How to get her chatted up?.

Goodhubby7

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Hi all.
Im a long time wanna be cuck, married to a very sexy and beautiful woman. I have posted several times but in a nutshell...
My wife is 43 im 41 been together over 20years. We used to have an adventurous and kinky sex life until we had kids. She totaly lost her sex drive 6years ago). She is naturally very dominant and has to be in control where as im naturally sub (a great fit). We havent had for about 2 years now.
Last year i had strong suspicions she was cheati g on me or very close to it but didnt find proof and so never said anything. But since then have been dropping hints or trying to plant seeds about cuckolding and hotwife things etc.
This isnt something i can just ask her straight out as it needs to be her idea and choice (remember she dom and needs to be in charge). So i keep trying to guage her reactions and see if theres any interest but she is very guarded and intelligent.
I know she gets chatted up but she either dosent tell me of really plays it down. My big question is has anyone got another guy to teat the water? Chat or flirt with his wife to see how receptive she is. A man who knows what he is doing can chat and flirt with a married woman and gauage if this woman is open to play or not. Im looking for ways another guy can chat with my wife, in real life or online etc and let me know if she is interested or not.
This is not to catch her out etc only to test the water and see if i should either back off or make it more obvious i would be happy for her to have fun.
Please let me know if youve tried something similar or have ideas which may help.
 

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Sgt Ray

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Thats a tall, VERY worrisome idea.
1-Wife catches on, ur toast
2-wife catches on and fucks the guy just cause
3- wife falls for the guy
4-guy falls for wife
5-guy tells ur wife its a set-up
Etc, etc, etc.

Gotta mention it & forget it for weeks. Mention is lightly again. Be willing to wait until she says something about it.
You CAN'T push this or it will never happen!
 
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Goodhubby7

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Thats a tall, VERY worrisome idea.
1-Wife catches on, ur toast
2-wife catches on and fucks the guy just cause
3- wife falls for the guy
4-guy falls for wife
5-guy tells ur wife its a set-up
Etc, etc, etc.

Gotta mention it & forget it for weeks. Mention is lightly again. Be willing to wait until she says something about it.
You CAN'T push this or it will never happen!
That would always be my worry, the guy for whatever reason tells her.
I mention something subtle here and there and back off. Sometimes a few days sometimes a week or 2. So far she has never responded to things ive said, either just ignores them or changes the subject. First impression is she has no interest. But as i think about it afterwards i also see theres never been a straight forward no or a denial etc. In the same way she never mentions it or questions me as to why ive said something etc. She just ignores it or almost as if she disnt hear it or notice. So i cant take anything as a yes or maybe or encouragment but i cant take it as a no or refusal either.
I also still havent mentioned all the things that suggest she may have cheated or the fact she smokes behind my back and hides it (hides it very well for that matter).
 
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jwf114

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Just want to wish you good luck!

Im in a similar situation. I have a fantasy about it and would like to pursue it. The subject is basically unapproachable with my wife. I have made subtle hints with no real response. Was i too subtle or is she just not interested? Ill never know for sure. We have been together for years, so i know her well and can comfortably say she is not interested.
 

Sgt Ray

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Its just not for some women. Is she insecure?
Have you told her you have, even joy it, if she dates other men?
Gotta take her out for some drinks. Loosen her up, ask her to share her thoughts about it.

Or, give it the fuck up...
 
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jwf114

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Its just not for some women. Is she insecure?
Have you told her you have, even joy it, if she dates other men?
Gotta take her out for some drinks. Loosen her up, ask her to share her thoughts about it.

Or, give it the fuck up...
Is this directed toward me?

If so, i do not think its for her and yes she is insecure. I have basically "given it the fuck up".

I was just wishing the guy good luck and letting him know he isnt alone in his situation.

If not directed towars me, disregard this. I do not want to highjack his thread.
 
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Sgt Ray

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Is this directed toward me?

If so, i do not think its for her and yes she is insecure. I have basically "given it the fuck up".

I was just wishing the guy good luck and letting him know he isnt alone in his situation.

If not directed towars me, disregard this. I do not want to highjack his thread.
Its altogether obvious its directed toward him...
 
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Curious136

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I feel for you somewhat in the same boat. My wife has known for years the thought of seeing her with someone revs my motor. Kids had a negative effect but they are almost out of the house so I’ve been planting seeds more or watering them might be a better analogy. I’ve discovered she likes to be submissive to me. This was by accident when she lost a bet and had to be my slave on night.

Anyway she plays along fantasy wise. What she would do to please her master(me) or her master making a bet and her having to pay up. I don’t know if she will ever go through with it but the fantasy play is fun and she is probably more amenable because of it. I was the one who 99% of the time had to instigate sex. I would try to be creative and make it interesting, I was also very honest with her about what kind of things got me excited.
 

TD12

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I think Stg Ray is 100% correct, you can't go and try to trick the wife into a lets see situation. With a reluctant wife it will take some time and you have to take advantage of events that happen organically to discuss hotwife or cuckold (plant the seed for discussions) life style. I would let the discussion happen when events/situations calls for it.

A real example of an event or situation that I used to enhance the hotwife seed I planted with my wife was when we went away for the weekend. We wanted to get away for the weekend stayed a very nice hotel in a city about 3 hours away. On that Saturday night we went out for a light meal and a night on the town. We ended-up at at a nice roof top bar that had a band and the place was packed. At the roof top bar we found little table to place our drinks and sit, but the drink servers were extremely busy so I left my wife at the table and headed to the bar to get our drinks.

As I stated the bar was packed and it took me a while to get our drinks. However, when I get back to our table with our drinks there were two young guys (probably late 20's early 30's) talking to my wife (the wife was really looking hot.) My wife introduced me to the guys and we spent part of the night talking and drinking with them. I did notice that they were flirting and checking-out my wife's body during our time with them and she was somewhat flirting back.

After a few hours they moved on and we said our goodbyes. We headed back to our hotel and when we got back we started to kissing. I saw this as a great opportunity to casually bring up the fact that these two guys were flirting with her while we began our before fucking making-out session. I said to her something like you know those two guys were really flirting with you and they probably wanted to make love/fuck you either one at a time or together, her response was something like "do you really thinks so." Our kissing started to get more intense and she reached down and started feeling my cock and said your so hard, did those two guys flirting with me get you this excited, I said yes. We ended-up fucking and she had a very intense orgasm. It is these type of moments you need to take advantages of to keep the discussion going forward, hope this helps.
 

ray28

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Hi all.
Im a long time wanna be cuck, married to a very sexy and beautiful woman. I have posted several times but in a nutshell...
My wife is 43 im 41 been together over 20years. We used to have an adventurous and kinky sex life until we had kids. She totaly lost her sex drive 6years ago). She is naturally very dominant and has to be in control where as im naturally sub (a great fit). We havent had for about 2 years now.
Last year i had strong suspicions she was cheati g on me or very close to it but didnt find proof and so never said anything. But since then have been dropping hints or trying to plant seeds about cuckolding and hotwife things etc.
This isnt something i can just ask her straight out as it needs to be her idea and choice (remember she dom and needs to be in charge). So i keep trying to guage her reactions and see if theres any interest but she is very guarded and intelligent.
I know she gets chatted up but she either dosent tell me of really plays it down. My big question is has anyone got another guy to teat the water? Chat or flirt with his wife to see how receptive she is. A man who knows what he is doing can chat and flirt with a married woman and gauage if this woman is open to play or not. Im looking for ways another guy can chat with my wife, in real life or online etc and let me know if she is interested or not.
This is not to catch her out etc only to test the water and see if i should either back off or make it more obvious i would be happy for her to have fun.
Please let me know if youve tried something similar or have ideas which may help.
Love to play with a cuck couple
 
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Sgt Ray

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Bring in another guy to "chat her up" and perhaps more, at your own peril.
She finds out (and he would tell her to get in her pants), and you're fucking toast.
Picture this: you get a guy, tell him what you want, he sees the vulnerability, tells her you sent him. She revenge fucks him and loses all respect for you.
You better know this guy, REALLY well. A typical guy would look to take advantage of the situation.
 

cuckboat

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Bring in another guy to "chat her up" and perhaps more, at your own peril.
She finds out (and he would tell her to get in her pants), and you're fucking toast.
Picture this: you get a guy, tell him what you want, he sees the vulnerability, tells her you sent him. She revenge fucks him and loses all respect for you.
You better know this guy, REALLY well. A typical guy would look to take advantage of the situation.
Another angle that might play out if you do not know the guy real good. He might fuck her and film it. Play you that it is taken time while hes already hitting it and collecting some good footage to show his buddies or maybe blackmail you with... Might even see it online. Yep better know the guy real good.
 

Jon Day

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Hi all.
Im a long time wanna be cuck, married to a very sexy and beautiful woman. I have posted several times but in a nutshell...
My wife is 43 im 41 been together over 20years. We used to have an adventurous and kinky sex life until we had kids. She totaly lost her sex drive 6years ago). She is naturally very dominant and has to be in control where as im naturally sub (a great fit). We havent had for about 2 years now.
Last year i had strong suspicions she was cheati g on me or very close to it but didnt find proof and so never said anything. But since then have been dropping hints or trying to plant seeds about cuckolding and hotwife things etc.
This isnt something i can just ask her straight out as it needs to be her idea and choice (remember she dom and needs to be in charge). So i keep trying to guage her reactions and see if theres any interest but she is very guarded and intelligent.
I know she gets chatted up but she either dosent tell me of really plays it down. My big question is has anyone got another guy to teat the water? Chat or flirt with his wife to see how receptive she is. A man who knows what he is doing can chat and flirt with a married woman and gauage if this woman is open to play or not. Im looking for ways another guy can chat with my wife, in real life or online etc and let me know if she is interested or not.
This is not to catch her out etc only to test the water and see if i should either back off or make it more obvious i would be happy for her to have fun.
Please let me know if youve tried something similar or have ideas which may help.
Yes, I'm in the same boat. Pretty sexless at the moment and I get my pleasure wanking off and also with other guys. A guy I got friends with through social media I discovered worked with my wife. I got him to try chatting her up but she rejected him completely. He wasn't very good at it to be quite honest. A work colleague of mine wants to fuck her and she did actually send a porno type video to him but that's as much as we did.
You need someone really good at chat to get her going.
 

Goodhubby7

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Yes, I'm in the same boat. Pretty sexless at the moment and I get my pleasure wanking off and also with other guys. A guy I got friends with through social media I discovered worked with my wife. I got him to try chatting her up but she rejected him completely. He wasn't very good at it to be quite honest. A work colleague of mine wants to fuck her and she did actually send a porno type video to him but that's as much as we did.
You need someone really good at chat to get her going.
I would love that. If i knew and could trust someone to try and chat her up and flirt with her. Just to guage her response. That would at least give me an indication if she might be willing.
 
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wormwood

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I've tried your approach multiple times. . Finding a guy to do this is relatively easy but finding someone to follow through is the hard part. Most men will travel great distances to fuck a woman, especially one as attractive as yours, but most won't go through with it unless there's a promise of sex.
I've had four guys lined up to approach her at a specified place and time. I presented it as a way for them to get in on the ground floor. so to speak. All of them knew that she was possibly reluctant and the best they could hope for was to get her digits. All of them understood that I had given her the green light to pursue anything she wanted to do. All of them bailed or ghosted at the last minute..
Good luck to you.