My husband really wants this, I think I'm ready but have some questions

Natnextdoor

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My husband and I have been married for almost three years. I know he's had a cuckolding fetish for a long time which we have discussed many times. I was initially very dismissive thinking he just wants a quid-pro-quo threesome with another girl. That doesn't seem to be the case at all.

I'm seriously considering trying this for him. So much so that I made an account on a hookup site geared toward this lifestyle. After many messages (and unsolicited dick pics), I think I found a guy I'm interested in. We've been messaging back and forth via the website (just small talk and expectations) and he included a picture of his face instead of penis.

*Quick side note, he does have naked pictures on his profile and they do not disappoint. Very well endowed and fit body.

I set a date to meet him at a bar to make sure I like him in person.

So, my husband doesn't know I'm on the site and going to meet a guy. I don't like the initial secrecy but here's why I'm doing it this way.

My husband says he doesn't care what guy we use. He wants me to be comfortable and to decide on the gentleman (since it's my body he'll be inside of). He also wants a guy with a big dick. Those are his wants.

I think we should use a stranger in case we don't like it. I don't hate the idea of a big dick at all so I passively agreed with hubby so as not to appear eager. Husband is average at best so it's been awhile since I've experienced a large man. I need to be attracted to the guy and comfortable with his personality to do this.

At least for the fist time, I don't want to try picking up just anyone (which is why I want to meet the online guy). Too many bad lays and weirdos out there. If I have a bad first experience, I'll be out on the whole idea of cuckoldry.

My plan is to meet the online guy, and then take my husband out the next weekend. I tell him I have a surprise for him when online guy arrives and joins us for drinks, then inevitably dirty dirty sex.

My question is whether or not all I've said sounds like a good idea? I defer to the expertise of all of you to tell me if I'm doing anything wrong, overlooking something, or am the greatest wife ever for making this happen for my voyeuristic husband?
 

jw_kk

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In general, your plan seems sound.

In specific, your personal safety should be your paramount concern, since you are planning on the initial screening meeting solo.

Choose a very public place. Avoid disclosing too many personal details (last name, address, phone number) - if things don't click or the guy turns out to be a problem, you want to avoid having him follow you home, or stalk you. Have a plan to visit a number of different locations after the meeting, before you return home or to a place like work, also public venues with lots of people traffic.

Having done this for a while, if you elect to meeting him for the "real deal" encounter, use a hotel or motel, not your home or apartment. Leave your valuables locked in the car, and take only the minimum you need into the room.

The rest is free-form, up to you, primarily, and your husband, secondarily.

Be forewarned that there are many men who have this fantasy - realizing it is something different entirely. Seeing your wife take another man's cock the first time is incredibly intense and emotional, even if your husband has been fantasizing about it for years.

Also be prepared that "online guy" make flake out, and fail to appear at the initial screening meet, or even for the "real deal." Hard though it may be, don't take it as a sign of rejection, or be terribly disappointed about it. Flakes/no-shows are the number one biggest problem in this.

Good luck.
 

Natnextdoor

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In general, your plan seems sound.

In specific, your personal safety should be your paramount concern, since you are planning on the initial screening meeting solo.

Choose a very public place. Avoid disclosing too many personal details (last name, address, phone number) - if things don't click or the guy turns out to be a problem, you want to avoid having him follow you home, or stalk you. Have a plan to visit a number of different locations after the meeting, before you return home or to a place like work, also public venues with lots of people traffic.

Having done this for a while, if you elect to meeting him for the "real deal" encounter, use a hotel or motel, not your home or apartment. Leave your valuables locked in the car, and take only the minimum you need into the room.

The rest is free-form, up to you, primarily, and your husband, secondarily.

Be forewarned that there are many men who have this fantasy - realizing it is something different entirely. Seeing your wife take another man's cock the first time is incredibly intense and emotional, even if your husband has been fantasizing about it for years.

Also be prepared that "online guy" make flake out, and fail to appear at the initial screening meet, or even for the "real deal." Hard though it may be, don't take it as a sign of rejection, or be terribly disappointed about it. Flakes/no-shows are the number one biggest problem in this.

Good luck.
Thank you for your wisdom. I'm definitely meeting him in a public place. A bar for a few drinks because I'm going to be nervous! I'm thinking of it like a tinder date. Really? No shows are that prevelant? It's free sex for a guy (if we click). I figured that would mean he'd be there early with a fistful of viagra.

I am actually really concerned about my husband thinking he'll like it, but hating it when it finally happens. He's been fantasizing about it for so long. I'm afraid what I do with online guy won't meet the expectations of my husband. Or I'll really enjoy myself and hurt his feelings. My husband reassures me it won't happen but how could he know? He can't until he sees it.
 

jw_kk

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Yep, no-shows/flakes are the biggest issue. That is followed by guys that can't get it up, and keep it up in the presence of another male.

We've been doing this for a while, and it is easy to get disappointed in the whole thing early on, if your expectations don't match the reality, and your experience at things like recruiting and screening partners.

Our first time happened after years of me fantasizing about it, and the encounter was unplanned. It was both everything I imagined, and nothing like what I imagined. At one point during the sex, I was watching and got nauseated to the point I thought I was going to be sick, and at the same time had the most outrageous hard-on I had ever experienced.

The only way for either of you to know how it feels is to experience it, and decide on the outcome after the experience is over. Best of luck!
 

Natnextdoor

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Yep, no-shows/flakes are the biggest issue. That is followed by guys that can't get it up, and keep it up in the presence of another male.

We've been doing this for a while, and it is easy to get disappointed in the whole thing early on, if your expectations don't match the reality, and your experience at things like recruiting and screening partners.

Our first time happened after years of me fantasizing about it, and the encounter was unplanned. It was both everything I imagined, and nothing like what I imagined. At one point during the sex, I was watching and got nauseated to the point I thought I was going to be sick, and at the same time had the most outrageous hard-on I had ever experienced.

The only way for either of you to know how it feels is to experience it, and decide on the outcome after the experience is over. Best of luck!
Well shit, now I'm nervous about that! Thanks for the heads up. I never would've thought that would be the case.
 
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Sounds super exciting to me! Keep in mind that even seeing you kiss another guy is going to rock your husband's world, much less fucking. So take your time with this. Enjoy each revelation with him. I'll be looking forward to yoour updates!
 
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I just found your post and will be following. Best of luck of to you both.
It sounds like you are doing everything right, keeping your safety paramount.
Keep us updated.
 
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I too just found your posting of this adventure you and your husband are starting on. After reading what jw_kk posted I could not have said it any better. We went through the same emotions and scenario in our first cuck experience. So many things new. It was very powerful seeing a new cock slide inside of the pussy of the woman only I had been with for 30 years. BUT watching her kissing him passionately like an old boyfriend was 2x intense. We also had a rule that condoms would be used but she took his cock from her lips and put him inside her in mere seconds. I felt betrayed, turned on and hard as hell, yet threatened that somebody new was getting the royal treatment from her.
The communication between you 2 after the event will be key to any future playdates. He will have thousands of questions running through his confused mind. You have to understand his feelings in addition to yours. That is a huge undertaking so know ahead of time if you are ready.
 

Natnextdoor

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I too just found your posting of this adventure you and your husband are starting on. After reading what jw_kk posted I could not have said it any better. We went through the same emotions and scenario in our first cuck experience. So many things new. It was very powerful seeing a new cock slide inside of the pussy of the woman only I had been with for 30 years. BUT watching her kissing him passionately like an old boyfriend was 2x intense. We also had a rule that condoms would be used but she took his cock from her lips and put him inside her in mere seconds. I felt betrayed, turned on and hard as hell, yet threatened that somebody new was getting the royal treatment from her.
The communication between you 2 after the event will be key to any future playdates. He will have thousands of questions running through his confused mind. You have to understand his feelings in addition to yours. That is a huge undertaking so know ahead of time if you are ready.
Did your wife's level of enjoyment factor into your emotional well being at all? If I scream like a banchee and cum three times because the new guy is awesome in bed, would that hurt more than if I were a dead fish and staying quiet?
 
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Natnextdoor

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btw, we've discussed all these issues many times. I just want to know from experienced people what I should expect from him and how accurate the fantasy was compared to the actual event
 
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Did your wife's level of enjoyment factor into your emotional well being at all? If I scream like a banchee and cum three times because the new guy is awesome in bed, would that hurt more than if I were a dead fish and staying quiet?
I hope that I am not sharing wrong information for your situation but I absolutely needed her to scream like a banshee. I needed to know she was enjoying it or I may have ended the whole session. Knowing her propensity to be vocal during intercourse that is how I read her. NOW having said that was I intimidated by all this??? ABSOLUTELY I was..... Now the questions started to rage through my brain. Did she enjoy herself too much? His cock had a whole different bend so it hit her G-spot big time and she was squirting like a fountain. After that she would rarely squirt with me again. What did I get us into? The questions are many but as I said before with open communication nothing should be insurmountable. Being fluid bonded with him by going bareback she developed a love for her partner. They openly proclaimed this over time and we needed to talk about it many times.
 
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Suggestion. My wife and I approached it this way, and it was far better than stories I have heard.

RULE 1: The marriage is the most important thing, sexual playtime is the second important thing.

RULE 2: read rule 1. No surprises. Its a team game. Every decision is made together, not by one.
No one likes to be put on the spot by their spouse. If your husband "surprised" you with a guy and he was not your type, you'd be pissed that he didnt include you in the decision. Same with him.

RULE 3. see rule 1. You cant go back. Theres no time limit. You can tak a step, thendecide together on going another. The biggest pitfall in these things are unintended or unanticipated consequences.
That comes from going too fast. Eat the elephant one bite at a time.

Heres our suggestion:


1. meet your new guy in public, with your hubby, with a NO SEX advance agreement.
It is a platonic, interest generation meeting only. Boundary is that he may touch you under the table.
Hubby may touch you as well. You may steal a kiss. Time limit 30 minutes.
Tell him you will be in touch. You and hubby talk about it for a few days.


2. Meeting 2 is at a hotel lounge. Not your house. Not his house.
You set the boundaries with both men. We used: "same room, Soft play only".
For us, this meant making out is ok. Hands anywhere are ok. Masturbating one another is ok..
No genital to genital contact. Playmates orgasm if one occurs is to happen externally.
On tits, ass, or face, your decision.

HINT At the meeting in the lounge, have a code word with hubby for "I want out of here" or, "I want to go upstairs with you both" We used: "Have you heard from Dana" if she wanted out. Id excuse to "call the babysitter" and come back to get us out soon after. If she mouthed the words to the song "I'm feeling lucky tonight", that meant for me to suggest us all going upstairs. (Its good to have an out if you want one and good that hubby doesnt have to read your mind if you want more.)

Meeting 3 happens after you and hubby both agree that ts hot, you both like it, you both want more.
You can skip the lounge, meet your playmate at the room. You, hubby and he will be ready for full on sex, cuckolding, whatever you and hubby want. And you wont have a guy who cant get it up..he'll have ben with you and hubby before.
 

Natnextdoor

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Suggestion. My wife and I approached it this way, and it was far better than stories I have heard.

RULE 1: The marriage is the most important thing, sexual playtime is the second important thing.

RULE 2: read rule 1. No surprises. Its a team game. Every decision is made together, not by one.
No one likes to be put on the spot by their spouse. If your husband "surprised" you with a guy and he was not your type, you'd be pissed that he didnt include you in the decision. Same with him.

RULE 3. see rule 1. You cant go back. Theres no time limit. You can tak a step, thendecide together on going another. The biggest pitfall in these things are unintended or unanticipated consequences.
That comes from going too fast. Eat the elephant one bite at a time.

Heres our suggestion:


1. meet your new guy in public, with your hubby, with a NO SEX advance agreement.
It is a platonic, interest generation meeting only. Boundary is that he may touch you under the table.
Hubby may touch you as well. You may steal a kiss. Time limit 30 minutes.
Tell him you will be in touch. You and hubby talk about it for a few days.


2. Meeting 2 is at a hotel lounge. Not your house. Not his house.
You set the boundaries with both men. We used: "same room, Soft play only".
For us, this meant making out is ok. Hands anywhere are ok. Masturbating one another is ok..
No genital to genital contact. Playmates orgasm if one occurs is to happen externally.
On tits, ass, or face, your decision.

HINT At the meeting in the lounge, have a code word with hubby for "I want out of here" or, "I want to go upstairs with you both" We used: "Have you heard from Dana" if she wanted out. Id excuse to "call the babysitter" and come back to get us out soon after. If she mouthed the words to the song "I'm feeling lucky tonight", that meant for me to suggest us all going upstairs. (Its good to have an out if you want one and good that hubby doesnt have to read your mind if you want more.)

Meeting 3 happens after you and hubby both agree that ts hot, you both like it, you both want more.
You can skip the lounge, meet your playmate at the room. You, hubby and he will be ready for full on sex, cuckolding, whatever you and hubby want. And you wont have a guy who cant get it up..he'll have ben with you and hubby before.
Very well said thank you. I think I will tell my husband what I have planned and include him. What I'm doing feels a little too "Ashley Madison" for me anyway.
 
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Nat....from someone who spent most of his adult life, ordering these type of things on his partner ( pushing the limits of my submissives) If it feels too " Ashly Madison" too you, you hit it right on the head. Always remember if it " feels" like something do something about it. After including the hubby, it will "feel" better... Lol ( stepping off my soap box) Sorry Hun.. sometimes I just open my mouth and out it comes...lol!
 
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rehan

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i think u r right if he wants this and u also wants then is fine...btw i am intrested in u..u can share wth me :)
 

rehan

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my dick gets hard for u alot and i want tht u see i am really good in this can u make cum alot and wants to put my cum deep inside in ur pussy
 
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Welcome to the site.

Sounds like you are going to do a great thing for your husband, that you will enjoy as well. This could be the start of a whole new level for your relationship. Hope you have a great time.