I'm new to this and am interested in finding a man for my girlfriend to fuck, but I really need advice on how to find a man. along with how to vet him to make sure he can be trusted. My GF also needs to feel safe with him. What is your advice? What programs, sites, or apps should I use? What are the things to watch out for as green flags vs red flags as a bull? What do I need to ask and do to make sure my gf will be safe?
Methods to meet and vet new bulls?
- Thread starter Torporhappy
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just find strangers on these sites. dont call them bulls. they r just cocks for u to use to give your lady some fun
Goodhusband
Male
Dont try too hard. Let your wife/gf find one herself.
Maybe let her go out without you, let her pick the guy, but its very important that she let him know that she´s married. Being your first time, maybe its good idea that she fucks him a couple times before she tells him that you would love to watch. Most guys will like the idea, but even he doesn´t, at least you guys can talk about the fuck she did with him, it still very exciting
You can let her set the pace, even if he leads. No need to jump in the deep end. Especially if you're looking for long term. Meet for drinks, sext, flirt, check in with each other, and eventually make it happen. Goodhusband brings up a good point she may want to explore on her own before getting comfortable including you. Figure it out together. Its like a couples pop quiz to figure out together. If ONS just leave it up to her. If you want to watch, or want a guy that sticks around you just need different standards of criteria for what matches. Personal take is someone who fits your vibe and ads to what you two have already established. Especially if theres no power dynamics, it'll be easier to get along with someone you two generally like to be around as a third in your relationship, and unless you're fine with who she chooses, you can vet anyone together.
You're already opening lines of communication with each other so embellish it, and not just sexually when playing. Think about what you want to add to the magic you already have and weave what you want into it. Especially since you two are young and will be growing through your experiences; changing where they take you individually and together. Firmer foundation you two have, the better chance you have of something asting if you want it.
I'm no relationship expert, but these summarize my take from what I've read and learned about ENM and experienced as a Dom.
You're already opening lines of communication with each other so embellish it, and not just sexually when playing. Think about what you want to add to the magic you already have and weave what you want into it. Especially since you two are young and will be growing through your experiences; changing where they take you individually and together. Firmer foundation you two have, the better chance you have of something asting if you want it.
I'm no relationship expert, but these summarize my take from what I've read and learned about ENM and experienced as a Dom.
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