It's far from over. My wife refused the suggestion of her being shared for 30 years, and said the very same thing as your wife. Yet I was able to convince my mature classy looking church going wife to be fully shared 2 weeks ago, and the experience has changed both our lives in a positive fashion. I just never gave up trying to convince her, but never got pushy with the idea. I started off taking baby steps, and finally convinced her to get dressed sexy, wearing nylon stockings, garterbelt, and matching bra and panties under her skirt, blouse, and jacket., and explained to her that we were to meet a mature guy who would just watch her and I make love, while he pleasured himself. Long story short, once we all met and had a few drinks at a piamo bar, we went a hotel down the street to get things going. It was a little awkward at first, but I went slow, and just started to fondle her with her clothes on, getting my hand under her skirt and in her blouse as we talked. I then just brought her over to the bed, lifted her skirt up, and pulled her panties down and proceeded to got her hot via oral and finger stimulation while he pulled his cock out and and proceeded to play with himself in the corner chair, getting a stiff erection quickly. At some point I motioned for him to get closer to us on the bed. I then pulled out a blindfold from my back pocket, and asked her to put it on. She.put it on, a bit nervous & reluctant, but I told her to trust me, and then I proceeded to concentrate on working on her clit. He and I were on each side of her, and I got her to grab my penis, and she automatically started rubbing it and slowly masturbating me. I motioned for him to take her hand and place it on his penis. She mildly tugged her hand away, but he grabbed her hand again, and brought it to his enormous cock. She fumbled with it at first, but then he bent over towards her pussy, and as he and I spread her plump thighs apart, he started licking and nibbling her clit and very wet pussy. I bent down in the opposite direction, and started to suck her breasts. I then noticed her hips were starting to girate, heaving forward to his magical tongue and her heavy breathing turned into moans of pleasure. I started French kissing her, and her tongue was going wild in my mouth, and then I heard her moan out loud, 'I'm cumming' as her body shook, and she crossed her legs tight (which she has always done when having a very strong orgasm) but almost breaking the poor guys neck, trapped between her thighs. We proceeded to make her have several orgasms, and it ended with me fucking her, and him getting jerked off to orgasm by her. So he never got to fuck her, because again I didn't want to push her too hard. She actually eventually admitted she enjoyed the experience more than she thought she would have, and I think it was because I respected her boundaries (somewhat).
I ended up getting him to come to our home, a few months later, and having full penetrating sex with my wife, and she enjoyed the experience, even though she's still a bit uncomfortable discussing the event. What would the church congregation say if they ever found out she wonders ? lol
So be persistent but not pushy, and respect her boundaries. Take tiny baby steps, compliment her, let her know other men still find her desirable. Get her to dress sexy (not like a slut) but classy sexy, and take her out. Try to get her to accidentally flaunt her goods, maybe show a little stocking top or garterbelt when out in a bar etc. It will build her confidence, and make her felt desirable again. The trick is to go slow, plant the seed, and watch her additude slowly change. If you take your time, and play your cards right, will be compensated by seeing some lucky guy feast and penetrate your wife to completion, and making her realize she loves being a hit wife. You have to fuck her the moment he cums in her and pulls out of her, in order to reclaim her. That's of the utmost importance, so don't lose your load before that. Good luck, and keep us posted.👍