My situation (opinions please)

[SubTob]

When we met 15ish years ago my wife had a guy who she went for weekends and to conferences with, he was married with a family but I thought it was fairly obvious from hey behaviour that they were in a relationship. She always denied it, but I reassured her that I was OK with it and it continued. We still had a great sex life.

Fast forward a few years and children and we lost our spark, I reminded C (my wife) that I liked the idea of her ...... with other guys and was surprised when she checked that this wasn't reciprocal and that I'd be faithful and then embraced the idea with gusto. We joined KK and she met lots of guys with a couple of serious relationships, going away and to parties with them. The guys shared photos and stories and I put myself in chastity and C occasionally let me clean her, but never let me join. The focus was always the great sex, she never enjoyed the sharing and even let me meet for a little while but was never really chill with it. C was doing all sorts with her guys, things we'd never done and we became mostly non sexual. This was great until she split up with a long term boyfriend and had her heart broken.

C has now asked for things to be "don't ask, don't tell" exerts enough control over me to stop me meeting but regularly goes away and meets ex boyfriends for drinks and shows and gets a hotel. She gives me hints and clues but hates being asked. C's increasingly Domme and enforces my chastity by controlling me enough to stop me meeting and only allowing me near her to help with her play. She likes to put me in a tight cock ring and edge me, keeping me full and frustrated. If she goes too far, she ruins my orgasm. She doesn't me chatting or posting so long as I don't meet or cum.

Now for the opinion;

Is she still cucking me? Or is this just a control thing now? We both enjoy things as they are, so should I just continue and not ask questions?

I'd love to chat to couples with a similar set up, or explore what others think.

A word of warning I'm not interested in "show us her tits" or picture hunters, I don't post C's image as I don't have her permission. Just please get in touch for sensible conversation.

 

[hugblazesboylan]

If you feel good about what you are doing now, if you are happy in your current state, I don't see why you would change anything, maybe there is nothing to change, and a change ruins all the balance and pleasure. However, I don't think this "don't ask, don't tell" policy is very fair when it comes to cuckolding. After all, in this lifestyle, the cuckold husband knows who his wife is ...... with, it's not cheating in the strict sense, it's just a sexual power play and nothing more.

 

[SubTob]

If you feel good about what you are doing now, if you are happy in your current state, I don't see why you would change anything, maybe there is nothing to change, and a change ruins all the balance and pleasure. However, I don't think this "don't ask, don't tell" policy is very fair when it comes to cuckolding. After all, in this lifestyle, the cuckold husband knows who his wife is ...... with, it's not cheating in the strict sense, it's just a sexual power play and nothing more.

I can see this, but C never really enjoyed involving me. She hated talking about it and didn't even really like being cleaned or finding me in chastity. The fun for her was always the sex and she felt pressured if I talked about it and that ruined it for her. I think the control and the sneak is also a big thing for her and it's compersion that's the big hit for me, so the last thing that I want to do is limit her pleasure. I can understand that it's superficially not a "cuckold" relationship but I kind of feel like we've gone through that to get to where we are now.

 

[hugblazesboylan]

I can see this, but C never really enjoyed involving me. She hated talking about it and didn't even really like being cleaned or finding me in chastity. The fun for her was always the sex and she felt pressured if I talked about it and that ruined it for her. I think the control and the sneak is also a big thing for her and it's compersion that's the big hit for me, so the last thing that I want to do is limit her pleasure. I can understand that it's superficially not a "cuckold" relationship but I kind of feel like we've gone through that to get to where we are now.

Well, it's clear that this is not a cuckolding relationship, at least that's what comes out very clearly from your second message. I wouldn't agree with such an approach if I were a cuckold (well, I'm a Taurus, but as an idea). Anyway, if you feel good the way you are, I don't see why you would make changes. You have to do what you feel.

 

[SubTob]

Well, it's clear that this is not a cuckolding relationship, at least that's what comes out very clearly from your second message. I wouldn't agree with such an approach if I were a cuckold (well, I'm a Taurus, but as an idea). Anyway, if you feel good the way you are, I don't see why you would make changes. You have to do what you feel.

Thankyou for the opinion! I find the labels confusing, I still find great pleasure in knowing that C's being satisfied by other men, whether this is or isn't "cuckolding".