Making a Hotwife!
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Life has gotten very busy and fun times have pretty much stopped completely. My wife hasn’t played with anyone other than me since early November and has only met her regular fuck buddy twice since the end of September. I think he and I are both equally frustrated with the lack of action. Though, my wife and I generally find time to fuck about once a week.
I have tried to find the “on” button for my wife as I certainly miss her kinky side. She has been very busy with work and normal life. I suppose one good change is that she has lost over 25 lbs over the past few months and is definitely looking fantastic. Whenever the time comes where she wants more attention, there will be a long line of men interested in enjoying her company. She is in the best shape of the past five years.
I hope everyone is having a great new year.
I have tried to find the “on” button for my wife as I certainly miss her kinky side. She has been very busy with work and normal life. I suppose one good change is that she has lost over 25 lbs over the past few months and is definitely looking fantastic. Whenever the time comes where she wants more attention, there will be a long line of men interested in enjoying her company. She is in the best shape of the past five years.
I hope everyone is having a great new year.
You have two things going on my friend, I believe it would be a good time to check on age-appropriate hormone replacement therapy or HRT, is that is the number one indicator of an issue, that's very real in today's world. It can be easily rectified with slight hormone assistance... it's very real situation we've been through it.
Additionally, please do not let her appearance improvement, i.e. weight loss go unnoticed, she needs appropriate positive affirmation for that from you, regardless of any extra curricular activities. I wish you the best and please look upon this as constructive criticism and suggestion our best wishes. wishing you both great sex always.👍💕
Patience is probably the best choice. That is by no means the easy choice though because it doesn't really address any frustration you have. I'd guess that a "pause" or "stepping away" is preferable to continuing to play but behind your back or being excluded intentionally.
I would agree with you regarding the cumulative effect of her getting in better shape and how that affects her overall confidence and self image. You'd think one day she'd look at herself in the mirror and say, "Lookin' good girl!" That should remind her of her playing days and possible desires to go again. Then again, it may not be anything other than just a healthy focus.
It makes me think. If she's confident about herself being attractive, then maybe her choice to slow things to a crawl is more about the lifestyle and whether she really wants it. There's a chance that she may see it as a predictable dead end. She may even not like the way she sees herself and upset with herself that she became comfortable with it. Or, I could be way the fuck off, just thinking of the possibilities.
One thing is absolutely certain, she knows what you like and she knows she's not doing that so much. She knows your kink and what gets you going. She has to know that she's not doing that. It has to be something that she thinks about. Has she initiated any conversation on the topic? If it was me I'd wait until she did and not bring it up. She may be anticipating that.
I guess a big question is if she calls it good and wants to put in the past, would you be cool with that? In a lot of ways you've had more fun and experience than most already. If by chance there are still things that you yourself want to experience, is there any way you could tell her without it coming across as a complaint or dissatisfaction?
I can see how "landing the plane" (ie ending the lifestyle) can be tricky. In an ideal world you are both ready to quit at the same time. Otherwise, there has to be some tension from one wanting to quit and the other not.
I would agree with you regarding the cumulative effect of her getting in better shape and how that affects her overall confidence and self image. You'd think one day she'd look at herself in the mirror and say, "Lookin' good girl!" That should remind her of her playing days and possible desires to go again. Then again, it may not be anything other than just a healthy focus.
It makes me think. If she's confident about herself being attractive, then maybe her choice to slow things to a crawl is more about the lifestyle and whether she really wants it. There's a chance that she may see it as a predictable dead end. She may even not like the way she sees herself and upset with herself that she became comfortable with it. Or, I could be way the fuck off, just thinking of the possibilities.
One thing is absolutely certain, she knows what you like and she knows she's not doing that so much. She knows your kink and what gets you going. She has to know that she's not doing that. It has to be something that she thinks about. Has she initiated any conversation on the topic? If it was me I'd wait until she did and not bring it up. She may be anticipating that.
I guess a big question is if she calls it good and wants to put in the past, would you be cool with that? In a lot of ways you've had more fun and experience than most already. If by chance there are still things that you yourself want to experience, is there any way you could tell her without it coming across as a complaint or dissatisfaction?
I can see how "landing the plane" (ie ending the lifestyle) can be tricky. In an ideal world you are both ready to quit at the same time. Otherwise, there has to be some tension from one wanting to quit and the other not.
Great observation. Ironically, she started HRT several months ago. I talked to her yesterday about how it seems to me that the HRT may be having an adverse effect on her sex drive. She did agree that she hasn’t been as interested and said she would talk with the Dr office who is managing the HRT. It can take some time for everything to normalize again.
All great questions. Honestly, I enjoy her playing and coming home to me. But, I also enjoy spending time with my wife alone. I have wondered if maybe this has run its course for her and she craves monogamy again. It is possible that the shine is gone from the kink for her. Or maybe she just needs a break. While I am pretty open with my thoughts, my wife is more reserved with her thoughts. She has shared a little bit, but I have many more questions. For now, I am going to sit back and see if she brings it up or not.
I will provide an update as soon as I have something to share. All the best!
My wife really hasn’t said much about sex with me or others for the past week. Now, we have both been very busy every day during this time with both work and family stuff. She did admit to playing with herself twice one day over the weekend while I was at work. That same day, she hinted that there was plenty left for me later, but by the time we got everything done that needed done, we were both exhausted.
We will have some car time alone this weekend and I am interested if she will bring up anything. While my mind is churning, I am going to sit back and wait for her to bring it up.
I hope all is well! Stay kinky my friends!
We will have some car time alone this weekend and I am interested if she will bring up anything. While my mind is churning, I am going to sit back and wait for her to bring it up.
I hope all is well! Stay kinky my friends!
I just wanted to provide a quick update. Not much to report as my wife hasn’t played with anyone else since early November and hasn’t said anything to me about playing outside of marriage since our last conversation. She did go to dinner last week with a male friend who she has played with a couple of times. Generally, this would be a good sign, but this guy is mainly just a friend she talks to a lot, but doesn’t play with a lot. She enjoys his company, but doesn’t enjoy him sexually.
While I would love to ask my wife to spread her wings again, since our last conversation, I have committed to keeping my wishes to myself until she brings it up again.
A couple of weeks back, we were engaged in a steamy bedroom session. I was doing my best to tease her without actually pleasing. I was kissing her body everywhere but where she most wanted to be kissed. I refused to let her touch me in any way. I then started licking her pussy, but only focused on the perimeter and kept hinting that I was going to lick her clit, but then kept delaying it. Eventually, I began licking her slit up and down with an occasional temporary flick across her clit. She was getting so wet and gyrating her hips in an attempt to get me to spend more time on her clit. I would randomly stick my tongue into her pussy, but only as a tease. Before long, she was begging for my cock. I asked her what she was willing to do in order to get it. She started with offering a blowjob, but I said she needed to offer more than that. She then asked me what I wanted. I refused to answer and said she needs to keep offering up something she can do to “earn” my cock. I did tease her without actually pleasing the tip of my cock, but would not enter her in any way. Then, I went back to licking her pussy. Eventually, she took control and gave me a phenomenal blowjob before asking what I wanted enough to give her my cock. I told her I wanted her to suck my cock after I had cum and she agreed. I really wanted to ask her to promise to bring me a cum filled pussy, but that would have violated my promise to myself. In the end, I gave my wife what she wanted, but she did not follow through with the blowjob ending. I was hoping she would be able to get me going for round two. To be fair, it was very late and we were both exhausted.
She did bring it up the next day and asked if there was something else I wanted. I paused, but didn’t say that I would love a cum filled pussy. Nothing else has been said since that point. We have been so busy, we haven’t had sex since then. Definitely hoping to end the drought soon, but it is Monday of another busy week and not likely to change until this weekend. I think she was fishing to see if I want her to get more action. I am going to wait for her to mention it. The closest we have come to talking about it was a couple of comments she made about her most recent fuck buddy reaching out. She hasn’t told him she is likely done. Instead, she tells him she is too busy.
I guess only she knows where she stands.
While I would love to ask my wife to spread her wings again, since our last conversation, I have committed to keeping my wishes to myself until she brings it up again.
A couple of weeks back, we were engaged in a steamy bedroom session. I was doing my best to tease her without actually pleasing. I was kissing her body everywhere but where she most wanted to be kissed. I refused to let her touch me in any way. I then started licking her pussy, but only focused on the perimeter and kept hinting that I was going to lick her clit, but then kept delaying it. Eventually, I began licking her slit up and down with an occasional temporary flick across her clit. She was getting so wet and gyrating her hips in an attempt to get me to spend more time on her clit. I would randomly stick my tongue into her pussy, but only as a tease. Before long, she was begging for my cock. I asked her what she was willing to do in order to get it. She started with offering a blowjob, but I said she needed to offer more than that. She then asked me what I wanted. I refused to answer and said she needs to keep offering up something she can do to “earn” my cock. I did tease her without actually pleasing the tip of my cock, but would not enter her in any way. Then, I went back to licking her pussy. Eventually, she took control and gave me a phenomenal blowjob before asking what I wanted enough to give her my cock. I told her I wanted her to suck my cock after I had cum and she agreed. I really wanted to ask her to promise to bring me a cum filled pussy, but that would have violated my promise to myself. In the end, I gave my wife what she wanted, but she did not follow through with the blowjob ending. I was hoping she would be able to get me going for round two. To be fair, it was very late and we were both exhausted.
She did bring it up the next day and asked if there was something else I wanted. I paused, but didn’t say that I would love a cum filled pussy. Nothing else has been said since that point. We have been so busy, we haven’t had sex since then. Definitely hoping to end the drought soon, but it is Monday of another busy week and not likely to change until this weekend. I think she was fishing to see if I want her to get more action. I am going to wait for her to mention it. The closest we have come to talking about it was a couple of comments she made about her most recent fuck buddy reaching out. She hasn’t told him she is likely done. Instead, she tells him she is too busy.
I guess only she knows where she stands.
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