First post here so bare with me. I have been in a relationship with my partner for 2 years now and everything is going great however we have been doing Long Distance for the better half of 6 months ever since she got a job in Europe.
When she first arrived she was having fun, exploring, meeting new people, etc. However we got into an big argument one time when she told me she went out and was flirting with a guy at the bar. She did tell me he kept trying to touch her and she denied his advances but still felt excitement over it. She said it won’t happen again and wanted to tell me because she didn’t want secrets between us. I was confused after this because part of me was angry but the other part was turned on after hearing how he kept trying to touch her.
Fast forward to yesterday, we had a discussion about intimacy because she said it’s hard since we’re in a long distance relationship. She also admitted to me she has recently been fantasizing about flirting with guys at the bar and talking to someone new. I told her if she wants a one time hookup she can go for it. During our discussion she told me she didn’t want to because it sounds weird and it’ll make her feel terrible on how it would make me feel. She also told me if she were to do it she doesn’t like the idea of me flirting/ having sex with someone else because it would make her jealous.
Should I tell her I want her to flirt and hookup with another guy? Also what do you think of the situation I’m in? Thanks a million!
When she first arrived she was having fun, exploring, meeting new people, etc. However we got into an big argument one time when she told me she went out and was flirting with a guy at the bar. She did tell me he kept trying to touch her and she denied his advances but still felt excitement over it. She said it won’t happen again and wanted to tell me because she didn’t want secrets between us. I was confused after this because part of me was angry but the other part was turned on after hearing how he kept trying to touch her.
Fast forward to yesterday, we had a discussion about intimacy because she said it’s hard since we’re in a long distance relationship. She also admitted to me she has recently been fantasizing about flirting with guys at the bar and talking to someone new. I told her if she wants a one time hookup she can go for it. During our discussion she told me she didn’t want to because it sounds weird and it’ll make her feel terrible on how it would make me feel. She also told me if she were to do it she doesn’t like the idea of me flirting/ having sex with someone else because it would make her jealous.
Should I tell her I want her to flirt and hookup with another guy? Also what do you think of the situation I’m in? Thanks a million!