I've been trying a variety of ways to get my wife more open to different fantasies/experiences, especially using role playing and toys, but I've not made any progress with any of those. She won't use toys, her role playing is kinda ridged, porn is out of the question. So, I wasn't sure how I could make progress....
However, I finally had an idea that should have been obvious. She works, and her job has had her working odd hours in the past. So, naturally I looked out for any red flags that she might be cheating. The idea of her cheating though, I of course found kinda hot. I never told her about any of that though since she felt guilty enough about working long hours.
Now that she isn't working the long hours, I figured I could tell her the truth about how all that made me feel. Of course, she reacted negatively to it, and she jumped to swinging and cuckolding, so of course I had to clarify 1. It's just a fantasy, and 2. I only ever want to be with her, but 3. I like the idea of her going out and having fun, find what she likes, not her doing something for/with me.
We still had sex, so she wasn't TOO mad.
To be clear, I'm being 100% honest with all this. Things change, but right now, all this is 100% above board.
The important thing here is that now we can talk about fantasies related to this one now that it's out in the open, and I can justify anything I find hot or prefer going forward. Also, it should allow her to reconsider telling me about any related fantasies without worrying about offending me.
We'll see how things go from here.
Key Takeaway: If you're struggling with the courage to tell your S.O. about your fantasy, maybe it's easier to tell them that you have watched out for signs that they might be cheating, but you, admittedly strangely, found yourself turned on by the thought of them having an affair.
However, I finally had an idea that should have been obvious. She works, and her job has had her working odd hours in the past. So, naturally I looked out for any red flags that she might be cheating. The idea of her cheating though, I of course found kinda hot. I never told her about any of that though since she felt guilty enough about working long hours.
Now that she isn't working the long hours, I figured I could tell her the truth about how all that made me feel. Of course, she reacted negatively to it, and she jumped to swinging and cuckolding, so of course I had to clarify 1. It's just a fantasy, and 2. I only ever want to be with her, but 3. I like the idea of her going out and having fun, find what she likes, not her doing something for/with me.
We still had sex, so she wasn't TOO mad.
To be clear, I'm being 100% honest with all this. Things change, but right now, all this is 100% above board.
The important thing here is that now we can talk about fantasies related to this one now that it's out in the open, and I can justify anything I find hot or prefer going forward. Also, it should allow her to reconsider telling me about any related fantasies without worrying about offending me.
We'll see how things go from here.
Key Takeaway: If you're struggling with the courage to tell your S.O. about your fantasy, maybe it's easier to tell them that you have watched out for signs that they might be cheating, but you, admittedly strangely, found yourself turned on by the thought of them having an affair.
