5 years and went away for a long weekend in PA with 2 other couples. One night while actively engaged in "the priovledge of marriage" my wife suddenly said that she had been fucking her (married) boss. That announcement cause me to immediately drop my load into her. After I recovered I asked her if what she said actually happened, she adamantly denied that she had ever had any sex with the guy.

I couldn't get that comment out of my head ad began reflecting back on the strange hours that she was putting into this supposedly P/T office job. I brought it up over a number of nights and she always insisted that what she said was only turn-on fantasy for my benefit. Digging deeper into her recent late and erratic office hours, the dinners at fine restaurants, night time boat rides, after hours cocktails, etc, was upon reflection highly suspicious. It started to ... me off that things just didn't logically line up, not because she may (likely) had sex with him, but the degree she was willing to go to try to gaslight me, in order to protect him. I came to the conclusion that this significantly older guy was becoming more important to her than me. Her having sex was not my issue, but lying and who was most important in her life was what was starting to really impact my mind. We were approaching the breaking point in our marriage, when one evening she broke down and confessed to their affair. It was more involved that I had imagined.

Over the next 3-4 nights we engaged in deep conversations and she was "completely" forthcoming in the details and explanations. She lied to me in the hopes that I would drop the subject and just forget her comment. Worried if I found out about their casual affair I would leave her. Couldn't believe how I remembered every detail of those long evenings, regarding supposedly, "having to stay late" and in his appreciation for her extra efforts by taking her to dinner before her leaving for home.

It was thru these discussions that we had in trying to rebuild the trust that had been broken that we ultimately agreed to allow her to stay working for this guy (well paid) and she could continue to enjoy his physical attention. She initially wanted to quit, because of the huge emotional problems/damage that their secret relationship caused for us and to our marriage. As a result of those long conversations that I willingly allowed her to enjoy the attention of other men that she was attracted to As a result I became a full fledged cuckold. For some reason it had always since I was a teenager it was a deep fantasy, but not anything I ever dared share with the gf, later my wife, until the above circumstances forced us into "talking".

We have been married longer that most other posters on this website, so what we agreed to became the basis of a successful sexual component of our marriage. There has never been the slightest trust problem between us since. Over the years my wife has repeatedly enjoyed guilt free sexual freedom that most other wives could never dream of.

 

[slappin8silly57]

My wife has never been faithful, even as far back as our dating years, engagement, and throughout our marriage.

In full transparency, I was suspicious of her multiple times throughout our relationship, but chose either to deny, or ignore the signs of her infidelity.

I first became actively aware of her cheating, or more correctly unconfirmed, without direct evidence of it, about six months after we'd been married. The short version, I'm fairly certain Krista was fucking two of our acquaintances, the guys we bought pot from, behind my back. I chose not to take any action, stopping short of busting into our apartment one evening when she wasn't expecting me home.

The first actual confirming evidence was several months later - Krista had gotten a job with a real estate firm. Various signs, new clothes, shoes, etc. began to pop up. Again, summarizing, I followed her one day, and caught her going into, then out of an apartment the firm managed - two hours later... with her boss...

Over the next few months, I followed her several times, same routine - afternoon delight with the boss. This was still the Polaroid era.

I never confronted her, which has basically been the pattern since we've been together.

I like that you know but you haven’t confronted her about it.
Something about a cheating wife is very exciting to me

 

[desert23]

I like that you know but you haven’t confronted her about it.
Something about a cheating wife is very exciting to me

I can’t read relate

 

[Harvey]

I suspected her so asked if she’d been cheating on me. She just smiled and asked me how I knew. I asked her if she cheated a lot with this guy, so she just said “yes”. I asked if he had made her come, and she said “ he always makes me come”. This turned me on, as I struggle to give her orgasms with my cock. I asked “is her better than me? “, so she just giggled and said “ yes, he’s a lot better than you”. It was a real turn on - but rather worrying - when this guy continued to fuck my wife regularly over the next few months.

 

[slappin8silly57]

I suspected her so asked if she’d been cheating on me. She just smiled and asked me how I knew. I asked her if she cheated a lot with this guy, so she just said “yes”. I asked if he had made her come, and she said “ he always makes me come”. This turned me on, as I struggle to give her orgasms with my cock. I asked “is her better than me? “, so she just giggled and said “ yes, he’s a lot better than you”. It was a real turn on - but rather worrying - when this guy continued to fuck my wife regularly over the next few months.

How I want to have this type of relationship with my wife.
The humiliation is so exciting

 

[Aceventura]

What happened was born out of our fantasies. When it surfaced, I went through a whirlwind of conflicting emotions, but ultimately it allowed us to live with greater freedom and honesty, further strengthening our bond. We're a couple in our forties, married for 15 years. A few years ago, however, sex between us was slowly losing its edge and its frequency was steadily decreasing. At that point, I suggested introducing some role-playing and sharing our fantasies. She was initially reluctant, but over time, she began to enjoy it too, and this newfound energy infused our intimacy. One day, she started telling me that at the gym she'd met a younger guy with whom she'd chat occasionally. Once, he'd asked her out for a drink, but she'd declined, immediately making it clear she was married. One evening, during an intimate moment, I began teasing her by imagining a scenario in which, after that famous outing for drinks, that guy would take her home to make love to her. This fantasy intrigued both of us and sparked something new in us. I hadn't given it much thought, and our lives continued normally, until she confessed to me that she had actually gone out with that guy after the gym and that they had gone to her apartment. She was remorseful and knew she'd made a mistake, so much so that she no longer wanted to keep me in the dark. She promised it wouldn't happen again. I admit that in my fantasies, I'd always imagined seeing her with another man, but after that confession, I was confused and wanted to leave. Over the next few days, however, we talked a lot: she explained that she loved me deeply but didn't feel fully satisfied sexually. In the end, I decided to stay by her side, to still be her husband. Over time, we've moved towards a new dimension in our relationship; today we are a cuckold couple. She has a young, stable bull, and this has brought serenity and happiness to our relationship.