So I've come up with some pretty creative ways (I think) to get my wife to consider this. Some more hairbrained than others. But I've been changing my focus and tactics lately to a "kinder and gentler" approach. Let me explain.
I've always been an away game type of guy, in that I would enjoy it if she went out with other guys. I don't need to watch as I think that would inhibit her and not allow her to be fully immersed in the deed. I want her to be pleased so whether I'm there or not doesn't matter.
I recently asked her to "just go on a date" with another guy. No sex or coming home with a creampie, just a typical social experience where the guy tries to impress her and works up to a goodnight kiss when they part. I haven't talked to her about how to arrange it or anything, just the non-threatening suggestion that she enjoy a night out with a guy and catch some thrills when he makes subtle moves, trying to create situations where he can touch her, put his hand on her arm or her shoulder or her back. Get her used to him guiding her. I've asked her if this would be exciting or sexually stimulating and she's responded with a "Yes".
If you've followed anything that I've posted, I talk a lot about her going to the local casino. At first she would dress in some sexy outfits but she found that it made her feel self concious and inhibited her interactions with other people. The last time she dressed like that she was approached by a very drunk guy who acted very aggressive towards her. His friends dragged him away and the bartender and security got involved. Not a situation she enjoyed. So she's toned down the outfits to a level where she feels comfortable.
She told me that last Friday, it was very busy and a man was playing a slot machine next to hers. They had already exchanged small talk when he hit on a combination that allowed him to play for a rather large jackpot. He called her attention to it and told her that if he won, he would give her a hundred dollars. (cheep basatard) Well, he didn't win so there was no offer of money, but it did lead to some questions from me.
I asked if he had won, would she take the money?
She said no.
I asked her if she reaized that the guy was hitting on her?
She kind of scoffed at that and said No.
I then told her that he was at he very least flirting with her and that she passed a golden opportunity to continue an evening with him. I told her she should have told him right away that she wouldn't take his money, but she would accept the offer of a drink or a dinner. Even if he hadn't won, he would still insist on buying her a drink and they coud retire to the bar and start going from flirting to exchanging numbers.
Me, "Once he's got your number, you know what happens next? Right?
Her, "He asks me out on a date?"
Me, "Bingo!"
I told her if it was me, and I was a regular at the casino on Friday nights, I would make a note of what time I ran into you and make sure I was in that same area at the same time to see if you were there. Maybe the familiarity would get you to lower your defenses and I could "make a move" on you.
Fast forward to Tuesday night, we were discussing our plans for the week when she told me that she would have to come home first on Friday to drop off her work computer because she didn't want to risk getting it stolen from her car.
I was a little befuddled. Come home first? where are you going?
"The casino."
You could have knocked me over with a feather. Here I had described to her a way for her to get picked up and she is scheming to make it happen.
Of course I told her that if he's not a regular, or if it was just a one off, he might not be there so she shouldn't be dissappointed if he doesn't show up.
"But what if he does? I wouldn't want to dissappoint him."
I''ve been thinking about nothing else ever since. It made for a rough day at work but I don't think my cock went below half mast all day.
I've always been an away game type of guy, in that I would enjoy it if she went out with other guys. I don't need to watch as I think that would inhibit her and not allow her to be fully immersed in the deed. I want her to be pleased so whether I'm there or not doesn't matter.
I recently asked her to "just go on a date" with another guy. No sex or coming home with a creampie, just a typical social experience where the guy tries to impress her and works up to a goodnight kiss when they part. I haven't talked to her about how to arrange it or anything, just the non-threatening suggestion that she enjoy a night out with a guy and catch some thrills when he makes subtle moves, trying to create situations where he can touch her, put his hand on her arm or her shoulder or her back. Get her used to him guiding her. I've asked her if this would be exciting or sexually stimulating and she's responded with a "Yes".
If you've followed anything that I've posted, I talk a lot about her going to the local casino. At first she would dress in some sexy outfits but she found that it made her feel self concious and inhibited her interactions with other people. The last time she dressed like that she was approached by a very drunk guy who acted very aggressive towards her. His friends dragged him away and the bartender and security got involved. Not a situation she enjoyed. So she's toned down the outfits to a level where she feels comfortable.
She told me that last Friday, it was very busy and a man was playing a slot machine next to hers. They had already exchanged small talk when he hit on a combination that allowed him to play for a rather large jackpot. He called her attention to it and told her that if he won, he would give her a hundred dollars. (cheep basatard) Well, he didn't win so there was no offer of money, but it did lead to some questions from me.
I asked if he had won, would she take the money?
She said no.
I asked her if she reaized that the guy was hitting on her?
She kind of scoffed at that and said No.
I then told her that he was at he very least flirting with her and that she passed a golden opportunity to continue an evening with him. I told her she should have told him right away that she wouldn't take his money, but she would accept the offer of a drink or a dinner. Even if he hadn't won, he would still insist on buying her a drink and they coud retire to the bar and start going from flirting to exchanging numbers.
Me, "Once he's got your number, you know what happens next? Right?
Her, "He asks me out on a date?"
Me, "Bingo!"
I told her if it was me, and I was a regular at the casino on Friday nights, I would make a note of what time I ran into you and make sure I was in that same area at the same time to see if you were there. Maybe the familiarity would get you to lower your defenses and I could "make a move" on you.
Fast forward to Tuesday night, we were discussing our plans for the week when she told me that she would have to come home first on Friday to drop off her work computer because she didn't want to risk getting it stolen from her car.
I was a little befuddled. Come home first? where are you going?
"The casino."
You could have knocked me over with a feather. Here I had described to her a way for her to get picked up and she is scheming to make it happen.
Of course I told her that if he's not a regular, or if it was just a one off, he might not be there so she shouldn't be dissappointed if he doesn't show up.
"But what if he does? I wouldn't want to dissappoint him."
I''ve been thinking about nothing else ever since. It made for a rough day at work but I don't think my cock went below half mast all day.
