My situation (opinions please)

[SubTob]

When we met 15ish years ago my wife had a guy who she went for weekends and to conferences with, he was married with a family but I thought it was fairly obvious from hey behaviour that they were in a relationship. She always denied it, but I reassured her that I was OK with it and it continued. We still had a great sex life.

Fast forward a few years and children and we lost our spark, I reminded C (my wife) that I liked the idea of her ...... with other guys and was surprised when she checked that this wasn't reciprocal and that I'd be faithful and then embraced the idea with gusto. We joined KK and she met lots of guys with a couple of serious relationships, going away and to parties with them. The guys shared photos and stories and I put myself in chastity and C occasionally let me clean her, but never let me join. The focus was always the great sex, she never enjoyed the sharing and even let me meet for a little while but was never really chill with it. C was doing all sorts with her guys, things we'd never done and we became mostly non sexual. This was great until she split up with a long term boyfriend and had her heart broken.

C has now asked for things to be "don't ask, don't tell" exerts enough control over me to stop me meeting but regularly goes away and meets ex boyfriends for drinks and shows and gets a hotel. She gives me hints and clues but hates being asked. C's increasingly Domme and enforces my chastity by controlling me enough to stop me meeting and only allowing me near her to help with her play. She likes to put me in a tight cock ring and edge me, keeping me full and frustrated. If she goes too far, she ruins my orgasm. She doesn't me chatting or posting so long as I don't meet or cum.

Now for the opinion;

Is she still cucking me? Or is this just a control thing now? We both enjoy things as they are, so should I just continue and not ask questions?

I'd love to chat to couples with a similar set up, or explore what others think.

A word of warning I'm not interested in "show us her tits" or picture hunters, I don't post C's image as I don't have her permission. Just please get in touch for sensible conversation.

 

[hugblazesboylan]

If you feel good about what you are doing now, if you are happy in your current state, I don't see why you would change anything, maybe there is nothing to change, and a change ruins all the balance and pleasure. However, I don't think this "don't ask, don't tell" policy is very fair when it comes to cuckolding. After all, in this lifestyle, the cuckold husband knows who his wife is ...... with, it's not cheating in the strict sense, it's just a sexual power play and nothing more.

 

[SubTob]

If you feel good about what you are doing now, if you are happy in your current state, I don't see why you would change anything, maybe there is nothing to change, and a change ruins all the balance and pleasure. However, I don't think this "don't ask, don't tell" policy is very fair when it comes to cuckolding. After all, in this lifestyle, the cuckold husband knows who his wife is ...... with, it's not cheating in the strict sense, it's just a sexual power play and nothing more.

I can see this, but C never really enjoyed involving me. She hated talking about it and didn't even really like being cleaned or finding me in chastity. The fun for her was always the sex and she felt pressured if I talked about it and that ruined it for her. I think the control and the sneak is also a big thing for her and it's compersion that's the big hit for me, so the last thing that I want to do is limit her pleasure. I can understand that it's superficially not a "cuckold" relationship but I kind of feel like we've gone through that to get to where we are now.

 

[hugblazesboylan]

I can see this, but C never really enjoyed involving me. She hated talking about it and didn't even really like being cleaned or finding me in chastity. The fun for her was always the sex and she felt pressured if I talked about it and that ruined it for her. I think the control and the sneak is also a big thing for her and it's compersion that's the big hit for me, so the last thing that I want to do is limit her pleasure. I can understand that it's superficially not a "cuckold" relationship but I kind of feel like we've gone through that to get to where we are now.

Well, it's clear that this is not a cuckolding relationship, at least that's what comes out very clearly from your second message. I wouldn't agree with such an approach if I were a cuckold (well, I'm a Taurus, but as an idea). Anyway, if you feel good the way you are, I don't see why you would make changes. You have to do what you feel.

 

[SubTob]

Well, it's clear that this is not a cuckolding relationship, at least that's what comes out very clearly from your second message. I wouldn't agree with such an approach if I were a cuckold (well, I'm a Taurus, but as an idea). Anyway, if you feel good the way you are, I don't see why you would make changes. You have to do what you feel.

Thankyou for the opinion! I find the labels confusing, I still find great pleasure in knowing that C's being satisfied by other men, whether this is or isn't "cuckolding".

 

[SubTob]

C spent last night messaging and had the cheeky smile on her face that told me it was probably Rob or another friend. She told me that she was at risk of having to cancel a date to see Cabaret with Rob due to work but that it was so important to her that she cancelled work (she literally never does this).

We went to bed and stripped naked and got myself hard in case she wanted to edge me. She expects this morning and night and I enjoy doing it for her. She messaged a bit more, ignored me and went to .......

This morning I was hard and aching. C hasn't let me cum for about a week and has edged me daily. She grabbed my cock and told me to put on my cock ring, instructing me to reposition it as it was in her way to start with. C teased me for about an hour until I was shaking ......, even going for a toilet break at one point and then told me to hold my hard cock against her whilst she lay on her front and used her favourite clit vibe. She asked me to put my fingers just at her entrance and lick them clean after she'd cum. After C's climax she let me take the cock ring off but still hold myself against her as she played on her phone, having to lick my pre cum from her several times as it oozed from me.

C is super aware that it's her interactions with Rob and other guys that make me horny and so she keeps me so full and distracted that they're on my mind the whole time. She gives me just enough information so that I guess who she's having sex with but controls me by shutting me down if I ever ask.

What a lady.

I'm so lucky to be in this situation.

 

[Davidtops45]

Would love to compare and contrast our mutual situations. Sometimes I feel like she’s disrespectful but she is doing what she knows I like. Dm me!

 

[SubTob]

Would love to compare and contrast our mutual situations. Sometimes I feel like she’s disrespectful but she is doing what she knows I like. Dm me!

I never feel that is disrespectful. The whole point is that she's in charge.

Out of the blue this weekend, C has made me cum and clean three times in as many days. It's like she's suddenly decided that she wants to drain me. I'm really not too sure what's triggered this!

 

[SubTob]

I've been away all week again and C has been defensive and demanding. I returned last night and she got angry that I wasn't hard and ready for her to tease me when she got into bed.

She's told me that I'm to take her to the station on Sunday for her week in London. She has this "Glam Touch Nails Salon (Female only) : Gel Manicure (Female only), Add on-French Tips (Female only)" booked in for Sunday afternoon and then on Wednesday it's "Meet up with Rob". He's her ex that she's had meets with before. She has a hotel all week for business meetings. In the past they've gone for "drinks and dancing" I know that this time she's booked tickets to see Cabaret. She'll get very upset / angry if I ask any questions but this as open as she's been in a long time and I'm so excited!

 

[SubTob]

C edged me for two hours this morning, she didn't ask me to wear my cock ring. C gave me a few breaks to rest my cock against her and then clean up my pre cum, she complained because my cock was getting too sticky. During one of the breaks she used her vibe and brought herself to a climax, she made me touch the outside of her pussy whilst she did this so that I could feel her and lick my fingers so that I can taste her. I'm so full. She's left me so full.

C goes away for a week tomorrow and has at least one date planned. I don't know whether she's going to give me a realise before then or keep me so full whilst she's away getting what she needs and deserves.

 

[gingercplUk]

C edged me for two hours this morning, she didn't ask me to wear my cock ring. C gave me a few breaks to rest my cock against her and then clean up my pre cum, she complained because my cock was getting too sticky. During one of the breaks she used her vibe and brought herself to a climax, she made me touch the outside of her pussy whilst she did this so that I could feel her and lick my fingers so that I can taste her. I'm so full. She's left me so full.

C goes away for a week tomorrow and has at least one date planned. I don't know whether she's going to give me a realise before then or keep me so full whilst she's away getting what she needs and deserves.

I was made to listen while my ‘C’ got absolutely nailed last night by an older guy she’d met in a local bar - no video or pictures but she had her phone on and made me listen - while insulting me!

 

[SubTob]

I was made to listen while my ‘C’ got absolutely nailed last night by an older guy she’d met in a local bar - no video or pictures but she had her phone on and made me listen - while insulting me!

I bet that sounded amazing... Does she let you play whilst you listen?

 

[gingercplUk]

I bet that sounded amazing... Does she let you play whilst you listen?

Yes last night she permitted me to wank off - and I had her bull also insulting me loudly while he was banging away at her and reminding me how he was hanging out of the back of my wife!

 

[SubTob]

C has just finally given that ruined orgasm and made me clean before she heads away for a week and enjoys her date.

I've been told to build things back up this week whilst she enjoys herself, so that I'm ready to be her toy again on Friday. I think that she gave me that release so that I don't bother her too much whilst she's away. I'm writing this with the alkali tang of my cum still in my mouth.