How to convince bi hubby to just go for it?

Peter82 said:
30’s too late? Ha, hopefully lots of life left in front of him!

From experience I’ll say it’s a tough subject to broach and work through. Therapy is a good start but it’s a big step for a guy relative to this or any other situation. I learned through our therapy I was “situationally sexually fluid” or experience “sexual fluidity”. That is my willingness or desire changes based on situation. According to our therapist it’s very common amongst men in alternative lifestyle marriages.

I would say it’s important for you to understand his desire or willingness may also be situational. We were also warned not to put a label on or perceive what myself or my wife’s activities are. Gay, bi, etc and so on makes it more difficult and judgmental. We discovered that inhibits us and is ostracizing due to internal shame or misconceptions (therapy babble but true). Perhaps your husband is the same?

I’ll finish with this. You and your husbands preferences may be very different for those situations. I would say take it slow, support him, and discover what works for both of you. My wife really gets off to me servicing a couple of the bisexual bulls shes had through our time. I enjoy it in the moment but it’s not something I would do outside of when they are fucking her. On the other hand, my preferred and anytime hook ups are with a couple fellow cuckolds with which we share a bond of our wives being fucked together or separately by their bulls. Like with other men I have no outward meaningful desire based on appearance or sexual drive. But the bond of being cuckolds and experiencing our wives and bulls playing together makes them very appealing. We exchange photos of our wives, watch videos of our wives with their bulls, etc. It’s great, meaningful, and at times passionate sex but it ends after that.

Hope that helps as it’s a lot.
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That helps a lot, thank you for the thoughtful post.

I'll share a positive update hopefully soon!
 
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I'm seeking advice on my bisexual husband. This may need to be moved to the bisexual forum, if so please move

For a few years my husband and I have often role-play situations such as him watching me fuck another guy, us sharing a guy or me watching him. We got close to all three scenarios but something would happen (family situation, car accident etc). For me personally the hottest scenario is me watching him with another guy. The thought of another man dominating my husband like he fantasies about gets me so wet

Lately my husband and I went through a rough spot sex wise. Lots of married couples can tell you it happens. Finally we are starting to get back to normal.

The other day I decided to kink it up and told him to pick any porn he wanted. He chose an interracial gay porn. It was hot and we dirty talked him getting it from a BBC while I watched and down the line participated. He came so hard and then I used my toy continuing to think about watching him getting pounded.

Later I told him " we are back on track, let's start looking for a guy for you and us babe" and then he told me something that hurt me.

He said he feels like less of a man and that he feels guilty for even thinking about the fantasy outside of the bedroom. He also thinks now that he's a few years older it's to late(he's not even mid thirties lol) to find someone. He thinks being submissive in the bedroom is bad .

This is an off and on thing with him. He struggles to accept that he's a bisexual submissive guy. I support him and tell him how life's short and we should look into it . He admits he wants to try men but feels to much shame.

Any thoughts? I told him he should look into a sex positive therapist but he says he doesn't know if he has time sigh.
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Keep him watching the porn and keep suggesting how hot it would be for him to try it. It was a long transition for us. If you want to how I finally got him to go for it message me.
 
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Do what he said .. tease him dangle your pussy over him and don't let him cum until he screams out I Wil suck dick fir you .. I will do anything you want...
Make him say it twice a day while watching cuckold suck8ng dick
After a few weeks .. he will be begging you to suck any dick you want and swallow cum... bf long he Will take dick un ass if you do same with dildo
 
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Peter82 said:
30’s too late? Ha, hopefully lots of life left in front of him!

From experience I’ll say it’s a tough subject to broach and work through. Therapy is a good start but it’s a big step for a guy relative to this or any other situation. I learned through our therapy I was “situationally sexually fluid” or experience “sexual fluidity”. That is my willingness or desire changes based on situation. According to our therapist it’s very common amongst men in alternative lifestyle marriages.

I would say it’s important for you to understand his desire or willingness may also be situational. We were also warned not to put a label on or perceive what myself or my wife’s activities are. Gay, bi, etc and so on makes it more difficult and judgmental. We discovered that inhibits us and is ostracizing due to internal shame or misconceptions (therapy babble but true). Perhaps your husband is the same?

I’ll finish with this. You and your husbands preferences may be very different for those situations. I would say take it slow, support him, and discover what works for both of you. My wife really gets off to me servicing a couple of the bisexual bulls shes had through our time. I enjoy it in the moment but it’s not something I would do outside of when they are fucking her. On the other hand, my preferred and anytime hook ups are with a couple fellow cuckolds with which we share a bond of our wives being fucked together or separately by their bulls. Like with other men I have no outward meaningful desire based on appearance or sexual drive. But the bond of being cuckolds and experiencing our wives and bulls playing together makes them very appealing. We exchange photos of our wives, watch videos of our wives with their bulls, etc. It’s great, meaningful, and at times passionate sex but it ends after that.

Hope that helps as it’s a lot.
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This is very simple , and it starts and ends with you.
You have to use your pussy to train him to do anything you want. You have to become more dominate in bed. And don't allow him to cum unless he does things you want. Tell him often how horny you get thinking about a BBC fucking you while he watches , and then you make him get under you and lick your clit .. when all of you are into it . Look at bbc and say it's time . Have him pull out of you and tell him baby I need you to make it wet open your mouth and bbc man sticks it in his mouth ..
You moan and make a big deal out of it. Starting sucking his dick while he gags on bbc . Then say put it back in me baby ..
Fuck and fuck tell him lick my clit baby . Then. Do it again . Make him suck it..
The 3rd time have bbc cum in his mouth . You jump off and start kissing him share the cum.
Keep saying how wet you got seeing him suck it.
Tell him baby it takes a REAL MAN TO DO THAT FOR HIS WIFE!!
YOU ARE MOST AWESOME MAN I COULD EVER WANT!!
THEN TELL HIM I LOVE YOU BEING A REAL MAN OUTTA BED.
BUT FROM NOW ON WHEN IT COMES TO SEX ,, YOU GONNA BE MY BITCH
YOU GONNA MAKE ME HAPPY BY SUBMITTING TO ME , SUCKING DICK FOR ME , EATING CUM FOR ME !!!
TELL HIM .. ADMIT YOU WERE SO TURNED ON. ADMIT IT.
YOU LOVED IT .. YOU LOVE BEING MY BITCH IN BED.
AND BABY I LOVE YOU IN CHARGE FOR EVERYTHING ELSE.
YOU THE MAN OF THE HOUSE
I AM THE FEMDOMME MISTRESS
IN BEDROOM
LOOK IN HIS EYES AND SAY I LOVE YOU
FOR BEING SO UNSELFISH. AND PLEASING ME IN WAYS ONLY A REAL MAN WOULD.
KEEP REENFORCING IT EVERY DAY ..
GET BBC OVER AGAIN ASAP .. NEXT DAY OR TWO..
PUSH HIS LIMITS FURTHER EVERY TIME..

IF YOU DID THAT TO ME ,, I AM NOT BI .
IF YOU DID THAT TO ME I WOULD BE BI IN BED WITH YOU ANYTIME
 
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Cuckbitch99 said:
I'm seeking advice on my bisexual husband. This may need to be moved to the bisexual forum, if so please move

For a few years my husband and I have often role-play situations such as him watching me fuck another guy, us sharing a guy or me watching him. We got close to all three scenarios but something would happen (family situation, car accident etc). For me personally the hottest scenario is me watching him with another guy. The thought of another man dominating my husband like he fantasies about gets me so wet

Lately my husband and I went through a rough spot sex wise. Lots of married couples can tell you it happens. Finally we are starting to get back to normal.

The other day I decided to kink it up and told him to pick any porn he wanted. He chose an interracial gay porn. It was hot and we dirty talked him getting it from a BBC while I watched and down the line participated. He came so hard and then I used my toy continuing to think about watching him getting pounded.

Later I told him " we are back on track, let's start looking for a guy for you and us babe" and then he told me something that hurt me.

He said he feels like less of a man and that he feels guilty for even thinking about the fantasy outside of the bedroom. He also thinks now that he's a few years older it's to late(he's not even mid thirties lol) to find someone. He thinks being submissive in the bedroom is bad .

This is an off and on thing with him. He struggles to accept that he's a bisexual submissive guy. I support him and tell him how life's short and we should look into it . He admits he wants to try men but feels to much shame.

Any thoughts? I told him he should look into a sex positive therapist but he says he doesn't know if he has time sigh.
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You sound like a wife many guys dream of having. The fact that you not only support his bisexuality, but encourage him to explore it along with him, is awesome.

Hopefully, he will overcome his shame and shyness. There is no need for him to feel that way. Being submissive and enjoying occasional sex with the same gender does not me he can't be a great husband to you.

He sounds a lot like me and you sound a lot like my wife. I am bisexual and my wife is very supportive.
 
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Cuckbitch99 said:
I'm seeking advice on my bisexual husband. This may need to be moved to the bisexual forum, if so please move

For a few years my husband and I have often role-play situations such as him watching me fuck another guy, us sharing a guy or me watching him. We got close to all three scenarios but something would happen (family situation, car accident etc). For me personally the hottest scenario is me watching him with another guy. The thought of another man dominating my husband like he fantasies about gets me so wet

Lately my husband and I went through a rough spot sex wise. Lots of married couples can tell you it happens. Finally we are starting to get back to normal.

The other day I decided to kink it up and told him to pick any porn he wanted. He chose an interracial gay porn. It was hot and we dirty talked him getting it from a BBC while I watched and down the line participated. He came so hard and then I used my toy continuing to think about watching him getting pounded.

Later I told him " we are back on track, let's start looking for a guy for you and us babe" and then he told me something that hurt me.

He said he feels like less of a man and that he feels guilty for even thinking about the fantasy outside of the bedroom. He also thinks now that he's a few years older it's to late(he's not even mid thirties lol) to find someone. He thinks being submissive in the bedroom is bad .

This is an off and on thing with him. He struggles to accept that he's a bisexual submissive guy. I support him and tell him how life's short and we should look into it . He admits he wants to try men but feels to much shame.

Any thoughts? I told him he should look into a sex positive therapist but he says he doesn't know if he has time sigh.
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Cuckbitch99 said:
I'm seeking advice on my bisexual husband. This may need to be moved to the bisexual forum, if so please move

For a few years my husband and I have often role-play situations such as him watching me fuck another guy, us sharing a guy or me watching him. We got close to all three scenarios but something would happen (family situation, car accident etc). For me personally the hottest scenario is me watching him with another guy. The thought of another man dominating my husband like he fantasies about gets me so wet

Lately my husband and I went through a rough spot sex wise. Lots of married couples can tell you it happens. Finally we are starting to get back to normal.

The other day I decided to kink it up and told him to pick any porn he wanted. He chose an interracial gay porn. It was hot and we dirty talked him getting it from a BBC while I watched and down the line participated. He came so hard and then I used my toy continuing to think about watching him getting pounded.

Later I told him " we are back on track, let's start looking for a guy for you and us babe" and then he told me something that hurt me.

He said he feels like less of a man and that he feels guilty for even thinking about the fantasy outside of the bedroom. He also thinks now that he's a few years older it's to late(he's not even mid thirties lol) to find someone. He thinks being submissive in the bedroom is bad .

This is an off and on thing with him. He struggles to accept that he's a bisexual submissive guy. I support him and tell him how life's short and we should look into it . He admits he wants to try men but feels to much shame.

Any thoughts? I told him he should look into a sex positive therapist but he says he doesn't know if he has time sigh.
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Our path was different. We met at college and became friends initially. She was upfront right away and told me she was bisexual. I had no problem with the lifestyl. I had previous experiences with MFF when I was in the AF and a civilian. I never thought about man. W became intimate later on. She introduced me to her female friends that were bisexual. Amherst Mass was a hotbed for the LGBT community. We enjoyed the threesomes with her friends many times. It to to the point where she wanted to have threesomes of another male, Our first time she had a good friend of hers join us, He was bisexual. She wanted to watch us orally satisfy one another, I was really appehensive and nervous. In my wildest dreams did I ever see myself in this position, Luckily he was very patient and understanding of my position. My GF said it is no different than her licking another woman. So I that was the.beginning of ou new path which we incorporated into our lifestyle. I never felt any less of a man. We were a team and our goal was to pleasure one another. I would just encourage and support his feelings. Find a man that is patient and respectful. Good luck.
 
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I think it's important to let him lead. You don't have to use the words bi or gay. When I first Introduced the lifestyle to my husband, I was very patient and took it at his pace. Eventually he really started getting on board looking up forums and looking into this life on his own. This was three years ago. I think what really helped him was at the end of the day, he knows I still love him no matter how dirty we get together.
 
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Cuckbitch99 said:
I'm seeking advice on my bisexual husband. This may need to be moved to the bisexual forum, if so please move

For a few years my husband and I have often role-play situations such as him watching me fuck another guy, us sharing a guy or me watching him. We got close to all three scenarios but something would happen (family situation, car accident etc). For me personally the hottest scenario is me watching him with another guy. The thought of another man dominating my husband like he fantasies about gets me so wet

Lately my husband and I went through a rough spot sex wise. Lots of married couples can tell you it happens. Finally we are starting to get back to normal.

The other day I decided to kink it up and told him to pick any porn he wanted. He chose an interracial gay porn. It was hot and we dirty talked him getting it from a BBC while I watched and down the line participated. He came so hard and then I used my toy continuing to think about watching him getting pounded.

Later I told him " we are back on track, let's start looking for a guy for you and us babe" and then he told me something that hurt me.

He said he feels like less of a man and that he feels guilty for even thinking about the fantasy outside of the bedroom. He also thinks now that he's a few years older it's to late(he's not even mid thirties lol) to find someone. He thinks being submissive in the bedroom is bad .

This is an off and on thing with him. He struggles to accept that he's a bisexual submissive guy. I support him and tell him how life's short and we should look into it . He admits he wants to try men but feels to much shame.

Any thoughts? I told him he should look into a sex positive therapist but he says he doesn't know if he has time sigh.
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Yes, I think most guys have been where he is, I know I have, however I got lucky and was seduced by a gay friend. It was one of the best things to ever happen to me. Anyway,my suggestion is to have him go to literotica and read some gay male stories then all of the comments at the end written by other readers. He'll see that there are a lot of cock suckers out there and really learn to be. OK with sucking dick. Let m know if he does and what happened. If he wants to chat tell him to contact me. Joe
 

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