Rejection

[yearzero]

I have a question for both men and women

Ladies as a Hotwife how do you handle rejection from men?
Men who promise you all and the chats go good and then the meet, the sex is amazing and after he is done he just slowly disappears never to be heard from again?
Men how do you build up your Wife’s confidence once something like this has happened>
Please note I am talking about personal experience and my wife has Major Self-conscious Body issues

 

[Insatiable]

This happens. There was guilt in the guys mind afterwards (cheating?) or simply there was no click for him. It is quite difficult to find an ongoing thing with a single guy.

Another thing is getting to the point of a date.

It has usually nothing to do how the hotwife looks like. We have set up many dates where they didn’t show up but afterwards they would sometimes come back to excuse themselves. You won’t believe how many grandmothers have died, how many car accidents happened, how many people ended up in the hospital while under way to our date.
The simple fact is that these are just some poor lonely guys that fantasize about really fucking a willing and sexy women. And it just gets too much for them. Nothing to do with your wife and/or how you both look!

(Yes, both because sometimes a guy can get intimidated (for no reason) by the husband)

 

[yearzero]

This happens. There was guilt in the guys mind afterwards (cheating?) or simply there was no click for him. It is quite difficult to find an ongoing thing with a single guy.

Another thing is getting to the point of a date.

It has usually nothing to do how the hotwife looks like. We have set up many dates where they didn’t show up but afterwards they would sometimes come back to excuse themselves. You won’t believe how many grandmothers have died, how many car accidents happened, how many people ended up in the hospital while under way to our date.
The simple fact is that these are just some poor lonely guys that fantasize about really fucking a willing and sexy women. And it just gets too much for them. Nothing to do with your wife and/or how you both look!

(Yes, both because sometimes a guy can get intimidated (for no reason) by the husband)

HI thanks for the reply
It is not always easy to see it from the other side.
Sometimes I just think it is Guys that want a cheap thrill to. And give them self-up as being theses Bulls
But really just a fuck and forget guy or gets off on dirty talk and pics

 

[Discretefun66]

This is a great question and one that we have wondered about as well. It has been especially frustrating for us because e go in to tis letting the other guy know exactly what our expectations are. Particularly that we want an "on-going" thing not a one and done. Fortunately we have not have a situation where we met once and then they disappeared but after a few get togethers they all of a sudden fade out. This has happened multiple times, we meet 3 or 4 times, everything seems to be going well and then we don't hear from them. Our theory is that at first the idea of fucking another guys wife seems like it would be fun but then for whatever reason this thrill disappears. We would really like to know why these guys lose interest because yes, it is a bit of a blow to the wife's self esteem. She does get in to them and for them to just bail out is not cool.

 

[yearzero]

You See

Done a lot of thinking about this and the wife and I talked a lot
Think it has a lot to do with the fact that the “men” do not like the idea of either being watched if that is the scenario or the fact that if they are alone with the women that they know the women are going to go home to the husband and give him the intimate details of the meeting

Almost like they are been “Judged” in a way and it impacts on their EGO

I don’t know
just a thought

This is a great question and one that we have wondered about as well. It has been especially frustrating for us because e go in to tis letting the other guy know exactly what our expectations are. Particularly that we want an "on-going" thing not a one and done. Fortunately we have not have a situation where we met once and then they disappeared but after a few get togethers they all of a sudden fade out. This has happened multiple times, we meet 3 or 4 times, everything seems to be going well and then we don't hear from them. Our theory is that at first the idea of fucking another guys wife seems like it would be fun but then for whatever reason this thrill disappears. We would really like to know why these guys lose interest because yes, it is a bit of a blow to the wife's self esteem. She does get in to them and for them to just bail out is not cool.

 

[Hwcouple702]

"Ladies as a Hotwife how do you handle rejection from men?
Men who promise you all and the chats go good and then the meet, the sex is amazing and after he is done he just slowly disappears never to be heard from again?
Men how do you build up your Wife’s confidence once something like this has happened>
Please note I am talking about personal experience and my wife has Major Self-conscious Body issues"




That's not a bad situation. They both get laid and he goes away. Perfect. If he was particularly great then she may want to see him a bit more regularly, but one and done is probably the norm. That's way better than a guy who gets clingy or weird. Chalk it up to either a good or great sexual experience or sometimes even a not very satisfying sexual experience. However you do it, if "rejection" is an issue, the hotwife lifestyle def isn't for you.

If she has "body issues" then fucking other men is not going to make those issues disappear. She MUST begin working on fixing her issues through an appropriate fitness, diet or mental health program. It takes tons of work but that's how those issues are fixed. Starting with small steps and continuing relentlessly until she has the body and mindset that no longer gives her "issures". There are all types of bodies in the lifestyle and everybody finds somebody they enjoy playing with. Many times body confidence issues are found among even those most would consider to be the ideal body.

Bottom line, either find a way to be comfortable where you are or do whatever it takes to transform yourself into something closer to what you envision being. There is no substitute for hard work and attention to all things which affect your body. You get to decide what you want and then how hard you want to work in order to alter whatever it is you are uncomfortable with. But body issues are no way to go through life and finding a way to be happy and confident with your body issues is a solid course of action.

 

[Charles]

"Ladies as a Hotwife how do you handle rejection from men?
Men who promise you all and the chats go good and then the meet, the sex is amazing and after he is done he just slowly disappears never to be heard from again?
Men how do you build up your Wife’s confidence once something like this has happened>
Please note I am talking about personal experience and my wife has Major Self-conscious Body issues"




That's not a bad situation. They both get laid and he goes away. Perfect. If he was particularly great then she may want to see him a bit more regularly, but one and done is probably the norm. That's way better than a guy who gets clingy or weird. Chalk it up to either a good or great sexual experience or sometimes even a not very satisfying sexual experience. However you do it, if "rejection" is an issue, the hotwife lifestyle def isn't for you.

If she has "body issues" then fucking other men is not going to make those issues disappear. She MUST begin working on fixing her issues through an appropriate fitness, diet or mental health program. It takes tons of work but that's how those issues are fixed. Starting with small steps and continuing relentlessly until she has the body and mindset that no longer gives her "issures". There are all types of bodies in the lifestyle and everybody finds somebody they enjoy playing with. Many times body confidence issues are found among even those most would consider to be the ideal body.

Bottom line, either find a way to be comfortable where you are or do whatever it takes to transform yourself into something closer to what you envision being. There is no substitute for hard work and attention to all things which affect your body. You get to decide what you want and then how hard you want to work in order to alter whatever it is you are uncomfortable with. But body issues are no way to go through life and finding a way to be happy and confident with your body issues is a solid course of action.

Very well said!!