My wife, our situation, your thoughts

[Jeanswatcher]

So update. I'm working away with work at the moment. The day before I got back, she said she had a dream. She was a bit embarrassed to say but laughed. In her dream she was a prostitute and her and her friend both brought a guy back to a room. They both started fucking their guy in the same room. She was enjoying it but suddenly felt guilty about me.
Anyway, I get home the next day and we start fucking, and she shyly sats, I was just thinking of that dream. I said, you enjoyed it? She said, yes, but then I felt bad. I just had to pound her there and then.
As ever, your thoughts please. A dream and nothing more...or am I being stupid and she's trying to tell me something?

In my experience she is telling you she wants to play, probably a MFM, have you anyone in mind?, i would next time ask her, truthfully would she enjoy this, something you both did together. Remember the term "together" it provides reasurance to her you want to too..

As a committed cuck over many years i would also ask you this, would you actually like this? could you mentally cope, jealous etc watching another man pleasuring her to a higher degree than you do? and remember if it happened and she enjoyed it, there would probably be no going back.

 

[Angelwife]

In my experience she is telling you she wants to play, probably a MFM, have you anyone in mind?, i would next time ask her, truthfully would she enjoy this, something you both did together. Remember the term "together" it provides reasurance to her you want to too..

As a committed cuck over many years i would also ask you this, would you actually like this? could you mentally cope, jealous etc watching another man pleasuring her to a higher degree than you do? and remember if it happened and she enjoyed it, there would probably be no going back.

I've thought about this a lot, and while it's impossible to know with 100% certainty without actually having done it, it is something I'm sure I want. To see and hear it would be a dream and I think for both of us.
I will do the together suggestion, as that's what it's all about- thank you

 

[Angelwife]

We moved a few weeks back, and last night she decided to go to a badminton club. She got back, and I can't explain it but she seemed 'off'
I asked how it went and she said it was good, but there was a tone in her voice. So I pressed. Apparently a guy came over, 'huge guy' called Jarred, starting talking to her. "Where's your husband, why isn't he here" type questions. She replied badminton isn't his thing. He asks what is, she replied 'football (soccer)'. Apparently he laughed and said does he not like men's sports , turns out he's a rugby player. Anyway they all play some games, and later he says to her 'youre only playing the women', and my wife replied, 'yes, as the games are over quicker', and he says ' you like it nice and quick huh"?
So she's telling me this story and says there's always one sleeze, and because of that didnt go for drinks with them all after.
Later she got super horny and initiated sex with me. And I'm thinking all the time, is she thinking about him? She said he was a sleeze, but also said he was 'a huge guy', and something did seem off when she was first talking about her evening.
Thoughts? Am I reading too much in to this?

 

[bhappy_39]

We moved a few weeks back, and last night she decided to go to a badminton club. She got back, and I can't explain it but she seemed 'off'
I asked how it went and she said it was good, but there was a tone in her voice. So I pressed. Apparently a guy came over, 'huge guy' called Jarred, starting talking to her. "Where's your husband, why isn't he here" type questions. She replied badminton isn't his thing. He asks what is, she replied 'football (soccer)'. Apparently he laughed and said does he not like men's sports , turns out he's a rugby player. Anyway they all play some games, and later he says to her 'youre only playing the women', and my wife replied, 'yes, as the games are over quicker', and he says ' you like it nice and quick huh"?
So she's telling me this story and says there's always one sleeze, and because of that didnt go for drinks with them all after.
Later she got super horny and initiated sex with me. And I'm thinking all the time, is she thinking about him? She said he was a sleeze, but also said he was 'a huge guy', and something did seem off when she was first talking about her evening.
Thoughts? Am I reading too much in to this?

The guy was hitting on her. She was flattered and is attracted to him. What would you like to see happen? If it were me I would love to watch my wife with him if that's what she wanted.

 

[Creampielover45]

We moved a few weeks back, and last night she decided to go to a badminton club. She got back, and I can't explain it but she seemed 'off'
I asked how it went and she said it was good, but there was a tone in her voice. So I pressed. Apparently a guy came over, 'huge guy' called Jarred, starting talking to her. "Where's your husband, why isn't he here" type questions. She replied badminton isn't his thing. He asks what is, she replied 'football (soccer)'. Apparently he laughed and said does he not like men's sports , turns out he's a rugby player. Anyway they all play some games, and later he says to her 'youre only playing the women', and my wife replied, 'yes, as the games are over quicker', and he says ' you like it nice and quick huh"?
So she's telling me this story and says there's always one sleeze, and because of that didnt go for drinks with them all after.
Later she got super horny and initiated sex with me. And I'm thinking all the time, is she thinking about him? She said he was a sleeze, but also said he was 'a huge guy', and something did seem off when she was first talking about her evening.
Thoughts? Am I reading too much in to this?

Add a toy.. she might be thinking of two cocks

 

[Wantsomefunto]

Definitely tell her you like her approached her and suggest she flirt with him more next time! If that makes her wet and horny I think you have a chance she will fuck him

 

[majorem]

It's a pretty common thing for a woman to talk about some guy like he's an asshole but then end up fucking him. Women are often aroused by cocky, more masculine looking, aggressive men, even if, for the same reason, they wouldn't consider them dating material.

I think its part of the reason the whole hotwife dynamic is appealing for some women - they get to fuck the type of guys they're sexually excited by but which they would never marry.

 

[PornStud49]

To convince her -- and on a lighter note, show her this:

 

[Angelwife]

It's a pretty common thing for a woman to talk about some guy like he's an asshole but then end up fucking him. Women are often aroused by cocky, more masculine looking, aggressive men, even if, for the same reason, they wouldn't consider them dating material.

I think its part of the reason the whole hotwife dynamic is appealing for some women - they get to fuck the type of guys they're sexually excited by but which they would never marry.

I want to think like this but maybe its wishful thinking. She said she decided not to go to the pub because of him- it would have been the perfect opportunity if she was interested? I was surprised on how aggressive he was about me, and her telling me too. Its a weird mix of feelings. I just am not sure what to think. Is she interested?

 

[Angelwife]

Definitely tell her you like her approached her and suggest she flirt with him more next time! If that makes her wet and horny I think you have a chance she will fuck him

I honestly think she'd freak out or think im testing her. I've often thought itd be so much easier if she was seduced by a dom- but also I'd like to be included. Or at least aware, debriefed etc.

 

[compassionatedom]

I honestly think she'd freak out or think im testing her. I've often thought itd be so much easier if she was seduced by a dom- but also I'd like to be included. Or at least aware, debriefed etc.

Usually the hubby’s of my toys have at least been aware

 

[coastalkid]

She has naked pictures of herself that she hasn't shared with you. She tells you about her dream that she was a prostitute. She tells you about a man at the badminton club that was asking about you and makes suggestive remarks about "liking it nice and quick". Then she vigorously fucks you afterwards.

Maybe some time soon after sex with her. It might be a good idea to ask her what's up. It doesn't have to be a confrontation. You can tell her that you've really enjoyed her attitude and that she wasn't afraid or ashamed to share her "dream story" with you. You don't have to say anything about the pictures in the cloud. You can start to get a little better sense of whether she's planning something on her own or not.

The thing is you don't want to be out of the loop. Sharing an innocuous discussion about her dream and her initiating sex and being horny could get her to reveal more of what she's thinking without arousing to much suspicion, or it could lead to her opening up altogether about what she's thinking and or wanting.

Just a thought, nothing more.

 

[Angelwife]

She has naked pictures of herself that she hasn't shared with you. She tells you about her dream that she was a prostitute. She tells you about a man at the badminton club that was asking about you and makes suggestive remarks about "liking it nice and quick". Then she vigorously fucks you afterwards.

Maybe some time soon after sex with her. It might be a good idea to ask her what's up. It doesn't have to be a confrontation. You can tell her that you've really enjoyed her attitude and that she wasn't afraid or ashamed to share her "dream story" with you. You don't have to say anything about the pictures in the cloud. You can start to get a little better sense of whether she's planning something on her own or not.

The thing is you don't want to be out of the loop. Sharing an innocuous discussion about her dream and her initiating sex and being horny could get her to reveal more of what she's thinking without arousing to much suspicion, or it could lead to her opening up altogether about what she's thinking and or wanting.

Just a thought, nothing more.

I think you are probably right, being involved is very important to me

 

[compassionatedom]

I think you are probably right, being involved is very important to me

In what way do you envision being involved?

 

[Wantsomefunto]

To convince her -- and on a lighter note, show her this:

Damn that thing is massive

 

[Angelwife]

In what way do you envision being involved?

Watch, be told about, shown photos? Have him tell me about the interactions? A whole bunch of things I guess, but her having a secret affair wouldn't be what id want.

 

[imherManwantHER]

Hi, so my wife is 44, and we have been married for 23 years. We are in a happy relationship, but I have known for a very long time I've wanted to share her with another guy.
When things like swinging ever get mentioned on TV I can guarantee she will say "I don't get how they'd do it,it's weird".
The following has taken place over last 3-4 years.....
Anyway, in the car it was being discussed on the radio. She says her usual phrase, and to my surprise I responded/blurted out, "oh I don't know a mfm would be fun, like having a real life dildo". She was quiet for about 30 seconds then said "no,it would be against our wedding vows, its best we stay as we are ".
We use realistic dildos we refer to as he, and I tell her she looks beautiful taking me and him, and she's said in throes of passion she loves two cocks.
I've tried the, "I had a dream you were being pounded from behind, and I was sat in the room, watching and jerking, it was really hot", I then showed her I was hard just thinking about it. She called me a kinky sod, and brought it up a couple of times to laugh the next few days.
She loves sex and we have a great sex life, we'll, pretty good, she has even got me to start tying her to the bed with some light bdsm- which she loves.
So, your thoughts on whether I'm in a dream world, stuck with fantasy forever, or I'd there a chance? And if so, how do I press it home, what's my next move. If your answer is "just tell her" (which is fair), please give me a way to do so.
Thanks for your time, and sorry for the long message.

Wow, it’s like you’ve been living my life! Your words describe our situation amazingly accurately too, so I appreciate your situation and wish we could both help each other. I’m almost to the point that I think the only truly viable way to bring it to fruition is gonna be to make new friends with another (Hot)😉 good looking couple who we mesh with well and explore the swapping scenario first, gradually then leaning toward and arranging a mfm or even a 3 guy gang bang for her.
The other idea I’ve settled on is taking her out to Vegas for a little getaway and having an in room massage therapist come and give her a massage with me.
I’d love to have your feedback and thoughts.

 

[Angelwife]

I had a similar vegas idea and paying for a male stripper extra to see how he could push the boundaries in a private dance (or 10)! Just to help plant the seed of the idea

 

[compassionatedom]

Watch, be told about, shown photos? Have him tell me about the interactions? A whole bunch of things I guess, but her having a secret affair wouldn't be what id want.

If you were watching, is it likely you might be subjected, even unintentionally to some degree of humiliation?

 

[Angelwife]

If you were watching, is it likely you might be subjected, even unintentionally to some degree of humiliation?

I guess it's possible but seeing would be humiliation in itself. Im not in to cleaning or caging