I just joined here so be kind if you can. I have been married for 4 years and for the last 3 of those I have been cheating on hubby with several different black men. We are both white. Up until recently it has been just casual sex with no complications but I have been seeing one particular guy for 3 months now and he wants to have a proper relationship with me. The difficulty is that I don't want to lose what I have with hubby. I grew up in a poor household in a poor neighborhood where one in three people were black and I had more black friends than white. There was the usual negativity about this from whites but I didn't care. I met hubby when i went to work in his business and he took a liking to me. If I am honest I would not have got involved with him except for his being wealthy and showering me with gifts and promotions. Oh he was likeable and after spending a lot of time with him I came to like him also and acepted his proposal of marriage. Unfortunately, sex with him has always been insipid at best. I have found this to be the case with all the white guys I have been with. Yes I know that's probably a stupid thing to say given that I have not been with a lot of white guys so the sample I am working on is small but I have never had anything other than amazingly satisfying sex with a black man.
So, I have some options now. I could get a divorce and go to my current boyfriend full time but I would be walking away with very little money and my boyfriend is basically poor.
Or, I could break off my relationship, as it is with my current boyfriend and find guys who dont want anything serious.
Or, I could stay married and cuckold hubby by bringing my boyfriend to live with us.
If I try the last of those options is there a way of doing it which wont result in hubby pulling the plug? He is generally a doormat type of person and I don't see him calling his lawyer if I can suggest it to him in a way that he would be receptive to but I really am at a loss how to do that. I also do not want to hurt him any more than necessary by being a mean bitch - even if that is what i am.
Apologies for my bad grammar but if anyone has any advice I would be grateful to hear it.
Ashlee
So, I have some options now. I could get a divorce and go to my current boyfriend full time but I would be walking away with very little money and my boyfriend is basically poor.
Or, I could break off my relationship, as it is with my current boyfriend and find guys who dont want anything serious.
Or, I could stay married and cuckold hubby by bringing my boyfriend to live with us.
If I try the last of those options is there a way of doing it which wont result in hubby pulling the plug? He is generally a doormat type of person and I don't see him calling his lawyer if I can suggest it to him in a way that he would be receptive to but I really am at a loss how to do that. I also do not want to hurt him any more than necessary by being a mean bitch - even if that is what i am.
Apologies for my bad grammar but if anyone has any advice I would be grateful to hear it.
Ashlee