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[Dopey&Snow]

Hi all! I have a few questions as I'm very new to all this. Hopefully you guys can help me.
I (F33) have been with my husband since I was 15 and he was 16. Ive only ever had one other partner before him and experienced very little there. My husband and I had children at a young age, and that stunted our sexuality as we never had privacy. I also have never been able to effectively masturbate. I've tired, but just cant get in the mindset. How do I get more comfortable with my own sexuality? A few things about myself; I am very inexperienced sexually with a lot of things, I'm kind of awkward with people but I love to flirt. I'm not comfortable in my own body but would love to learn how. I enjoying being a tease and my husband enjoys me flirting with other guys. We talked to a couple of guys online and sexted a bit. But they were a bit aggressive right away. I'm pretty awkward in a lot of scenarios so I would love know how to get more brave.

 

[waynejeffries]

Hi all! I have a few questions as I'm very new to all this. Hopefully you guys can help me.
I (F33) have been with my husband since I was 15 and he was 16. Ive only ever had one other partner before him and experienced very little there. My husband and I had children at a young age, and that stunted our sexuality as we never had privacy. I also have never been able to effectively masturbate. I've tired, but just cant get in the mindset. How do I get more comfortable with my own sexuality? A few things about myself; I am very inexperienced sexually with a lot of things, I'm kind of awkward with people but I love to flirt. I'm not comfortable in my own body but would love to learn how. I enjoying being a tease and my husband enjoys me flirting with other guys. We talked to a couple of guys online and sexted a bit. But they were a bit aggressive right away. I'm pretty awkward in a lot of scenarios so I would love know how to get more brave.

Good questions and very valid questions. Part of discovering how to become comfortable with your own sexuality is to be honest with yourself first as far as what you want. Awkward is fine and works for some people. Also, some find it endearing. The fact that you like to flirt and be a tease are two things upon which you can build upon. And you have stated that you have talked to some guys online and sexted a bit, but they were aggressive. That is something that could be daunting and you do need to find someone with a slower hand. Also, you could begin to take an inventory of what turns you on by exploring some porn, reading some erotic literature, and chatting with others in a less intense dialogue.
As far as the comfort in one's body, we are all sexual and sensual beings and your body is the right one for someone other than your husband. There are many who will find you attractive, but you have to embrace your inner sexuality. And by the way, most of us are not comfortable in our own bodies, but we overcome it by accenting our positives and finding what makes us tick. I will most certainly speak directly with you if you so choose, but no pressure. I hope you find your answers to some of these questions as there are many good people on her, but there are also some who may disappoint.

 

[GabrielBigHard]

Hi all! I have a few questions as I'm very new to all this. Hopefully you guys can help me.
I (F33) have been with my husband since I was 15 and he was 16. Ive only ever had one other partner before him and experienced very little there. My husband and I had children at a young age, and that stunted our sexuality as we never had privacy. I also have never been able to effectively masturbate. I've tired, but just cant get in the mindset. How do I get more comfortable with my own sexuality? A few things about myself; I am very inexperienced sexually with a lot of things, I'm kind of awkward with people but I love to flirt. I'm not comfortable in my own body but would love to learn how. I enjoying being a tease and my husband enjoys me flirting with other guys. We talked to a couple of guys online and sexted a bit. But they were a bit aggressive right away. I'm pretty awkward in a lot of scenarios so I would love know how to get more brave.

Another inexperienced wife?

 

[Dopey&Snow]

Another inexperienced wife?

Yes, very inexperienced. Is your wife shared? Or a bull?

 

[GabrielBigHard]

Yes, very inexperienced. Is your wife shared? Or a bull?

Hmmm...🤔

 

[New2devon]

Being comfortable and confident in your self is very different to cuckolding, yes one can lead to the other.
To start with you need to understand each other and set ground rules so you both know how to react when thing happen quickly.
Start with yourself... do you like how you look, do you dress for attention? Perhaps start slowly adding different clothes, shorter skirts or clothing that can drape open a little to catch attention.
This could then help you imagine how they want you or what you imagine they would do with you when you masturbate . Sometimes using an object, vibratory or dildo helps as it removes the sensation away from your fingers and you only feel a cock.
You could also try wearing a blindfold next time you play with your husband, removing the sense of sight allows you to imagine it could be someone else...

Above all else relax and enjoy as that is the key to opening the door to possibilities.

 

[SmallHubbyTexas]

When my wife started, she had been meeting a single man and playing Pokémon Go with him. Once she knew of my fantasy, she started looking at him in a different way. After she decided she wanted it to be him, she went to as usually for a playing sessions, but she was dressed up. He asked her why and she told me of the fantasy and he agreed and they went back to his place and they made me a cuckold. I was working at the time and it was my birthday. They are still together, almost 5 years. He is one of my best friends now.

I would say find someone you are comfortable with and is willing.

 

[jw_kk]

One approach to gaining self-confidence involves mental conditioning aided by masturbation. If you have access to a mirror, that will help. Take a hot shower or bath to relax, remain nude after drying off, and masturbate in front of the mirror - watch your reflection as you do this. You can add toys like dildos, vibrators, and butt-plugs as you gain comfort with the process of self-pleasure. Watching yourself, over time will lead to more, like having someone else watch.

 

[Rob12550]

Is "Dopey" the husband? If so, then we're speaking to "Snow". If your photo is actually "you", then you are quite young and have plenty of time to experiment.

For starters, the first person you need to deal with is "you". So learn to masturbate. Period. Do it in private so you don't need to be concerned with distractions or anyone else's "input" or interference. When you find what gets you going, then show your husband. He probably will both enjoy it and learn from it. If you want to bring someone else into your sexual "sphere", you'll then be able to advise them on what turns you on. It ALL starts with YOU. (Same for your husband. He should share with you what turns him on and how.)

That your husband enjoys your flirtatious nature is GREAT! You're sharing something about YOUR sexuality. And kudos to him! So you know something that turns him on. Even if you don't move forward to having someone in your mutual bedroom, this is something you both can play with during your playtime. So a "hot night" could be one at the "club" where you flirt with some guy(s) and then take that heat back to your private bedroom to enhance your evening activities.

Keep in mind that you need to also need to be mindful of your husband's sexual needs, so keep communications open with him on how he's doing along the way.

Sex is simple and complex. There are many resources nowadays to explore it. The tomes from Dr. Ruth Westheimer and Alex Comfort along with Masters and Johnson, though "old" might be good starting points if not just searching the Internet for topics that tickle your fancy. And there isn't a shortage of videos on practically all the topics you want to explore. Check them out.

But before you go toward bringing someone else into your sexual activities, make sure the two of you are very sure of the direction and you have a very strong primary relationship. Once you have that established, you'll probably find that you'll be much "braver" about exploring more.

If you think that some of the guys you've contacted so far have been too "aggressive", then you may want to contour your initial communications to convey that you're "just starting out and are somewhat shy, so please bear with me" to future ones. State that you become uncomfortable with "aggressive" types. But keep in mind that somewhere along the way if you move forward that you'll need to also be aggressive back and accept their invite. But your husband should be there to back you up which should tamper your anxiety about moving forward. He should be your protector so that someone else doesn't behave in a way that you don't want them to.

And don't forget to take care of the kids! LOL

Good luck and enjoy!

 

[GabrielBigHard]

Yes, very inexperienced. Is your wife shared? Or a bull?

And you are fake!

 

[Dopey&Snow]

And you are fake!

I can assure you sir, I am not fake 😘

 

[Dopey&Snow]

Is "Dopey" the husband? If so, then we're speaking to "Snow". If your photo is actually "you", then you are quite young and have plenty of time to experiment.

For starters, the first person you need to deal with is "you". So learn to masturbate. Period. Do it in private so you don't need to be concerned with distractions or anyone else's "input" or interference. When you find what gets you going, then show your husband. He probably will both enjoy it and learn from it. If you want to bring someone else into your sexual "sphere", you'll then be able to advise them on what turns you on. It ALL starts with YOU. (Same for your husband. He should share with you what turns him on and how.)

That your husband enjoys your flirtatious nature is GREAT! You're sharing something about YOUR sexuality. And kudos to him! So you know something that turns him on. Even if you don't move forward to having someone in your mutual bedroom, this is something you both can play with during your playtime. So a "hot night" could be one at the "club" where you flirt with some guy(s) and then take that heat back to your private bedroom to enhance your evening activities.

Keep in mind that you need to also need to be mindful of your husband's sexual needs, so keep communications open with him on how he's doing along the way.

Sex is simple and complex. There are many resources nowadays to explore it. The tomes from Dr. Ruth Westheimer and Alex Comfort along with Masters and Johnson, though "old" might be good starting points if not just searching the Internet for topics that tickle your fancy. And there isn't a shortage of videos on practically all the topics you want to explore. Check them out.

But before you go toward bringing someone else into your sexual activities, make sure the two of you are very sure of the direction and you have a very strong primary relationship. Once you have that established, you'll probably find that you'll be much "braver" about exploring more.

If you think that some of the guys you've contacted so far have been too "aggressive", then you may want to contour your initial communications to convey that you're "just starting out and are somewhat shy, so please bear with me" to future ones. State that you become uncomfortable with "aggressive" types. But keep in mind that somewhere along the way if you move forward that you'll need to also be aggressive back and accept their invite. But your husband should be there to back you up which should tamper your anxiety about moving forward. He should be your protector so that someone else doesn't behave in a way that you don't want them to.

And don't forget to take care of the kids! LOL

Good luck and enjoy!

Thank you honestly that is extremely good advice and I appreciate it so much 😊 most of the men we have contacted have been a bit aggressive at the start and no real conversation. Thank you so much 💓 I can have an aggressive side to things I really enjoy so this was amazing advise and I truly appreciate it ❤

 

[Dopey&Snow]

When my wife started, she had been meeting a single man and playing Pokémon Go with him. Once she knew of my fantasy, she started looking at him in a different way. After she decided she wanted it to be him, she went to as usually for a playing sessions, but she was dressed up. He asked her why and she told me of the fantasy and he agreed and they went back to his place and they made me a cuckold. I was working at the time and it was my birthday. They are still together, almost 5 years. He is one of my best friends now.

I would say find someone you are comfortable with and is willing.

Thank you 😊 honestly friendship would be the place where I would want to start too 😊 create a connection through interests or talking then progress more if there is a sexual attraction 🥰 id love to have a friend that can also do friend stuff with me and the hubby, I would like to share these experiences with my husband so im not into men that demean my partner since there isn't anything wrong with our sex life we just want to add to the pleasure 😊

 

[SmallHubbyTexas]

Thank you 😊 honestly friendship would be the place where I would want to start too 😊 create a connection through interests or talking then progress more if there is a sexual attraction 🥰 id love to have a friend that can also do friend stuff with me and the hubby, I would like to share these experiences with my husband so im not into men that demean my partner since there isn't anything wrong with our sex life we just want to add to the pleasure 😊

So early on in this journey, my wife was adding boyfriends, she currently has 3. So after a session where her 1st boyfriend and another man had been with my wife, I was walking them out afterwards. The one man made some very rude comments to me, basically things a friend wouldn’t say. After they left, the original boyfriend came back and told my wife what the other man had said. My wife wasn’t happy and the other man never came back.

As for the friendship, it does not surprise me. My wife needs a connection to be with a man. It is not surprising to me that she is picking men with similar attitudes I have, so of course we get along.

 

[Master logan]

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