I thought several times of sharing it. Should I or shouldn't I? I feel the need to tell someone what I've been doing with my husband for more than 1 year. Yes, I'm trying to train him to be a cuckold!
Since I've been here, I've had many great, but also many strange conversations with others. My original goal was to find a solution so that my husband could last longer. Cheating on him was and is an absolute no-go for me. Sex is important for a healthy relationship. Through some discussions, I have learned that I have a right to satisfaction and that love has nothing to do with it. It was not an easy decision for me to make. Don't get me wrong! I love him so much, but now more in an emotional way. I don't want to hurt him, I want him to be happy. But that doesn't mean that I want to abstain from sexual satisfaction. There was and still is a process going on in me. That's why I searched for ways to get his approval to "play" with others. Especially at the beginning I struggled with myself: Is that right what I'm doing? Just then, a few days later, my husband gave me another reason to continue my research. Because he is very dominant and we are in a monogamous relationship, he would never agree if I asked him. So, I needed an approach to convince him slowly. I really want to avoid making him angry. This avoids unnecessary fights or repetitive discussions. He can be stubborn when he wants sex. Then he gets very often on my nerves. You guys would say, he's just horny. We've already had several discussions about it, but he keeps trying. Thinking in categories like C1, C2, C3 is stupid in my humble opinion. Cuckolding is for me, that I can control his arousal. I decide when we have sex. Humiliation in terms of cuckolding is not what I want! Someone gave me good advice to open my husband slowly and to test what he's willing to do and what not. I know that there is no specific approach to convincing someone. How-to guides that say "Follow these 10 steps exactly and within 7 days he'll be a sissy cuckold" are so stupid and wrong. Many paths can lead to the goal, and some work for one person and some for another. My personal approach was to invent a fictional man I've met and tell my husband about him. That way, I can test his reactions without cheating on him and get him used to the idea of someone flirting with me and so on.
About a year ago, the topic of having kids came up. We both agreed that we don't want a kid. So, I was able to get my husband fixed last spring. I've read in two well-written guides that this will help him on his journey to cuckolding. Of course, I expected other positive aspects out of it. What you have to know is that when he's horny enough, he's comfortable with a lot, at least he gets pleasure out of it. So, it was Win-Win for us both.
That's how I started:
In summer, my husband and I were lying in bed together, talking about our day. I told my husband that I was in a food store where I met a group of sanitarians. I told him that I was surprised that they must work 24 hours regularly and that they purchase food and will cook for the colleagues who are waiting in the station in case an emergency call comes in. My husband agreed that he knows that they must work 24 hours regularly and he finds it great that some cook for others. I told him that the name of one sanitary is D. and that he was a sympathetic and kind person.
I cuddled my husband and began to touch his body. I was kissing him. I think he was surprised because he didn't say anything anymore. The reaction to my touches and kisses didn't take long. We had sex and I rode him hard which made him to come quick. I didn't comment on that and cleaned myself. My husband asked surprised something like "What was that?" and I replied that I just was in the mood.
I repeated that a few days later with much more the same story. I saw another group of sanitarians at the food store. Some of them looked very nice. Then I fucked the brain out of my hubby again. He didn't say something about that. I guess he liked that. He got sex and everything was fine. Again, a few days later I told him that I saw the sanitarians. I mentioned that they must go shopping every day at the same time. I also added that I saw D. again and we said Hi to each other. When we began to have sex, my husband was a little bit reluctant and asked why I always told him about the sanitarians and then begin to have sex with him. I thought damn, he suspected something. The only option I had was to move forward, therefore I didn't really answer him. Just replied "it doesn't matter" and started fucking him. Before he came, he requested to slow down to last longer. I didn't care about it. I just told him that I loved him and continued at the same pace. It took only a couple of seconds and he groaned.
For some weeks I didn't mention the sanitarians. But in the meantime, I had sex with him regularly. My goal was that he doesn't try to last longer. I regularly told him that he shouldn't take care of me and should release into me when he feels that he is beginning to come. Well, I must say it worked. Faster than I expected. I also began to jerk him as foreplay a few times. Sometimes I was wondering myself what I was doing. I had days that I tried to get him horny as long as possible. Because he was so aroused, he needed only a few thrusts before he came. But he didn't complain (which was different before). He just enjoyed the feeling which is good and shows me that he accepted that he doesn't last long.
When my period started, I requested that he jerks off. He was sad because that means no sex for at least 1 week. But I encouraged him, that I like it when I see a guy jerking off. That made it easier for him. Almost daily I requested that and he agreed each time. As I mentioned, I learned that I need to get him excited enough to break down any walls of resistance. I began to join him when he showered. Jerk him with enough soap is effective to get him near the edge of pleasure but that does bring him over the edge. He requested sex then regularly, but I refused all the time. I wanted to make sure that he doesn't care about what others think. If he has the need to jerk off, then he should do it. The first few times, the said that it's strange for him to jerk off in front of me but it went better each time. In an earlier post I mentioned that I caught him masturbation during watching porn. I didn't talk with him about that. But I'm sure he made use of it more than before.
Some other stories where I got him excited are:
(1) Two months ago, we went to a 90s retro party in a party tent. There was an older couple (approx. 50 years old) who cuddled and kissed the whole time. They whispered into each other’s ears, smiled and kissed again. I noticed that my husband looked at them very often. At one time they walked outside, holding hands. I asked my husband what he thinks and that I assume they are going to have sex. He replied „Really?“. It felt like 10 minutes later they came back, holding hands. But they didn't continue cuddling and kissing. I placed one hand on my husband's leg and told him that I was right. Then I glided with my hand up and removed it. I felt that he was semi-hard, so he liked the thought what I told him. To avoid him annoying me, I whispered to him "later, at home". We came back at 3 am. I totally forgot what I whispered him, but he asked for sex before we go ....... I denied because I was tired but offered him that he can jerk off. He did without complaining and I had to smile. I think this is a good step we have taken so far.
(2) We regularly visit the wellness area of a swimming pool or go to a spa. There are often many couples there, and in the evening it’s quiet. We regularly see couples kissing passionately. I point this out to my husband and ask him where he thinks their hands are when they’re not visible. Meanwhile, his imagination is running wild. He watches the kissing couples for minutes, even when we are talking. It turns him on too, because he regularly suggests that we get romantic in the water as well. So far, I've managed to hold him off, and it's nice to see how he's constantly aroused and sometimes can't think straight because of it.
Of course, we still have sex! My husband can be really a jerk sometimes. So, I think it's good for him to lower his ego. He doesn't care about coming quickly anymore. I noticed that putting pressure on him to try to last longer results in the opposite. I started wearing an ankle and to make dirty talk to him while having sex. This helps me to give him the general idea of wife sharing bit by bit. I already mentioned to fuck me harder, increased that to fuck me like a real man, even I mentioned to release his sterile cum in me. Also to be my bull. I think he likes what I was saying because I notice that he tries to do his best. I must admit that it's also fun for me. It's really giving me a kind of pleasure to have control about how he acts.
I know that fantasy is not comparable to reality. Especially that we both are alone and everything is between us. So, two months ago I was trying to go deeper. I mentioned that I went to the food store. After buying all the stuff, I tried to drive home but the engine didn't start. I was shocked because this never happened before. It was cold and I didn't know what to do. My husband asked surprised why I didn't call him. I answered that I was right before doing that when I noticed the sanitarian D. with a colleague of his. So instead of calling him (my husband) I asked D. for help. I said that he was able to fix it. Because of the cold, the battery went low and he helped me start the engine again. I told my husband that I was so grateful that I had to hug him. I mentioned that D. has beautiful blue-gray eyes. Then I started making out with my husband. Mentioning that D. and the other sanitarians really save lives. On one side my husband didn't say something about that. But on the other side when I noticed that he was trying to say something I really made him silence him by kissing him or saying "shhh". After we had sex he didn't say a comment. The next days he also said nothing about that.
I know some of you may not like what I was doing. Some of you are celebrating. I was not even sure to post this, but I'm interested in your thoughts if I'm on track. Especially from other wives. My intention was not to write a guide or something in that direction. I've read this text several times and each time I felt the need to add something. That's why it got longer and longer. Looking at the threads, a lot of guys asking how to bring up the topic to their wives, I noticed questions from wives are rare. Hopefully my experience so far can give you good ideas to start (not more).
Since I've been here, I've had many great, but also many strange conversations with others. My original goal was to find a solution so that my husband could last longer. Cheating on him was and is an absolute no-go for me. Sex is important for a healthy relationship. Through some discussions, I have learned that I have a right to satisfaction and that love has nothing to do with it. It was not an easy decision for me to make. Don't get me wrong! I love him so much, but now more in an emotional way. I don't want to hurt him, I want him to be happy. But that doesn't mean that I want to abstain from sexual satisfaction. There was and still is a process going on in me. That's why I searched for ways to get his approval to "play" with others. Especially at the beginning I struggled with myself: Is that right what I'm doing? Just then, a few days later, my husband gave me another reason to continue my research. Because he is very dominant and we are in a monogamous relationship, he would never agree if I asked him. So, I needed an approach to convince him slowly. I really want to avoid making him angry. This avoids unnecessary fights or repetitive discussions. He can be stubborn when he wants sex. Then he gets very often on my nerves. You guys would say, he's just horny. We've already had several discussions about it, but he keeps trying. Thinking in categories like C1, C2, C3 is stupid in my humble opinion. Cuckolding is for me, that I can control his arousal. I decide when we have sex. Humiliation in terms of cuckolding is not what I want! Someone gave me good advice to open my husband slowly and to test what he's willing to do and what not. I know that there is no specific approach to convincing someone. How-to guides that say "Follow these 10 steps exactly and within 7 days he'll be a sissy cuckold" are so stupid and wrong. Many paths can lead to the goal, and some work for one person and some for another. My personal approach was to invent a fictional man I've met and tell my husband about him. That way, I can test his reactions without cheating on him and get him used to the idea of someone flirting with me and so on.
About a year ago, the topic of having kids came up. We both agreed that we don't want a kid. So, I was able to get my husband fixed last spring. I've read in two well-written guides that this will help him on his journey to cuckolding. Of course, I expected other positive aspects out of it. What you have to know is that when he's horny enough, he's comfortable with a lot, at least he gets pleasure out of it. So, it was Win-Win for us both.
That's how I started:
In summer, my husband and I were lying in bed together, talking about our day. I told my husband that I was in a food store where I met a group of sanitarians. I told him that I was surprised that they must work 24 hours regularly and that they purchase food and will cook for the colleagues who are waiting in the station in case an emergency call comes in. My husband agreed that he knows that they must work 24 hours regularly and he finds it great that some cook for others. I told him that the name of one sanitary is D. and that he was a sympathetic and kind person.
I cuddled my husband and began to touch his body. I was kissing him. I think he was surprised because he didn't say anything anymore. The reaction to my touches and kisses didn't take long. We had sex and I rode him hard which made him to come quick. I didn't comment on that and cleaned myself. My husband asked surprised something like "What was that?" and I replied that I just was in the mood.
I repeated that a few days later with much more the same story. I saw another group of sanitarians at the food store. Some of them looked very nice. Then I fucked the brain out of my hubby again. He didn't say something about that. I guess he liked that. He got sex and everything was fine. Again, a few days later I told him that I saw the sanitarians. I mentioned that they must go shopping every day at the same time. I also added that I saw D. again and we said Hi to each other. When we began to have sex, my husband was a little bit reluctant and asked why I always told him about the sanitarians and then begin to have sex with him. I thought damn, he suspected something. The only option I had was to move forward, therefore I didn't really answer him. Just replied "it doesn't matter" and started fucking him. Before he came, he requested to slow down to last longer. I didn't care about it. I just told him that I loved him and continued at the same pace. It took only a couple of seconds and he groaned.
For some weeks I didn't mention the sanitarians. But in the meantime, I had sex with him regularly. My goal was that he doesn't try to last longer. I regularly told him that he shouldn't take care of me and should release into me when he feels that he is beginning to come. Well, I must say it worked. Faster than I expected. I also began to jerk him as foreplay a few times. Sometimes I was wondering myself what I was doing. I had days that I tried to get him horny as long as possible. Because he was so aroused, he needed only a few thrusts before he came. But he didn't complain (which was different before). He just enjoyed the feeling which is good and shows me that he accepted that he doesn't last long.
When my period started, I requested that he jerks off. He was sad because that means no sex for at least 1 week. But I encouraged him, that I like it when I see a guy jerking off. That made it easier for him. Almost daily I requested that and he agreed each time. As I mentioned, I learned that I need to get him excited enough to break down any walls of resistance. I began to join him when he showered. Jerk him with enough soap is effective to get him near the edge of pleasure but that does bring him over the edge. He requested sex then regularly, but I refused all the time. I wanted to make sure that he doesn't care about what others think. If he has the need to jerk off, then he should do it. The first few times, the said that it's strange for him to jerk off in front of me but it went better each time. In an earlier post I mentioned that I caught him masturbation during watching porn. I didn't talk with him about that. But I'm sure he made use of it more than before.
Some other stories where I got him excited are:
(1) Two months ago, we went to a 90s retro party in a party tent. There was an older couple (approx. 50 years old) who cuddled and kissed the whole time. They whispered into each other’s ears, smiled and kissed again. I noticed that my husband looked at them very often. At one time they walked outside, holding hands. I asked my husband what he thinks and that I assume they are going to have sex. He replied „Really?“. It felt like 10 minutes later they came back, holding hands. But they didn't continue cuddling and kissing. I placed one hand on my husband's leg and told him that I was right. Then I glided with my hand up and removed it. I felt that he was semi-hard, so he liked the thought what I told him. To avoid him annoying me, I whispered to him "later, at home". We came back at 3 am. I totally forgot what I whispered him, but he asked for sex before we go ....... I denied because I was tired but offered him that he can jerk off. He did without complaining and I had to smile. I think this is a good step we have taken so far.
(2) We regularly visit the wellness area of a swimming pool or go to a spa. There are often many couples there, and in the evening it’s quiet. We regularly see couples kissing passionately. I point this out to my husband and ask him where he thinks their hands are when they’re not visible. Meanwhile, his imagination is running wild. He watches the kissing couples for minutes, even when we are talking. It turns him on too, because he regularly suggests that we get romantic in the water as well. So far, I've managed to hold him off, and it's nice to see how he's constantly aroused and sometimes can't think straight because of it.
Of course, we still have sex! My husband can be really a jerk sometimes. So, I think it's good for him to lower his ego. He doesn't care about coming quickly anymore. I noticed that putting pressure on him to try to last longer results in the opposite. I started wearing an ankle and to make dirty talk to him while having sex. This helps me to give him the general idea of wife sharing bit by bit. I already mentioned to fuck me harder, increased that to fuck me like a real man, even I mentioned to release his sterile cum in me. Also to be my bull. I think he likes what I was saying because I notice that he tries to do his best. I must admit that it's also fun for me. It's really giving me a kind of pleasure to have control about how he acts.
I know that fantasy is not comparable to reality. Especially that we both are alone and everything is between us. So, two months ago I was trying to go deeper. I mentioned that I went to the food store. After buying all the stuff, I tried to drive home but the engine didn't start. I was shocked because this never happened before. It was cold and I didn't know what to do. My husband asked surprised why I didn't call him. I answered that I was right before doing that when I noticed the sanitarian D. with a colleague of his. So instead of calling him (my husband) I asked D. for help. I said that he was able to fix it. Because of the cold, the battery went low and he helped me start the engine again. I told my husband that I was so grateful that I had to hug him. I mentioned that D. has beautiful blue-gray eyes. Then I started making out with my husband. Mentioning that D. and the other sanitarians really save lives. On one side my husband didn't say something about that. But on the other side when I noticed that he was trying to say something I really made him silence him by kissing him or saying "shhh". After we had sex he didn't say a comment. The next days he also said nothing about that.
I know some of you may not like what I was doing. Some of you are celebrating. I was not even sure to post this, but I'm interested in your thoughts if I'm on track. Especially from other wives. My intention was not to write a guide or something in that direction. I've read this text several times and each time I felt the need to add something. That's why it got longer and longer. Looking at the threads, a lot of guys asking how to bring up the topic to their wives, I noticed questions from wives are rare. Hopefully my experience so far can give you good ideas to start (not more).
