Our wannabe adventure

[Xenon44]

While we are working on setting up something with someone new, I thought I would try some additional fantasy play to see if I can test D’s boundaries a bit. For background, she does not describe her HW reluctance in moral or religious terms – she certainly learned from her conservative upbringing that sex should be between two people in a committed relationship, but this principle falls away for her if both parties agree and there is no cheating. But she still has an ill-defined physical or emotional feeling of discomfort with connecting physically with another man, actually including any encouragement, such as mostly normal interactions like flirting or dancing with another (she is getting better about dancing, mostly through exposure).

Here is the scenario I have planned for her to see whether, in fantasy, she can overcome her resistance.

Fantasy Play

D is locked in our room and cannot escape. The following note is on the bed:

Dear Love of Mine:

This is a form of psychological BDSM; so please be aware of this, and if it becomes too much, have safe word at the ready.

You have been kidnapped. You see that you are in a small, plain room, bed, chair, that’s it; a bit of light filters in. A man comes in with food and water. It turns out that he is quite good-looking, a Group C guy (meaning someone she finds attractive), except of course for the possibly detracting element that he has kidnapped you, thus, perhaps, making it difficult for you to appreciate his better attributes. He has told you each day that you are beautiful and that he wants your body, but that he will wait with some patience for you to make up your mind yes or no. And he does, he waits several days, brings you simple food and drink, to go with your simple quarters. He does not make physical demands on you, or even engage in conversation. He simply brings food and water, one day, and then another.

You can see where this is going, dear – you are naturally furious at having been kidnapped but also nervous and scared. You have certainly noticed that he is not unattractive, but with your strong character and profound commitment to your husband, you are probably confident that you will be able to resist his advances. At the same time, he has made it very clear what direction he wants this to take, and he has made it clear that even though he is patient, his patience will have its limits. And then there is the fact that your husband would absolutely love it if you returned and told him not only were you safe and sound but that you had made him a cuckold. But over these passing days, you still you resist – aware of the conflicting emotions that you have experienced, and that we have discussed in some detail. I suspect that you are right now vowing to yourself that you will resist as much as possible, and hope that you can somehow find a way to escape, or that someone will come rescue you – and under the circumstances you’re pretty sure that that person will not be your husband ;-). This fantasy is an exploration of whether you can find a way to overcome the conflict, open yourself fully to the possibility of being embraced by another, and release into your own passions and desires.​

The days are long and dull. Presently, you will hear a knock at the door, and your captor (we’ll call him Maurice) will enter. Hope you enjoy!

Love,

X

 

[Xenon44]

Next ensues the following questions and prompts in live dialogue with her, designed to see if she will, in roleplay, be able to overcome the feelings of conflict and adapt her psychology to the hotwife mentality.

On the 6th day of your captivity, Maurice comes in and asks: Will you accede to my request?

Why do you not accede? You have been apart from your husband for some days, and surely you miss the closeness and companionship of skin touching skin.

You do not accede b/c your husband would object?

You do not accede b/c you would not find it pleasant.

Very well; this night you are free to keep your treasures to yourself, but I will return.

Night 7: I want your body – you are so attractive; when I saw you coming out of the market I knew, I just had to have you; so I waited and planned a way to take you without attracting attention. And now I have you. And all I ask is that you permit me to worship you and your body. Will you accede?

8th night, I want your body, and my patience is starting to wear. I don’t want to force you against your will, but I am not above applying pressure or even violence in order to achieve your willing submission.

What level of violence will cause you to accede?

[I.e., I hope to engage her in a calculation of what level of physical pain would be greater than the emotional pain/conflict that would follow; e.g., she will be making a statement about how much pain she experienced, e.g., with Dean.]

E.g., perhaps it is 50 lashes and she still says No. “The Christian martyrs would accept death, torture, anything and would not renounce their faith. But you, you tell me you are not a Christian. What is the principle on which you stand? None, right? It is just the fear of a conflicting emotion that may seep into you if you accede to allow me to worship your body.”

However, perhaps once she accedes, on threat of extreme physical violence, perhaps she can be coaxed throughout the course of the experience, to enjoy it.

Scene:

X: I know you do this not according to your will; I know that you are tied up here specifically so that you cannot resist even if at some point during our encounter you change your mind and decide that it is a bad idea. My name is Maurice.

However, as I described previously, I am a patient man. I am so patient that I am going to sit here, caressing you, worshiping you. You state that you do not want it, and you state that you only accede on the threat of 50 lashes, an incredible amount of pain. And yet, as I am lying here, caressing your nipple, I notice that it is becoming erect. I notice that the other nipple is having this response as well. I suspect that, if I were to reach between your legs, I might discover moisture, a suggestion that your body is responding.

And I will continue to play with your breasts; caress them, worship them, and then I will touch your pussy. And you may find that, despite your protestations, and resistance, you may find that the touch of a handsome man is pleasurable. You have been my captive now for a week; the walls of the room are bare; you have a bed, and a chair, but it is pretty isolated, and you may find the touch on your pussy to be pleasurable.

I hope, through this gentle beginning, that you find the feelings of conflict and betrayal are barely noticeable; you may find that it just feels . . . good. I won’t tell you that it feels like love, or that you necessarily feel an emotional connection to me, but you may find that the physical sensation, by itself, carries a certain pleasure.

And it is OK if that is the case – you need not resist my touch, you have already agreed to forego the 50 lashes, so it is OK to just release into your own pleasure. It is OK to move your hips in rhythm to my touch.

There we go, yes.

Do you want me to apply the vibrator?

Y

What do you want now?

Do you want a cock?

Whose cock do you want?

My name is Maurice.

Whose cock do you want?

Hopefully, she then asks for Maurice’s cock . . .

 

[Xenon44]

So, what do you think? Is this a good idea? Do you have thoughts about the psychological and emotional approach here? Any suggestions about how to fine-tune or adapt this structure? I hope to hear your ideas!!

 

[Nothingtoreport]

So, what do you think? Is this a good idea? Do you have thoughts about the psychological and emotional approach here? Any suggestions about how to fine-tune or adapt this structure? I hope to hear your ideas!!

Not to be a Debbie Downer, but you don't think this is a bit much?

 

[Xenon44]

Lol, perhaps . . . I do tend to obsess about these things

 

[toolman2c]

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sexy for sure, I bet she has a eXcitingly sexy butt n thighs hiding inside those pants, I'd love 2c her bottom half, clothed, shorts, or undies,. "make my day" here or I hope in DM 2me. 'color me anxious'...

 

[toolman2c]

This was a great time, and I could tell from D’s reaction that she was aroused as well. The next day, I asked if she had a good time, and she said, “Yes.” And “I liked seeing the look of excitement and desire in your eyes.” Over the next few days, we re-visited this experience, and the basic summary is that she had a good time, enjoyed it, but still would have preferred to spend the evening with me alone. That stung a bit, because I had always hoped that she would do this for her own pleasure as well as mine. But at least she did enjoy it!

Over the next few months, we visited a few more sex clubs, and had some interesting times, but nothing to compare with the night with Dean. And then, disaster! Many months later, D finally admitted to me: she did not want a repeat of that night and, in fact, felt acutely conflicted emotionally. Feeling his hard cock pressing into her, she knew this was real, and felt threatened and a range of other emotions – desire, excitement, pleasure at seeing my arousal, but also fear and anxiety, and these negative emotions overpowered the positive ones.

Wow, this set us back a fair bit! I was angry and hurt that she had not been honest about her feelings, for one thing. And of course I was also upset that it looked like my dreams of watching her be pleased by another man were at an end. This caused quite a rift in our relationship, as we sorted things out over the next few months. First, re-connecting on the importance of emotional honesty, and then on my hotwife dreams, and that proved to be quite a tough nut. Eventually, through a lot of conversation, and some roleplay, D and I realized that, at least at first, it is not helpful for her to converse with another man (things we had done to help her to feel comfortable interacting with a stranger), or even search for someone she found "hot." Instead, this might only work if she is totally unaware of who the person is who is pleasuring her. So we decided, blindfold, headphones, and start with a massage, with me responsible for her lower half, and the stranger responsible for her upper half – then, when she feels relaxed and starting to enjoy herself, and only when she feels comfortable, she will decide to roll over, exposing her awesome breasts and allowing him to caress her.

I am currently making plans for a stranger willing to please her under these circumstances, as the two of us make our way in baby steps toward a heightened and magical sexual experience. Here's hoping this will work!

for her sake and complete sexual freedom, I sure Hope this works All the way to her getting a new bare naked cock that thrills her so much that she cums as he deep seeds her yearning hot treasured pussy..

 

[toolman2c]

So, what do you think? Is this a good idea? Do you have thoughts about the psychological and emotional approach here? Any suggestions about how to fine-tune or adapt this structure? I hope to hear your ideas!!

I think ur thinking wrong, you need to do lots of social events, include entertaining at home , always have ur buddies over, pick a buddy that's a studly guy that you know she likes, tell him she confessed she desires to fuck him, that will put a fire in him, tell her that he has bravely told you that if he ever get the chance he was going to explore All her bedroom talents, and he means to be skin2skin and balls deep when he blast his seeds up inside her yearning hot treasured pussy.. Play this all the way until this life changing event happens....Good Luck.

 

[Xenon44]

you need to do lots of social events

Good thinking, toolman, and at this point she is only barely willing to confess that she finds another man attractive -- social interactions, especially, e.g., flirting, are uncomfortable. She has, on occasion, especially at a sex club, been willing to engage men in conversation, and truthfully I think she liked the power she felt. The conversations are usually to the point -- e.g., "here's what I am willing to consider doing with you." But flirting is pretty much out of the question (and she likes erotic dance for me, and is OK with others watching, but doesn't like to dance for other men). And then as to sexual contact itself, she shies away because of the fear of emotional conflict. For the moment she likes some fantasy play, and is at least willing to try the anonymous route so I'm pleased as can be about that!

Additional photos may take some time . . .

 

[CONST65]

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I like your basic idess you list fays is this a few hour but said over days. Or do.you want this a little bit every day .? Is she truly becoming interested. Bob

 

[Xenon44]

Oh, it's all in one evening, with the "days" really unfolding in her imagination to a few hours. We haven't tried this yet, but I plan to soon -- will let you know how it goes!

 

[Makis13]

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Those breasts must be looking amazing..

 

[CONST65]

Oh, it's all in one evening, with the "days" really unfolding in her imagination to a few hours. We haven't tried this yet, but I plan to soon -- will let you know how it goes!

I think it vould really work.out take it dloe but keep.encouraging her tease blindfold
edge.her toys etc sooner or later.she will submit and it will be very rewarding. Bob

 

[memories]

Understand how exciting and yet frustrating situation you are in. Similar here, at first..we are both professionals, and like you, I talked my lovely into going to an off premises swing club just once so she could experience it..with me..no obligation to do anything other than be with me and observe. She too is tall, very long hair , about 118 lbs with long legs. I had suggested some clothes and she did not object to a short skirt, heels, white almost see thru top, and white thong. The place we went to was clean, but like yours, a bit on the shady side. They did have a DJ, about 30people there. We danced a few times, she had a drink which loosend her up..When we danced, I would caress her ass gently, hiking her flimsy skirt up a bit in back.
She started getting more comfortable and when two younger, very sexy girls, got up to dance on the stage I encouraged her to join them. Right beside the stage was a large fan which when she went up on stage blew her skirt up, which embarassed her, but excited me. The three danced and the other two would pull their skirts up showing complete nakedness except for their thongs...It didnt take long and my wife was doing the same thing. You can understand how excited I was, and a bit uncomfortable...at first. She came back to sit with me at which time I suggested she give me her thong..Hesitant at first, she then slid it off, put it in her purse, and we went to dance..again, I hiked her skirt up so all the people could see she was commando...she then went over by the fan, letting it blow her skirt up giving everyone a nice view.
Right after that we noticed a young black man at a table by himself..nice looking, well dressed..SHE mentioned he looked lonely and wanted to invite him to our table...he had been looking at her so she smiled, got up, and soon he was sitting with us. Very nice, good conversationalist, and handsome. In about 30 minutes we told him we needed to go, and he asked if he could escort us out. Wife agreed and when we got to the parking lot he asked Ashley if she would join him in his truck to talk..with me being there, she felt ok and when he opened the door for her she got in, me standing outside. It was a warm night in the South USA, so windows done..he was touching her leg and bent over to kiss her..no problem for her..he massaged one breast and she reached for his slacks and found a very hard very long cock which she took out and stroked it and licked it. They exchanged phone numbers..he was married, and told us he loved white married women as they dont cause any issues. They talked on the phone a few times when we decided to meet again..I got a room for them..he didnt want me there, but Ashley told me he was a very good lover..we met him again and they went to dinner, and back to our room.
Hate to write so much, but just wanted to wish both of you luck and a happy wonderful time, not matter what you end up doing..patience is a virtue, and it took me sometime to convince my wife that love is love..sex is sex..

 

[dickhurtz]

Understand how exciting and yet frustrating situation you are in. Similar here, at first..we are both professionals, and like you, I talked my lovely into going to an off premises swing club just once so she could experience it..with me..no obligation to do anything other than be with me and observe. She too is tall, very long hair , about 118 lbs with long legs. I had suggested some clothes and she did not object to a short skirt, heels, white almost see thru top, and white thong. The place we went to was clean, but like yours, a bit on the shady side. They did have a DJ, about 30people there. We danced a few times, she had a drink which loosend her up..When we danced, I would caress her ass gently, hiking her flimsy skirt up a bit in back.
She started getting more comfortable and when two younger, very sexy girls, got up to dance on the stage I encouraged her to join them. Right beside the stage was a large fan which when she went up on stage blew her skirt up, which embarassed her, but excited me. The three danced and the other two would pull their skirts up showing complete nakedness except for their thongs...It didnt take long and my wife was doing the same thing. You can understand how excited I was, and a bit uncomfortable...at first. She came back to sit with me at which time I suggested she give me her thong..Hesitant at first, she then slid it off, put it in her purse, and we went to dance..again, I hiked her skirt up so all the people could see she was commando...she then went over by the fan, letting it blow her skirt up giving everyone a nice view.
Right after that we noticed a young black man at a table by himself..nice looking, well dressed..SHE mentioned he looked lonely and wanted to invite him to our table...he had been looking at her so she smiled, got up, and soon he was sitting with us. Very nice, good conversationalist, and handsome. In about 30 minutes we told him we needed to go, and he asked if he could escort us out. Wife agreed and when we got to the parking lot he asked Ashley if she would join him in his truck to talk..with me being there, she felt ok and when he opened the door for her she got in, me standing outside. It was a warm night in the South USA, so windows done..he was touching her leg and bent over to kiss her..no problem for her..he massaged one breast and she reached for his slacks and found a very hard very long cock which she took out and stroked it and licked it. They exchanged phone numbers..he was married, and told us he loved white married women as they dont cause any issues. They talked on the phone a few times when we decided to meet again..I got a room for them..he didnt want me there, but Ashley told me he was a very good lover..we met him again and they went to dinner, and back to our room.
Hate to write so much, but just wanted to wish both of you luck and a happy wonderful time, not matter what you end up doing..patience is a virtue, and it took me sometime to convince my wife that love is love..sex is sex..

well done.

 

[toolman2c]

Yes that’s what I keep hoping. It started a dozen years ago when I could perform more often and it just didn’t matter how often she was always up for it and enjoyed it, even though she didn’t always come. It just seemed that she somehow wanted more but couldn’t find a way to tell me.

I'm 62 with a 46yo not shared sexy wife of 20yrs, I can relate j

 

[Xenon44]

Those breasts must be looking amazing..

Yes, they truly are beautiful -- well shaped, full, beautifully placed nipples, and, what I like the best . . . they respond to the touch.

 

[Xenon44]

Understand how exciting and yet frustrating situation you are in. Similar here, at first..we are both professionals, and like you, I talked my lovely into going to an off premises swing club just once so she could experience it..with me..no obligation to do anything other than be with me and observe. She too is tall, very long hair , about 118 lbs with long legs. I had suggested some clothes and she did not object to a short skirt, heels, white almost see thru top, and white thong. The place we went to was clean, but like yours, a bit on the shady side. They did have a DJ, about 30people there. We danced a few times, she had a drink which loosend her up..When we danced, I would caress her ass gently, hiking her flimsy skirt up a bit in back.

Oooh, this is so exciting, memories, thanks for sharing! D has become comfortable with dancing and revealing her body in sex clubs, especially where at least one or two other women are dancing. She tells me she likes dancing for me and she likes how excited she can make me. She has not gotten to the point where she will touch another man, or permit him to touch her in a sexual way (though she is willing to try this in certain controlled circumstances). I hope we get to the place where you were in this incident -- inspiring!