How do you know when you are ready to move to reality from fantasy?

[Phun Times 727]

I am trying to wrap my head around this. I have had this fantasy for quite some time of my wife doing a MFM with 2 other men. I jerk off to MFM porn regularly, not exclusively but often. After years of thinking about this I brought it up recently with it as a long term option. Long story short arranged for a common friend to join us to start as she isn't ready for strangers, maybe not ready for anything at all so I set it up and wound up she joined he and his GF (not MFM) and it didn't really work for a couple reasons. I sometimes travel for work, this week is one of those times. Her friend just got divorced and has a giant empty house she will likely sell but has use of. We decided she should spend the week over there with her friend wjile I am gone and they can explore possibly finding a way forward, meet someone possibly but either way she has to have attraction and input.

So here we are less than 3 weeks later we have gone from full manogomy to her out with her girlfriend and having a pic sent to me with a very large cock being stuffed down my wifes throat. Her friend is really dictating how this happens and how much I can communicate with her until I get back as she took my wifes phone. I feel like this happened a little fast. Of course not being able to talk to her about currently has my mind messing with me and making me wonder if we were ready. I guess its more was I ready, clearly she has been able to get there.

I don't feel jealous, its weird. I feel more like I was foolish and acted on something I could have just kept as a fantasy. Have others gone through this, is it normal?

 

[coastalkid]

The strange part is the "friend dictating" things. This "friend" has her phone and restricted communication with your wife? It certainly sounds like your wife and her friend found a way forward huh? Pretty good timing about finding that path forward working out while you were traveling for work. If you've already gotten a picture with a cock stuffed down her throat then you can pretty much assume you HAVE started, just without you!

How much longer until you get home? Have you thought about what you'll say?

 

[Phun Times 727]

The strange part is the "friend dictating" things. This "friend" has her phone and restricted communication with your wife? It certainly sounds like your wife and her friend found a way forward huh? Pretty good timing about finding that path forward working out while you were traveling for work. If you've already gotten a picture with a cock stuffed down her throat then you can pretty much assume you HAVE started, just without you!

How much longer until you get home? Have you thought about what you'll say?

It seems hard to believe it was coincedence with timing I know but honestly it was. We set up a threesome with a friend and his GF but it just didn't work even after several tries and significant frustration. My work travel was kind of last minute. She had talked to her friend about the frustration because she is also friends with the couple. I had a long talk with the wife and I had to wave the flag in that as a straight man I fo not have expereince in sourcing male sex partners, as a hot woman she has been fighting them off her whole life so likely she is better at it. We also wanted her to be a part of the process so she could select someone she actually finds attractive, all makes sense to me. Her frind called me last weekend and we talked and she indicated she is interested in a FF fling with my wife as she just got divorced and was ready to get a little wild herself and would consider a FMF with her. We talked for a long time about what this means to us as a couple and my wife isn't a dolphin performing tricks ar SeaWorld, I have a goal but I can't expect her to be my personal porn actress. I have to say, I agreed with her. She also went into the surrender of control and how we will have some stages to move through, still was on board and really OK with it since she and my wife may sleep together and possibly go out and meet men as she just got divorced and is feeling crazy. I told her point blank I am good with the two women having sex together, in fact if my wife wants to have sex with 5 women while I am gone I am cool with it, or she could sleep with 5 men for that matter. As much as I would love to watch maybe she needs a bit of space to feel at ease and I respect that and they should do what they feel they want to do. She asked again if I am sure and since it was video I looked her in in the eye and said yes, please do.

I am sleeping last night and get a text from her friend, took your wife's phone for a couple of days. No need to worry. She needs to relax and not be in constant communication with you and worrying. Again, this all sounds pretty logical to me.

 

[Phun Times 727]

This is where things go off the rails.

I get a text from her friend: We met a guy and asked him back to watch the two of us fool around, half thinking he may join. Answer your phone when it rings.

Its nearly 1AM when this happens so I just sat up and puts lights on. A half hour goes by and I get a call and nobidy is there but I hear sounds in the background, shuffling and what sounds like somebody using mouthwash or clearing their throat. It goes on for a good 10 minutes and I hear what I think are moans and also voices. I recognize my wife's moan. She is doing something sexual. I don't know if she is doing it for me, with someone else, with her friend. No idea. Phone moves closer to the sound source at some point and I her gurgling and choking and moans. I am starting to try to imagine what it atually is, but the sounds are really different. At some point the call hangs up and I am layig there wide awake wondering what the hell.

About an hour or more later I get another text from her friend. All is good. Your wife had a bit of difficulty getting our new friends cock all the way in her mouth and nearly dislocated her jaw. Do not try to call, ringer will be off. If you are good I may send you a pic in the morning. Sleep tight.

Her friend is playing mind games with me, This is where I started to wonder if I am really ready for this, it seems very real and very fast. Am I over thinking things or is this a normal phase?

 

[Phun Times 727]

Her friend just text me, all is good, picked up Five Guy's and heading back to the AirBNB, keep ypour ringer on.

I was a bit confused, maybe they were drinking and stopped for some greasey burgers.

A few minutes later I get a clarification, talk to text typed Five Guy's, although that sounds good we are bringing five really cool men home with us. Five is not divisible by 2 so we will have to flip on who gets a third.

Keep you phone charged. Oh shit. How does one get off this crazy ride?

 

[Phun Times 727]

I got a text from the friend, you need to repeat on video what you told me that you gave permission for this. Be a good boy and I will give you some pics maybe more. If you don't you will see her when I bring her back Friday night.

Got a video call half hour later, her friend of course with 5 dudes behind her ,my wife nowhere to be seen, and she wanted me to tell them I approved all this. It is true, I did.

What the hell happened to my life and marriage?

It was probably an hour later I got another video call a guy was holding phone and said he was supposed to show me and he panned it around the room quickly and shaky but for sure the remainder of 4 guys and the 2 girls were naked and some sort of physical contact was happening but it was so quick could not tell and call ended.

As crazy as this sounds I was relieved it wasn't going on forever like the night before and I actually went back to sleep. I am not sure I like the fact I could go back to sleep but was up the whole night prior and dead exhausted and maybe a little bit less anxiety. She returns tomorrow evening and I am hoping for some clarity. Its a mess in my mind right now and I am a work trip trying to be focused but frazzled as hell.

 

[Phun Times 727]

Today is the day, I am so nervous. I am 10 minutes from picking her up and getting the story on last 4 days. Her friend did say we are all going to get lunch and discuss everything. Like a little kid waiting on Santa.

 

[Phun Times 727]

I am shaking, my nerves are firing. I just picked up my wife from the AirBnB, her friend messed with both of us. She told my wife it was my idea to take her phone but I must admit, friend knew what she was doing. This was a growth exercise for both of us. We learned to allow some not knowing every detail about what the other is doing to be OK. I don't need to know what dressing was on her sald at lunch. Just knowing she had a healthy happy day is enough for both us. Now we are sitting in a restaurant waiting for her new male friend to arrive. I suppose we are going to talk things out, I do not know what to expect. I guess we need to establish what we all want and maybe some rules etc. Wish me luck.

 

[nariah1957]

Good luck mate. Hope it all works out for you. Keep us posted.

 

[coastalkid]

I am shaking, my nerves are firing. I just picked up my wife from the AirBnB, her friend messed with both of us. She told my wife it was my idea to take her phone but I must admit, friend knew what she was doing. This was a growth exercise for both of us. We learned to allow some not knowing every detail about what the other is doing to be OK. I don't need to know what dressing was on her sald at lunch. Just knowing she had a healthy happy day is enough for both us. Now we are sitting in a restaurant waiting for her new male friend to arrive. I suppose we are going to talk things out, I do not know what to expect. I guess we need to establish what we all want and maybe some rules etc. Wish me luck.

Oh you can count on some rules alright, but they will ALL be for YOU! Do you think your wife will be waiting on pins and needles to hear what it is that you want? Do you think she'll be on a mission to fulfill those wants? I think you're going to get talked TO, and a lot of it will be practiced and scripted by your wife's friend and her.

 

[nainshar]

The strange part is the "friend dictating" things. This "friend" has her phone and restricted communication with your wife? It certainly sounds like your wife and her friend found a way forward huh? Pretty good timing about finding that path forward working out while you were traveling for work. If you've already gotten a picture with a cock stuffed down her throat then you can pretty much assume you HAVE started, just without you!

How much longer until you get home? Have you thought about what you'll say?

its more for husband. if he liked the other guy fucked hard in front than he think n when he see his wife agreed certain things like anal or mouthfuck tand he enjoyed than go for practically

 

[Phun Times 727]

Oh you can count on some rules alright, but they will ALL be for YOU! Do you think your wife will be waiting on pins and needles to hear what it is that you want? Do you think she'll be on a mission to fulfill those wants? I think you're going to get talked TO, and a lot of it will be practiced and scripted by your wife's friend and her.

Her friend was not as sinster as I thought, was really just trying to prep us both that our relationship could change and we need to be ready/sure we want that. The other thing she was trying to get me to understand is my wife may not want to be my personal porn actress ready to perform at will, she needs to want to do whatever we do and that could mean a couple of things. Obviously this lifestyle has many flavors. Ours would be where I remain her lover and possibly share her. How we share is the next question.

We gave a couple options.

First, her friend just got divoced and is seeing a guy who is very adrasive/not too friendly but they go at it like wild animals. Her friend has told all of us about his very large tool. Her friend brought my wife in with themthe other night. Not all details have come out yet but was getting some of the story last night. He is not into MFM, I would not be able to watch. No connection just sport sex. He is rough, my wife only wants rough if she asks for it or it shuts everything down. She said his exact words were that it is a roller coaster ride and everyone gets the same ride, some love it and put their hands in the air and keep coming back to ride it while others are terrified, but they all get the same ride. This guy could have the ultimate 3 some with my wife and his girl as often as he liked if he just approached things differently. I know my girl and she will dry up and lock that pussy shut if you turn her off.

The other option is she met a guy who is pretty cool and substanitally younger, I believe 10 years younger than my wife , making him 20 younger than me. Its kind of funny but my wife and I are at a lot of tradeshows and the young hipster guy is always who she is talking to. She attracts them like flies and we always joke about it. Kinda looks like Prince Harry, not as ginger though but somewhat. They hung out most of the last week. We had lunch with him yesterday to talk. It felt weird, like the oddest ever but really after a couple of moments we all kind of acknowledged it was awkard but we had fun. I though we were meeting to establish ground rules etc but we really just hung out. I wanted to ask all the questions about what they had done but it just seemed too prying He has a lot of common interests (beside sex with my wife). We do a lot of the same activities, hang out at similar places but he lives 90 minutes away. I think that is a nice buffer. If and when we go that route we can do so but not like we would be seeing all the time. We talked about her time with him and it is like a flasback to when I met my wife. Our weekends were constant intimacy, sex for an hour and as soon as we were done we stayed in close contact, her laying on me or hanging her leg on mine while we had lunch, like foreplay was already started for the next round, which was never more than 90 minutes away. It sounds like they were pretty busy the last few days. So I asked about condoms and she said first couple of times they used the, so I had to ask how many times were there. She said 4 or 5 times a day then clarified vaginal , which I know means 8 or more with oral. As she is telling me all the details last night I am all over her. Its like we are restarting.

So mean giant bull or fun friendly young guy who would be good to her and is cool to MFM if we chose to do so. Probably the second option based on our talks.

 

[coastalkid]

Her friend was not as sinster as I thought, was really just trying to prep us both that our relationship could change and we need to be ready/sure we want that. The other thing she was trying to get me to understand is my wife may not want to be my personal porn actress ready to perform at will, she needs to want to do whatever we do and that could mean a couple of things. Obviously this lifestyle has many flavors. Ours would be where I remain her lover and possibly share her. How we share is the next question.

We gave a couple options.

First, her friend just got divoced and is seeing a guy who is very adrasive/not too friendly but they go at it like wild animals. Her friend has told all of us about his very large tool. Her friend brought my wife in with themthe other night. Not all details have come out yet but was getting some of the story last night. He is not into MFM, I would not be able to watch. No connection just sport sex. He is rough, my wife only wants rough if she asks for it or it shuts everything down. She said his exact words were that it is a roller coaster ride and everyone gets the same ride, some love it and put their hands in the air and keep coming back to ride it while others are terrified, but they all get the same ride. This guy could have the ultimate 3 some with my wife and his girl as often as he liked if he just approached things differently. I know my girl and she will dry up and lock that pussy shut if you turn her off.

The other option is she met a guy who is pretty cool and substanitally younger, I believe 10 years younger than my wife , making him 20 younger than me. Its kind of funny but my wife and I are at a lot of tradeshows and the young hipster guy is always who she is talking to. She attracts them like flies and we always joke about it. Kinda looks like Prince Harry, not as ginger though but somewhat. They hung out most of the last week. We had lunch with him yesterday to talk. It felt weird, like the oddest ever but really after a couple of moments we all kind of acknowledged it was awkard but we had fun. I though we were meeting to establish ground rules etc but we really just hung out. I wanted to ask all the questions about what they had done but it just seemed too prying He has a lot of common interests (beside sex with my wife). We do a lot of the same activities, hang out at similar places but he lives 90 minutes away. I think that is a nice buffer. If and when we go that route we can do so but not like we would be seeing all the time. We talked about her time with him and it is like a flasback to when I met my wife. Our weekends were constant intimacy, sex for an hour and as soon as we were done we stayed in close contact, her laying on me or hanging her leg on mine while we had lunch, like foreplay was already started for the next round, which was never more than 90 minutes away. It sounds like they were pretty busy the last few days. So I asked about condoms and she said first couple of times they used the, so I had to ask how many times were there. She said 4 or 5 times a day then clarified vaginal , which I know means 8 or more with oral. As she is telling me all the details last night I am all over her. Its like we are restarting.

So mean giant bull or fun friendly young guy who would be good to her and is cool to MFM if we chose to do so. Probably the second option based on our talks.

So, she's already had a nice sampling of the goods from Prince Harry. So, will you be sending her "90 minutes away" on her own? Will you go with her and stay in another room or something? What is it that you are hoping for yourself? In your perfect world, how does this turn out?

 

[Phun Times 727]

So, she's already had a nice sampling of the goods from Prince Harry. So, will you be sending her "90 minutes away" on her own? Will you go with her and stay in another room or something? What is it that you are hoping for yourself? In your perfect world, how does this turn out?

Yeah good questions. Not 100% sure at this point nut we have had some time to digest it and talk. It kind of sounds like we may go over there and he may come over here sometimes. We are both off Monday , so is he, and have talked about taking a trip over, we are in Tampa area and he is in Orlando. I am oddly OK with this. She seems to be in a good headspace and think I am too. It could go a number of ways, but we are both open at this point. At first I was pushing for this from a "watch my wife do porn" perspective, and don't get me wrong, that gets me going but not her. This is different. This is both of us. We may do some crazy shit and end of the day or not. Wer talked and maybe we have a ways to go before it becomes a threesome. We could just gget in a room and slam but it isn't what gets her going so I am looking for her total buy in, not just satisfying my desire to watch her do a performance for me. If I had to guess we are likely going to start slow and build to fooling around in same room and hopefully at some point we can all join in.

I don't know anything for sure at this point. But I have been enjoying her telling me about her last few days and watching her expressions and her eyes and looking to be supportive and understanding. At the end of the day she is my wife and will be. I do not plan to surrender her and she is not looking to be passed off. Farnkly she was a bit hurt when I first suggested it as she thought I was done with her and was trying to give her away, far from it. I love her so much I want her to be able to be able to act on things most of us suppress because we feel that would hurt out partner. I am not insecure. I know she is hot and guys are all over her everywhere we have ever gone, it means I picked a good one. If she asked me tomorrom to go to his place for a couple of days I would bless it knowing she can do whatever she wants but that isn;t what she has talked to me about. She is thinking we all kind of build a foundation to have fun together with clothes on or off when we can. I am great with that. He said to me yesterday that I must be crazy to share such a rare find. I agreed and I told him he should be flattered as she could choose anyone and it looks like he is getting the green light.

 

[Phun Times 727]

Well, we have an update. We wrapped our Easter stuff with the fam early on Sunday and were chillin at home and the idea came to me that we were off Monday, maybe try to get something together. I reached out and we went to him.

Feeling our way through that night was like a first date in high school.We sat around and watched a movie, she was leaning against him and legs up on my lap. I think that is how she need to bridge the intimacy. I was ready to go upon arrival but she needed the time so in the interest of a good outcome and additional meetings it was important for this I think. We did get to a point where I felt I needed to send them in the room to get started without me or it may never happen. We all decided in advance not to get too weird or hardcore right away. I gave them some time to get going without me right there. When things sounded like they were going I made my way in the bedroom. I was still dressed and just caressed her. They got in a postion where he was doggie, with her facing me but nice slow deep stuff not jack hammer. I started to get it out to go in her mouth but paused and just made eye contact and watched her get into it. Her eyes do it for me. We have always tried to have her look at me either during oral or riding me, sometimes even doggy. If she holds your hand during it she is enjoying it. It was so hot, I kissed her and we did that for a good while. She started to orgasm so good job to him. I let him ride it out. We took a breather. She managed to whisper in my ear to acknowledge she knew I was ready for the MFM but waited for her. That was an investment. She needed a few minutes and then I took over and he left the room, I don't know why exactly but he returned 10 minutes later or so and watched. I have to say, its kinda weird having someone watch you fuck, but all good. We did a few rounds of this before we crashed (spent night together). Middle of the night she had her head on my chest and something started apparently while I was asleep but she was getting it slowly from behind. She reached down and held my hand as things went on and then she put me in her mouth and was sucking my cock, holding my hand and getting it from the other end. This is what I had been waiting for. He kept it nice and slow for her and she was all about that. I could feel she was getting close by her sounds and starting to tense up her body, when she went she went hard, quivering, deep moaning. She was about done when he must have come in her and she pushed her hips back and I herard the familar sounds. I couldn't hold back any longer and I came in her mouth which kept her going. All total she must have been in some form of orgasm for nearly a minute. It was dark, could barely see what was happening but it was very clear. I think the darkness is what finally got us all over the sticking point of joining in together.

We repeated this once after we woke up in same positions before we left and drove home. She was concerned about switching positions with his cum inside her already that if I also came in her we may have potential for an infection etc so will remember this for next time. Once you come in her you claim that hole for the duration so plan accordingly, also neither of us are licking her down there after the other guy so wait til near end to cum in her.
Long drive home with little sleep. She crashed while I dove but talked a bit. We agreed it was a great outcome but she did tease me that she knew I was ready for circus sex with the typical porn scene stuff and it may happen at some point but she really appreciated us taking a slow loving approach with no pressure.

Here is a pic of "Prince Harry" kissing her kitty at the beginning. Based on her hand with his she is enjoying this.

Must do this again.

 

[Phun Times 727]

So after a few weeks now it is safer to say my wife has a BF. We see him together and it has been good, better than I could have predicted. I had some concerns about respect/boundaries etc and thus far no complaints. He is good to her when we are together, doesn't push for one on one with her outside our meetings. I do try to give them a couple of one on one sessions where I am out of the room when we are together. I think it is appreciated, no one wants all their sex to be on display. She is getting very comfortable in this situation. For the most part it is a very equal 3 way scenario when we get together, we both have sex with her separately a bit at first and them move to doing so at same time. We are treating it as a relationship, 2 straight men having sex with the same woman. We have been able to stay somewhat clear of each other but she is moving into positions at times where she is looking for us to do DVP. I don't see this happening I think it would be a huge turnoff for our junk to be touching. Even if she let one of us in her butt I think it would still be too much with our balls bouncing off each other. We are trying to tend to her needs and based on outcome we have been doing a decent job. Has anyone else been in a similar situation where 2 straight guys are in a MFM and looking to stay straight but nake sure she gets as much out of the expereience as possible?

 

[airhorn]

So after a few weeks now it is safer to say my wife has a BF. We see him together and it has been good, better than I could have predicted. I had some concerns about respect/boundaries etc and thus far no complaints. He is good to her when we are together, doesn't push for one on one with her outside our meetings. I do try to give them a couple of one on one sessions where I am out of the room when we are together. I think it is appreciated, no one wants all their sex to be on display. She is getting very comfortable in this situation. For the most part it is a very equal 3 way scenario when we get together, we both have sex with her separately a bit at first and them move to doing so at same time. We are treating it as a relationship, 2 straight men having sex with the same woman. We have been able to stay somewhat clear of each other but she is moving into positions at times where she is looking for us to do DVP. I don't see this happening I think it would be a huge turnoff for our junk to be touching. Even if she let one of us in her butt I think it would still be too much with our balls bouncing off each other. We are trying to tend to her needs and based on outcome we have been doing a decent job. Has anyone else been in a similar situation where 2 straight guys are in a MFM and looking to stay straight but nake sure she gets as much out of the expereience as possible?

Incidental contact while trying to please the same woman is not going to make you gay. I wouldn't worry about it, just get in there and it'll all be good.

 

[Phun Times 727]

Incidental contact while trying to please the same woman is not going to make you gay. I wouldn't worry about it, just get in there and it'll all be good.

She thinks it is hilarious when things happen. We have started calling "fouls" when cum lands where it shouldn't. We try to make light of it as much as we can. I apologized the other day and said he could fuck my wife it it happens again.

 

[Phun Times 727]

Just prior to us leaving the BF this weekend my girl went above and beyond.