Next steps

Jacksy · Apr 27, 2025

So I'm a long time lurker on this site. I've been very interested in having my wife in the lifestyle and finally brought it up to her. To my relief she was more intrigued than upset.

Anyway, we talked about it for a few weeks but she came to the conclusion she wouldn't be comfortable talking to random men. She would have to know the person. The problem is, we aren't the most social people. Any advice for this situation would be much appreciated

Fredposer2017 · Apr 27, 2025

Hi Jennifer and Sean here. Look for clubs and meet ups for your hobbies and activities. It gives you common ground to meet and talk to potential playmates. You can then steer those conversations and meets to a more intimate level.

SngleBullMaster · Apr 27, 2025

Just ease into it as friends and do friend activities , dinner , movies , hit the bars , just get to know each other then ease yourself into it

Wantsomefunto · May 8, 2025

Maybe talk to her about if she knows anyone she would be comfortable with flirting with? At work or a friend

Shhaster · May 14, 2025

The best thing to do is find out if there is a club for the lifestyle(swingers). They understand the rules that it is casual.

ThisPussy · May 14, 2025

She has already fantasized about someone she knows, they all do! ask her!

If she claims she hasn’t, then task her with coming up with an answer. Give her a timeframe, maybe a week to sit down and talk about it again. At the very least she’ll be forced to think about all the men she knows as a potential sexual partner.
Focusing her imagination on other men she knows will gently nudge her along

If that doesn’t work,

When my 50+ Wife and I were at the same point you are right now, I told her I wanted her to do a Lingerie photo shoot because I wanted a professionally done photo album of her in sexy outfits.

I promised to set it up (no pressure on her) and hired a local photographer that I screened, a good looking guy in his late 20’s. Arranged the shoot and told her to go shopping for new lingerie, “the naughtier the better”

When she had the resulting proofs from the photo session she slid one to me (the last attached photo) and said “right after this pic I was so horny I fucked the photographer!”

She apologized (😂) and said “being dressed like that for the camera and completely on display to a guy I didn’t know made me feel really sexy!”

The photographer had been tasked and earned his bonus!

TallBWCArizona · May 22, 2025

Jacksy said:
So I'm a long time lurker on this site. I've been very interested in having my wife in the lifestyle and finally brought it up to her. To my relief she was more intrigued than upset.

Anyway, we talked about it for a few weeks but she came to the conclusion she wouldn't be comfortable talking to random men. She would have to know the person. The problem is, we aren't the most social people. Any advice for this situation would be much appreciated

Of course she couldn't do that with a random man. She could not do it with a random man. So you need to start setting up a valid real authentic friendship with a man. Someone you both enjoy doing things with. Contact me and I will tell you how you can do it. And you will enjoy it. Both of you will. 🥰

Bowlerlb · May 22, 2025

Jacksy said:
So I'm a long time lurker on this site. I've been very interested in having my wife in the lifestyle and finally brought it up to her. To my relief she was more intrigued than upset.

Anyway, we talked about it for a few weeks but she came to the conclusion she wouldn't be comfortable talking to random men. She would have to know the person. The problem is, we aren't the most social people. Any advice for this situation would be much appreciated

Here is a few blog sites for couples. Have a look and see if she might enjoy any of them.