How to convince bi hubby to just go for it?

[nicebiguy]

I'm thinking about taking the lead. I'm going to Create a Grindr account this weekend and go from there

Maybe you should ask him first,seems to me he's got to want it before trying.

 

[MrJohnClark]

GRINDR ?? What is that
Thanks

 

[dinoo-2]

A long time ago, my wife asked me if I would do anything for her she wanted me to do.
My answer was a clear YES.
Then she added: "Without any exception?"
YES was again my answer.
Then I had to repeat her words: "I will do anything you want me to do, without the slightest exception."

Later on I understood that she liked me to be fucked.

 

[slappin8silly57]

A long time ago, my wife asked me if I would do anything for her she wanted me to do.
My answer was a clear YES.
Then she added: "Without any exception?"
YES was again my answer.
Then I had to repeat her words: "I will do anything you want me to do, without the slightest exception."

Later on I understood that she liked me to be fucked.

That’s hot.

 

[keylife022]

I'm seeking advice on my bisexual husband. This may need to be moved to the bisexual forum, if so please move

For a few years my husband and I have often role-play situations such as him watching me fuck another guy, us sharing a guy or me watching him. We got close to all three scenarios but something would happen (family situation, car accident etc). For me personally the hottest scenario is me watching him with another guy. The thought of another man dominating my husband like he fantasies about gets me so wet

Lately my husband and I went through a rough spot sex wise. Lots of married couples can tell you it happens. Finally we are starting to get back to normal.

The other day I decided to kink it up and told him to pick any porn he wanted. He chose an interracial gay porn. It was hot and we dirty talked him getting it from a BBC while I watched and down the line participated. He came so hard and then I used my toy continuing to think about watching him getting pounded.

Later I told him " we are back on track, let's start looking for a guy for you and us babe" and then he told me something that hurt me.

He said he feels like less of a man and that he feels guilty for even thinking about the fantasy outside of the bedroom. He also thinks now that he's a few years older it's to late(he's not even mid thirties lol) to find someone. He thinks being submissive in the bedroom is bad .

This is an off and on thing with him. He struggles to accept that he's a bisexual submissive guy. I support him and tell him how life's short and we should look into it . He admits he wants to try men but feels to much shame.

Any thoughts? I told him he should look into a sex positive therapist but he says he doesn't know if he has time sigh.

Don’t give him the option. Set up the encounter where all three of you play. In the moment guide your husband onto the other guy’s cock. Tell him it’s time to step up as you guide his head down.
Your husband won’t resist. His lips will part and he will find himself giving his first blowiob. Make sure he swallows that first time

 

[GrovelingCuck]

Watch some gay porn with him. Tell him how hot you think it is.

 

[du_sabot]

Maybe just find a bull for you that's open to guys fluffing them and work your way into it

 

[dinoo-2]

That’s hot.

Yes, what’s even hotter, of course, is that my wife prepared me, step by step, to become her bi-husband. And she succeeded.

Before that, whenever I’d come in her mouth, she’d spit my cum out into a towel or a piece of paper.
That changed very quickly after our first visit to what became our beloved club.
Within half an hour of arriving at that club, my wife was being fucked in both her pussy and her mouth.
I’d seen the latter, mind you, but I hadn’t realised that the man had cum in her mouth. She told me that when I wrote down the events of that evening and let her read it.
Naturally, I asked her where she’d put that load. ‘I just swallowed it,’ she told me. Not a fantasy, but pure reality.

She began to enjoy having cocks in her mouth. What she wanted most was for this to result in a load in her mouth.
She loved then kissing me with her mouth full of another man’s cum. Of course, those men had to see that.
“You need to know what’s just happened,” was her reasoning.
“It’s not MY lifestyle but ours TOGETHER. Besides, you promised me you’d accept everything about me.”
I told her I hated the taste, but that “I’d just have to get used to it.”

She went even further. On several occasions, when a man had come whilst having sex with her, she would tie the condom shut, hand it to me and say, “That’s for later at home; just pop it in my handbag.”
At home, she would cut those condoms open and squeeze the contents onto my closed mouth. I then had to keep my mouth open so that she could put the semen in, bit by bit, for me to swallow each time.
Again, by telling me to keep my promise.
Keeping that promise ended up going even further. She gave her regular black lover a blow job right in front of me, only to then shove his cock into my mouth. “Suck his cock for me to watch. Let see me how you can.” See attachment.

Once again, she said those words to make sure I kept my promise.

From that moment on, she didn’t need to use those words anymore. I knew so damn well that it turned her on immensely when I had a cock in my mouth. And I didn’t want to deprive her of that excitement. Besides, I actually thought she was right: IT WASN’T HER LIFESTYLE BUT OURS.
From that moment on, having cocks in my mouth became just as normal as any other kind of sex.

 

[slappin8silly57]

Yes, what’s even hotter, of course, is that my wife prepared me, step by step, to become her bi-husband. And she succeeded.

Before that, whenever I’d come in her mouth, she’d spit my cum out into a towel or a piece of paper.
That changed very quickly after our first visit to what became our beloved club.
Within half an hour of arriving at that club, my wife was being fucked in both her pussy and her mouth.
I’d seen the latter, mind you, but I hadn’t realised that the man had cum in her mouth. She told me that when I wrote down the events of that evening and let her read it.
Naturally, I asked her where she’d put that load. ‘I just swallowed it,’ she told me. Not a fantasy, but pure reality.

She began to enjoy having cocks in her mouth. What she wanted most was for this to result in a load in her mouth.
She loved then kissing me with her mouth full of another man’s cum. Of course, those men had to see that.
“You need to know what’s just happened,” was her reasoning.
“It’s not MY lifestyle but ours TOGETHER. Besides, you promised me you’d accept everything about me.”
I told her I hated the taste, but that “I’d just have to get used to it.”

She went even further. On several occasions, when a man had come whilst having sex with her, she would tie the condom shut, hand it to me and say, “That’s for later at home; just pop it in my handbag.”
At home, she would cut those condoms open and squeeze the contents onto my closed mouth. I then had to keep my mouth open so that she could put the semen in, bit by bit, for me to swallow each time.
Again, by telling me to keep my promise.
Keeping that promise ended up going even further. She gave her regular black lover a blow job right in front of me, only to then shove his cock into my mouth. “Suck his cock for me to watch. Let see me how you can.” See attachment.

Once again, she said those words to make sure I kept my promise.

From that moment on, she didn’t need to use those words anymore. I knew so damn well that it turned her on immensely when I had a cock in my mouth. And I didn’t want to deprive her of that excitement. Besides, I actually thought she was right: IT WASN’T HER LIFESTYLE BUT OURS.
From that moment on, having cocks in my mouth became just as normal as any other kind of sex.

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I am so envious.
You look great with that bbc

 

[Oldie]

I'm seeking advice on my bisexual husband. This may need to be moved to the bisexual forum, if so please move

For a few years my husband and I have often role-play situations such as him watching me fuck another guy, us sharing a guy or me watching him. We got close to all three scenarios but something would happen (family situation, car accident etc). For me personally the hottest scenario is me watching him with another guy. The thought of another man dominating my husband like he fantasies about gets me so wet

Lately my husband and I went through a rough spot sex wise. Lots of married couples can tell you it happens. Finally we are starting to get back to normal.

The other day I decided to kink it up and told him to pick any porn he wanted. He chose an interracial gay porn. It was hot and we dirty talked him getting it from a BBC while I watched and down the line participated. He came so hard and then I used my toy continuing to think about watching him getting pounded.

Later I told him " we are back on track, let's start looking for a guy for you and us babe" and then he told me something that hurt me.

He said he feels like less of a man and that he feels guilty for even thinking about the fantasy outside of the bedroom. He also thinks now that he's a few years older it's to late(he's not even mid thirties lol) to find someone. He thinks being submissive in the bedroom is bad .

This is an off and on thing with him. He struggles to accept that he's a bisexual submissive guy. I support him and tell him how life's short and we should look into it . He admits he wants to try men but feels to much shame.

Any thoughts? I told him he should look into a sex positive therapist but he says he doesn't know if he has time sigh.

I struggle with the same thing.

 

[jw_kk]

I'm seeking advice on my bisexual husband. This may need to be moved to the bisexual forum, if so please move

For a few years my husband and I have often role-play situations such as him watching me fuck another guy, us sharing a guy or me watching him. We got close to all three scenarios but something would happen (family situation, car accident etc). For me personally the hottest scenario is me watching him with another guy. The thought of another man dominating my husband like he fantasies about gets me so wet

Lately my husband and I went through a rough spot sex wise. Lots of married couples can tell you it happens. Finally we are starting to get back to normal.

The other day I decided to kink it up and told him to pick any porn he wanted. He chose an interracial gay porn. It was hot and we dirty talked him getting it from a BBC while I watched and down the line participated. He came so hard and then I used my toy continuing to think about watching him getting pounded.

Later I told him " we are back on track, let's start looking for a guy for you and us babe" and then he told me something that hurt me.

He said he feels like less of a man and that he feels guilty for even thinking about the fantasy outside of the bedroom. He also thinks now that he's a few years older it's to late(he's not even mid thirties lol) to find someone. He thinks being submissive in the bedroom is bad .

This is an off and on thing with him. He struggles to accept that he's a bisexual submissive guy. I support him and tell him how life's short and we should look into it . He admits he wants to try men but feels to much shame.

Any thoughts? I told him he should look into a sex positive therapist but he says he doesn't know if he has time sigh.

A couple of thoughts/questions:

Has your hubby had a bisexual encounter before? Or is this still just an unrealized fantasy?

I've had experience with several couples with a reluctant, bi-curious hubby, one with no actual experience. The guilt hurdle can be pretty high, along with other barrier issues, creating a big gap between the imagination, fantasy and reality.

You might try techniques in the form of role-play that include placing him in front of a mirror, while watching bisexual or gay porn, having him masturbate while you watch and guide him, until he begins to understand his own sexual response to other men, the idea of cock, and submitting to another man at the direction of his own wife. Several sessions of this might reduce his reluctance...

 

[owlmale]

Don’t give him the option. Set up the encounter where all three of you play. In the moment guide your husband onto the other guy’s cock. Tell him it’s time to step up as you guide his head down.
Your husband won’t resist. His lips will part and he will find himself giving his first blowiob. Make sure he swallows that first time

Have you experience the husband sucking your cock for his wife?