Should i give up?

[JonDoe88]

I have had a fantasy of seeing my wife getting fucked by a stranger for a long time now. Im very reluctant to straight up bring it up because i already know shell get mad.

But the mere thought of her getting fucked gets me so hard. Is the only way by telling her? Is there no other option where i am less hands on? I want this so bad. But i know i could never just bring it up directly to her. Should i just give up my fantasy?

Background/stats: we’re both 40s asian, both in great shape still. She is traditional conservative asian wife, hotwife is not typical in our world. She is not shy. Shes very outgoing when talking to her, but also very traditional and conservative in the bedroom.

 

[slyone80]

I have been in the same situation but continue to press on. We have brought dildos into our sex play and continue to role play with it. Plant the seed in her head, by talking with her about being with another man more for sexual pleasure and not love. There has been a few times in the last few weeks where she actually mentions how serious I’m with another man fucking her. And with all my confidence tell her I’m ready when she is. This has me willing to continue with this fantasy and hopefully one day will see her taking another dick in her. Until then I will continue to use our dildos with her and at the same time asking her how great it feels. Good luck

 

[bhappy_39]

The best way I have found is the random meet up. Don't know if you guys drink or not but I have had luck in bars. Sit at the bar with your wife. Maybe a nice gentleman will sit next to her and begin chatting her up. That has worked for us. You can always make a prearrangement for someone to meet her.

 

[bhappy_39]

I have been in the same situation but continue to press on. We have brought dildos into our sex play and continue to role play with it. Plant the seed in her head, by talking with her about being with another man more for sexual pleasure and not love. There has been a few times in the last few weeks where she actually mentions how serious I’m with another man fucking her. And with all my confidence tell her I’m ready when she is. This has me willing to continue with this fantasy and hopefully one day will see her taking another dick in her. Until then I will continue to use our dildos with her and at the same time asking her how great it feels. Good luck

Dildos work great for role playing.

 

[lurker1701]

OK so... I've seen a ton of these threads as a lurker so I'm going to give you my best shot at 20 years of experience at this.

I'm not going into the whole weird ass story about how we fell into this so long ago right now, but suffice it to say that at the end of the day it has to be a net positive in the relationship for both of you. As you've already found, no matter how much you may want it on a sexual\voyeur level the main actor in this situation is her... she must see it as something that benefits her and her relationship with you. If she winds up doing it because you nag her to death, she's going to lose respect for you as well as respect for herself and your relationship is going to suffer badly. I've seen this a lot. At the end of the day you two are a team. You don't go out on a mission with your fire team without your six (your wife) and the point guy (you) doesn't lead the team into a possible ambush. If you want this to work it needs to be you and her together.

Best recommendation from me would be to put both of you into situations that the subject would even come up in conversation naturally.

Both of you get dressed up and uber to a bar\night club... have some drinks... when the boys start looking (the boys always look at the girls dressed to party) tell her how awesome it is that you are in such a stable relationship and how love is so much more than sex. Use it as a springboard to focus on her. The more she feels comfortable about herself and her relationship with you the door may open... or maybe it won't.

Short version: Be the man she wants to go to bed with because she can depend on you to take care of her and love her.... and then one day she might open up to other things.

Nothing is guaranteed.... Good Luck

 

[keylife022]

OK so... I've seen a ton of these threads as a lurker so I'm going to give you my best shot at 20 years of experience at this.

I'm not going into the whole weird ass story about how we fell into this so long ago right now, but suffice it to say that at the end of the day it has to be a net positive in the relationship for both of you. As you've already found, no matter how much you may want it on a sexual\voyeur level the main actor in this situation is her... she must see it as something that benefits her and her relationship with you. If she winds up doing it because you nag her to death, she's going to lose respect for you as well as respect for herself and your relationship is going to suffer badly. I've seen this a lot. At the end of the day you two are a team. You don't go out on a mission with your fire team without your six (your wife) and the point guy (you) doesn't lead the team into a possible ambush. If you want this to work it needs to be you and her together.

Best recommendation from me would be to put both of you into situations that the subject would even come up in conversation naturally.

Both of you get dressed up and uber to a bar\night club... have some drinks... when the boys start looking (the boys always look at the girls dressed to party) tell her how awesome it is that you are in such a stable relationship and how love is so much more than sex. Use it as a springboard to focus on her. The more she feels comfortable about herself and her relationship with you the door may open... or maybe it won't.

Short version: Be the man she wants to go to bed with because she can depend on you to take care of her and love her.... and then one day she might open up to other things.

Nothing is guaranteed.... Good Luck

Tomorrow morning when you wake up, tell your wife you had a really strange dream while asleep. Tell her you watched her having sex with a stranger. Tell her she was incredible.
See what her reaction is.
After all, it’s just a “dream”

 

[werekinky2]

I have had a fantasy of seeing my wife getting fucked by a stranger for a long time now. Im very reluctant to straight up bring it up because i already know shell get mad.

But the mere thought of her getting fucked gets me so hard. Is the only way by telling her? Is there no other option where i am less hands on? I want this so bad. But i know i could never just bring it up directly to her. Should i just give up my fantasy?

Background/stats: we’re both 40s asian, both in great shape still. She is traditional conservative asian wife, hotwife is not typical in our world. She is not shy. Shes very outgoing when talking to her, but also very traditional and conservative in the bedroom.

I used to have some of the same issues. She finally agreed and now enjoys it

 

[thebeginner]

OK so... I've seen a ton of these threads as a lurker so I'm going to give you my best shot at 20 years of experience at this.

I'm not going into the whole weird ass story about how we fell into this so long ago right now, but suffice it to say that at the end of the day it has to be a net positive in the relationship for both of you. As you've already found, no matter how much you may want it on a sexual\voyeur level the main actor in this situation is her... she must see it as something that benefits her and her relationship with you. If she winds up doing it because you nag her to death, she's going to lose respect for you as well as respect for herself and your relationship is going to suffer badly. I've seen this a lot. At the end of the day you two are a team. You don't go out on a mission with your fire team without your six (your wife) and the point guy (you) doesn't lead the team into a possible ambush. If you want this to work it needs to be you and her together.

Best recommendation from me would be to put both of you into situations that the subject would even come up in conversation naturally.

Both of you get dressed up and uber to a bar\night club... have some drinks... when the boys start looking (the boys always look at the girls dressed to party) tell her how awesome it is that you are in such a stable relationship and how love is so much more than sex. Use it as a springboard to focus on her. The more she feels comfortable about herself and her relationship with you the door may open... or maybe it won't.

Short version: Be the man she wants to go to bed with because she can depend on you to take care of her and love her.... and then one day she might open up to other things.

Nothing is guaranteed.... Good Luck

Agree 100%. She will have to feel completely secure in her relationship with you, and know that if she ventures out to try it, you'll be there to catch her if she or both of you decide it's not for you. It will be a team effort, and she has to understand what's in it for her.

That said, don't give up hope. I was in the same situation. Took 4-5 years for the wife to come around to the idea. Now? She loves it.

I'm sure there are 101 ways to go about it, but for us it was roleplaying the idea in the bedroom and introducing the sensual versions of hotwife porn (again, plant the seed of why/how this is good for her). Also, after she became more curious about it, lots of conversations about the how and the why it had the potential to improve and strengthen our relationship.

p.s. hotwifing is not typical in any world, but you'll find couples from all worlds doing it

 

[Azncouple21]

Its a fine line persistant and being a pain in the ass about it.
I told my wife my past within the first month after we started dating.
She was more intrested on why i wanted to have 3 ways with two guys and her instead of two women and my self.
How is your pillow talk before, during and after sex?
A few things I mentioned to my wife to guage her intrest: Ask if there any hot guys at her work who she would like to fuck. Would she consider fucking on of her ex boyfriends. Is there a friend who is a male who she thinks it hot.
Ask hypotetical questions and ask her to answer honestly

 

[Azncouple21]

Its a fine line persistant and being a pain in the ass about it.
I told my wife my past within the first month after we started dating.
She was more intrested on why i wanted to have 3 ways with two guys and her instead of two women and my self.
How is your pillow talk before, during and after sex?
A few things I mentioned to my wife to guage her intrest: Ask if there any hot guys at her work who she would like to fuck. Would she consider fucking on of her ex boyfriends. Is there a friend who is a male who she thinks it hot.
Ask hypotetical questions and ask her to answer honestly

Im extremely lucky where my wife dated a black guy before me. He did not live up to the sterotypes of typical black bull. This allowed her to explore and find a black stud and we ended up finding quite few
If you want to hear, let me know

 

[CouplePlayers]

What worked for us was the pillow talk, role playing and toys. What got her over the edge was the help of a few martinis. We were at a casino bar, she was horny, flirty and dressed very sexy. We struck up conversation with a gent who was seated next to us. Good looking guy same age or so. General conversation with him. I excused myself to the men's room and upon returning, she was in deep conversation with him. She excused herself to the ladies room and when she returned, she whispered in my ear "I'm soaked and let's do it". she then tongued my ear. She then said "I'm going back to the room, don't be late and gave me a wet kiss. After a few minutes, he says to me that my wife is very attractive and friendly. At that point, I said "would you like to fuck her". He was certainly very surprised and lost for words. I wrote our room number on a napkin and told him "if you're interested, we will be waiting for you" I then left. When I arrived at our room she was naked lying on her stomach. We waited about 20 minutes and figured he was a no show. To our surprise, there was a knock on the door. When he saw her, he just began to remove his clothes and he dove in head first. licking her ass and pussy. her ass went up high. he mounted her running his shaft up n down her ass crack. she turned her head towards him and they began to make out with lots of tongue. He began to move his hips and she moaned and I knew he was penetrating her. Her Facial expressions and moans were enough to spurt and I was already leaking pre cum. I began to kiss her and felt his thrusts as his momentum increased. she grabbed my cock and then she said "can he", I just nodded to him. He then pulled out, turned her over, her legs went up high over his shoulders, he began to jack hammer her and she wrapped her legs around his butt and pulled him into her. They were both ready to cum. She then shouts out "baby its so warm" and smiles. This was the beginning of a new lifestyle for us.

 

[werekinky2]

Sounds like a familiar story I have heard before but still exciting 😊

 

[Floatsyourboat]

All of the above. The dream one works well and telling her that all other guys fancy her and leave it at. She will start noticing guys looking at her more which will back up what you’ve said. Once she sees a guy looking and she likes the look of him which she will, her mind will start ticking over. After a week (knowing she’s been out shopping or whatever) ask her if she has noticed guys looking at her or even go out with her and say did you see that guy checking out your ass. She will probably say something like oh don’t be stupid or he needs to take his eyes off then you say “ I quite like it, In fact it gave my cock a twinge. Leave it at that a few days and then say. I’m sure I saw that guy again that was checking you out, in fact can you keep a secret. Whether it’s a yea or no, depending on how open you are, say I had a wank over him fucking you this morning or I had a wet dream over him fucking you last night. It will work. Keep plugging it takes time x

 

[drakebelg]

Hmmm, difficult if you can't openly talk about your sexuality. That's what we worked on first. Then using cock sleevs really opened it up. I admitted I imagined it was someone else fucking her. Left it like that for months and even years just enjoying the fun and amazing sex . Then when I openly told her that I would be very happy for to fuck other guys she was really shocked. A few months of some difficult talks her saying no to hotwifing, no to me being there, doubting that i wasn't using it as an excuse to fuck other women.

Eventually she believed i al not looking for another woman and started opening up. Next was a difficult moment. Her saying she sees me as a beta, that i'm not great in bed .That she had amazing lovers before me that were alpha, hung dominant skilled lovers that she misses (but really loves me). That I cum too fast. This was really tough, but yeah i opened the door.
This led to severe PE, feeling more submissive and finally accepting my role and how we both see eachother. We are now in an FLR, with 24/7 chastity , her training me to be permanently a severe prejac. I didn't bring up cuckold for months and today she said she is seriously thinking about, still emotional reservations but is seriously considering it.