Interesting subject,
I’m trying to understand why couples that are openly indulging in sexual intimacy with people outside their marriage have an issue with others that are seeking to fulfill their desires without the other half of their relationship knowing.
Not all of these individuals are subject to drama or will become a recked home. Some have been married for long periods of time and just need to feel alive again.
They seek that fire that has been lost or have extremely high sex drives and want to experience the thrill that is missing at home. They don’t want to dramatize or lose what they have.
Hell some want to have the same for their marriage, but their spouse is too prudish or too set in their values or religion to indulge what the other one wants to try.
If all parties involved in the act are honest and upfront with what the are seeking, then I say don’t narrow your search and open your options to really enjoy and be enjoyed.
Life is short we should go with the flow and stop labeling people with societies labels.
You never know what you could be passing on. Communication and some understanding goes a long way. If it doesn’t feel right don’t do it, but don’t shut down great opportunities when presented.
Not intending to create an argument just pointing out that there is always two sides to a conversation that should be talked about.
I do hope you find what you seek and have the thrill of your life.
Best wishes.