She almost agreed... (Need Advice)

[aspiringcuck98]

Hi, last weekend went out clubbing with my gf. She and I were both high. Danced a little. Then after some time, she brought up my fantasy of a MFM threesome which she thinks is hot. I asked her if we were to ever do it, what kind of a guy does she want. So she started describing a tall, muscular dude with a big cock. We started discussing further and I told her to go flirt or even make out with some guy to give her assurance that I will be fine but she did not go through with it saying "I dont see anyone here that I want to make out with". Then we got out and I asked her if she'd be open to creating a profile on an app. We chose Fetlife and created an account to find a stranger, we also did an impromptu photoshoot which she was super enthusiastic about. She also was reading all messages and even spoke to a couple of guys. We then had great sex multiple times and then she wanted to get on that app. Overall could see she was excited. She was even reading others experience doing this on reddit. But then yesterday she freaked out saying "you don't love me", "you want to use this as an excuse to bring in other women into the bedroom" and other things. I think she is just hesitant at this point. Any advice from you guys is greatly appreciated.

Also, I have attached the pics that she posted to Fetlife.

 

[Stevens4fun]

Hello, aspiring! I'd say you are in good shape and at some point will experience what the two of you are wanting. Many of us have heard "you just want another woman" before and with a little luck and a well-thought-out commitment to your GF, the "other woman" thing will go away. We don't have much context about your situation other than the "sharing" side of your interests so it's difficult to even add an objective comment. Just a few of experiences I had with my GF who became my wife in short order:

*despite the fact that so many men hear the "you want other women" thing, few men are prepared to deal with it. Assuming you've always been honest with your GF about sexy things like this, be consistent in reasserting that you don't seek other women. I also told my wife, "the only way I'd want another woman would be if you asked me to, or we were in a foursome scenario with another couple." She liked that as she was still mildly interested in making love to another female.

*Don't be pushy and keep bringing the whole thing up (especially while you have sex, - let her bring it up). Let it ride for a while, and see if your GF brings it up. If your GF feels like you are pushing her, she'll start a process of backing away. THAT might not have a good outcome for you. There's no sense losing an intelligent, beautiful, and loving GF over a fetish. It's a zero sum game if that happens.

*Lots of guys are totally turned on by the idea of picking the guys their GF or wife has sex with. Some guys even harbor the idea of bringing a total stranger home for their wife to fuck. When my wife and I began discussing the idea of adding another man to our bedroom, she made it clear, - the man needed to be someone she knew and could vet. And, she said, "you'll the happiest guy on earth if you just trust me and don't push." That's really what made it work so good for us.

*Make sure you understand yourself. Is this about knowing she's having great sex or seeing your wife enjoy great sex with another man on a regular basis, or is it about directing her in a video? My wife asked me to ditch the camcorder for a while until we had a feel for how the whole thing was going to work.

She's opening up to you. Take your time and enjoy her as she articulates her desires. Many guys never really get to know their wives this way.

 

[CONST65]

Hi, last weekend went out clubbing with my gf. She and I were both high. Danced a little. Then after some time, she brought up my fantasy of a MFM threesome which she thinks is hot. I asked her if we were to ever do it, what kind of a guy does she want. So she started describing a tall, muscular dude with a big cock. We started discussing further and I told her to go flirt or even make out with some guy to give her assurance that I will be fine but she did not go through with it saying "I dont see anyone here that I want to make out with". Then we got out and I asked her if she'd be open to creating a profile on an app. We chose Fetlife and created an account to find a stranger, we also did an impromptu photoshoot which she was super enthusiastic about. She also was reading all messages and even spoke to a couple of guys. We then had great sex multiple times and then she wanted to get on that app. Overall could see she was excited. She was even reading others experience doing this on reddit. But then yesterday she freaked out saying "you don't love me", "you want to use this as an excuse to bring in other women into the bedroom" and other things. I think she is just hesitant at this point. Any advice from you guys is greatly appreciated.

Also, I have attached the pics that she posted to Fetlife.View attachment 2779402

She beautiful just be totally open.with each..other wants amd needs it migjt turn into a great experience for botn.of you Bob

 

[aspiringcuck98]

Hello, aspiring! I'd say you are in good shape and at some point will experience what the two of you are wanting. Many of us have heard "you just want another woman" before and with a little luck and a well-thought-out commitment to your GF, the "other woman" thing will go away. We don't have much context about your situation other than the "sharing" side of your interests so it's difficult to even add an objective comment. Just a few of experiences I had with my GF who became my wife in short order:

*despite the fact that so many men hear the "you want other women" thing, few men are prepared to deal with it. Assuming you've always been honest with your GF about sexy things like this, be consistent in reasserting that you don't seek other women. I also told my wife, "the only way I'd want another woman would be if you asked me to, or we were in a foursome scenario with another couple." She liked that as she was still mildly interested in making love to another female.

*Don't be pushy and keep bringing the whole thing up (especially while you have sex, - let her bring it up). Let it ride for a while, and see if your GF brings it up. If your GF feels like you are pushing her, she'll start a process of backing away. THAT might not have a good outcome for you. There's no sense losing an intelligent, beautiful, and loving GF over a fetish. It's a zero sum game if that happens.

*Lots of guys are totally turned on by the idea of picking the guys their GF or wife has sex with. Some guys even harbor the idea of bringing a total stranger home for their wife to fuck. When my wife and I began discussing the idea of adding another man to our bedroom, she made it clear, - the man needed to be someone she knew and could vet. And, she said, "you'll the happiest guy on earth if you just trust me and don't push." That's really what made it work so good for us.

*Make sure you understand yourself. Is this about knowing she's having great sex or seeing your wife enjoy great sex with another man on a regular basis, or is it about directing her in a video? My wife asked me to ditch the camcorder for a while until we had a feel for how the whole thing was going to work.

She's opening up to you. Take your time and enjoy her as she articulates her desires. Many guys never really get to know their wives this way.

This is extremely good advice. Thanks! I may have messed up a little by being pushy because of excitement but henceforth, I will let her bring it up.

 

[Wantsomefunto]

You just have to reassure her you have no interest in other women, you only want this for her to have complete sexual freedom to enjoy other men

 

[nitrotexan24]

First of all, your woman is very beautiful and hot. The only advice I can give you, is to "assure" her, it is not because you want other women. If this is truly your fantasy, in having other men fuck your wife. Make her believe it. Perhaps, the men in the club, were not attractive to her wants and desires. Continue to go out where there will be men, and maybe....she will surprise you, and bring it up. I'd love to see more of your girlfriend, if you have photos of her. Good Luck

 

[Utwoscot]

Make her FEEL that you love her. DO ......!
write her little notes
Pay attention when you can't pay attention any more.
Talk to her about things she is interested in.
Lots and lots of little things.

DON't try to explain it to her.

Women do this for their husbands first and foremost, they think of themselves second.
This little bump is nothing new, it's the NUMBER ONE.