My libido nose dived after wife said no to being a HW

[Dcucked]

I brought up my wife being a HW maybe 4 years ago. Since then we talked about it a bunch, talked about other guys, did some light role playing and played with toys. My wife is attractive and sexy so the thought of sharing her was really exciting. Im sure many of you know what im talking about. Well the last time I brought it up she told me in no uncertain terms that she does not want to be shared. I could tell it was upsetting her that I wouldnt respect her wishes and if I continued it would jeopardize our marriage.

So I've decided not to pursue it any longer. Since then I've felt just meh about sex. We've had sex a few times since then and it felt great as always, but it is still vanilla. My wife says she doesn't have fantasies and doesn't need toys or other kinks. Honestly im starting to feel a little depressed over it now.

I've always been the kinky one. My wife has experienced some kinks (pegging, chastity, CBT) with me but it's usually been a one time thing with them. Im afraid sex is going to turn into 'duty-sex' now.
I don't want to have sex with other people but im becoming less interested in sex with her.

Sorry for the rant. I just feel blah now.

 

[nicebiguy]

I brought up my wife being a HW maybe 4 years ago. Since then we talked about it a bunch, talked about other guys, did some light role playing and played with toys. My wife is attractive and sexy so the thought of sharing her was really exciting. Im sure many of you know what im talking about. Well the last time I brought it up she told me in no uncertain terms that she does not want to be shared. I could tell it was upsetting her that I wouldnt respect her wishes and if I continued it would jeopardize our marriage.

So I've decided not to pursue it any longer. Since then I've felt just meh about sex. We've had sex a few times since then and it felt great as always, but it is still vanilla. My wife says she doesn't have fantasies and doesn't need toys or other kinks. Honestly im starting to feel a little depressed over it now.

I've always been the kinky one. My wife has experienced some kinks (pegging, chastity, CBT) with me but it's usually been a one time thing with them. Im afraid sex is going to turn into 'duty-sex' now.
I don't want to have sex with other people but im becoming less interested in sex with her.

Sorry for the rant. I just feel blah now.

I think a lot of guys get bored with the same pussy after a while, I know I do. I'd keep doing what you're doing and maybe she'll some around if there's no pressure.

 

[Dmyboy]

I brought up my wife being a HW maybe 4 years ago. Since then we talked about it a bunch, talked about other guys, did some light role playing and played with toys. My wife is attractive and sexy so the thought of sharing her was really exciting. Im sure many of you know what im talking about. Well the last time I brought it up she told me in no uncertain terms that she does not want to be shared. I could tell it was upsetting her that I wouldnt respect her wishes and if I continued it would jeopardize our marriage.

So I've decided not to pursue it any longer. Since then I've felt just meh about sex. We've had sex a few times since then and it felt great as always, but it is still vanilla. My wife says she doesn't have fantasies and doesn't need toys or other kinks. Honestly im starting to feel a little depressed over it now.

I've always been the kinky one. My wife has experienced some kinks (pegging, chastity, CBT) with me but it's usually been a one time thing with them. Im afraid sex is going to turn into 'duty-sex' now.
I don't want to have sex with other people but im becoming less interested in sex with her.

Sorry for the rant. I just feel blah now.

A familiar situation. What can I say? Firstly, don't talk about it yet. You've already planted the seed in her mind that you're open to her having sexual adventures outside of marriage. Secondly, give her time to consider what she's heard and don't rush her, otherwise, she'll quickly crumble and all the work will be lost. Furthermore, it's possible that the main reason for her refusal is either fear or aversion to the process. I'm talking about fear of breaking up the family, and that's a serious reason for a woman. You need to gently but periodically tell her of your love, that your relationship is much stronger now than before. Finally, you can say that you're aroused by the fact that other men look at her with desire and are proud to have such a sexy woman by your side, that this woman is your beloved wife. Make her confident in your marriage.