Should i give up?

[JonDoe88]

I have had a fantasy of seeing my wife getting fucked by a stranger for a long time now. Im very reluctant to straight up bring it up because i already know shell get mad.

But the mere thought of her getting fucked gets me so hard. Is the only way by telling her? Is there no other option where i am less hands on? I want this so bad. But i know i could never just bring it up directly to her. Should i just give up my fantasy?

Background/stats: we’re both 40s asian, both in great shape still. She is traditional conservative asian wife, hotwife is not typical in our world. She is not shy. Shes very outgoing when talking to her, but also very traditional and conservative in the bedroom.

 

[slyone80]

I have been in the same situation but continue to press on. We have brought dildos into our sex play and continue to role play with it. Plant the seed in her head, by talking with her about being with another man more for sexual pleasure and not love. There has been a few times in the last few weeks where she actually mentions how serious I’m with another man fucking her. And with all my confidence tell her I’m ready when she is. This has me willing to continue with this fantasy and hopefully one day will see her taking another dick in her. Until then I will continue to use our dildos with her and at the same time asking her how great it feels. Good luck

 

[bhappy_39]

The best way I have found is the random meet up. Don't know if you guys drink or not but I have had luck in bars. Sit at the bar with your wife. Maybe a nice gentleman will sit next to her and begin chatting her up. That has worked for us. You can always make a prearrangement for someone to meet her.

 

[bhappy_39]

I have been in the same situation but continue to press on. We have brought dildos into our sex play and continue to role play with it. Plant the seed in her head, by talking with her about being with another man more for sexual pleasure and not love. There has been a few times in the last few weeks where she actually mentions how serious I’m with another man fucking her. And with all my confidence tell her I’m ready when she is. This has me willing to continue with this fantasy and hopefully one day will see her taking another dick in her. Until then I will continue to use our dildos with her and at the same time asking her how great it feels. Good luck

Dildos work great for role playing.

 

[lurker1701]

OK so... I've seen a ton of these threads as a lurker so I'm going to give you my best shot at 20 years of experience at this.

I'm not going into the whole weird ass story about how we fell into this so long ago right now, but suffice it to say that at the end of the day it has to be a net positive in the relationship for both of you. As you've already found, no matter how much you may want it on a sexual\voyeur level the main actor in this situation is her... she must see it as something that benefits her and her relationship with you. If she winds up doing it because you nag her to death, she's going to lose respect for you as well as respect for herself and your relationship is going to suffer badly. I've seen this a lot. At the end of the day you two are a team. You don't go out on a mission with your fire team without your six (your wife) and the point guy (you) doesn't lead the team into a possible ambush. If you want this to work it needs to be you and her together.

Best recommendation from me would be to put both of you into situations that the subject would even come up in conversation naturally.

Both of you get dressed up and uber to a bar\night club... have some drinks... when the boys start looking (the boys always look at the girls dressed to party) tell her how awesome it is that you are in such a stable relationship and how love is so much more than sex. Use it as a springboard to focus on her. The more she feels comfortable about herself and her relationship with you the door may open... or maybe it won't.

Short version: Be the man she wants to go to bed with because she can depend on you to take care of her and love her.... and then one day she might open up to other things.

Nothing is guaranteed.... Good Luck

 

[keylife022]

OK so... I've seen a ton of these threads as a lurker so I'm going to give you my best shot at 20 years of experience at this.

I'm not going into the whole weird ass story about how we fell into this so long ago right now, but suffice it to say that at the end of the day it has to be a net positive in the relationship for both of you. As you've already found, no matter how much you may want it on a sexual\voyeur level the main actor in this situation is her... she must see it as something that benefits her and her relationship with you. If she winds up doing it because you nag her to death, she's going to lose respect for you as well as respect for herself and your relationship is going to suffer badly. I've seen this a lot. At the end of the day you two are a team. You don't go out on a mission with your fire team without your six (your wife) and the point guy (you) doesn't lead the team into a possible ambush. If you want this to work it needs to be you and her together.

Best recommendation from me would be to put both of you into situations that the subject would even come up in conversation naturally.

Both of you get dressed up and uber to a bar\night club... have some drinks... when the boys start looking (the boys always look at the girls dressed to party) tell her how awesome it is that you are in such a stable relationship and how love is so much more than sex. Use it as a springboard to focus on her. The more she feels comfortable about herself and her relationship with you the door may open... or maybe it won't.

Short version: Be the man she wants to go to bed with because she can depend on you to take care of her and love her.... and then one day she might open up to other things.

Nothing is guaranteed.... Good Luck

Tomorrow morning when you wake up, tell your wife you had a really strange dream while asleep. Tell her you watched her having sex with a stranger. Tell her she was incredible.
See what her reaction is.
After all, it’s just a “dream”

 

[werekinky2]

I have had a fantasy of seeing my wife getting fucked by a stranger for a long time now. Im very reluctant to straight up bring it up because i already know shell get mad.

But the mere thought of her getting fucked gets me so hard. Is the only way by telling her? Is there no other option where i am less hands on? I want this so bad. But i know i could never just bring it up directly to her. Should i just give up my fantasy?

Background/stats: we’re both 40s asian, both in great shape still. She is traditional conservative asian wife, hotwife is not typical in our world. She is not shy. Shes very outgoing when talking to her, but also very traditional and conservative in the bedroom.

I used to have some of the same issues. She finally agreed and now enjoys it

 

[thebeginner]

OK so... I've seen a ton of these threads as a lurker so I'm going to give you my best shot at 20 years of experience at this.

I'm not going into the whole weird ass story about how we fell into this so long ago right now, but suffice it to say that at the end of the day it has to be a net positive in the relationship for both of you. As you've already found, no matter how much you may want it on a sexual\voyeur level the main actor in this situation is her... she must see it as something that benefits her and her relationship with you. If she winds up doing it because you nag her to death, she's going to lose respect for you as well as respect for herself and your relationship is going to suffer badly. I've seen this a lot. At the end of the day you two are a team. You don't go out on a mission with your fire team without your six (your wife) and the point guy (you) doesn't lead the team into a possible ambush. If you want this to work it needs to be you and her together.

Best recommendation from me would be to put both of you into situations that the subject would even come up in conversation naturally.

Both of you get dressed up and uber to a bar\night club... have some drinks... when the boys start looking (the boys always look at the girls dressed to party) tell her how awesome it is that you are in such a stable relationship and how love is so much more than sex. Use it as a springboard to focus on her. The more she feels comfortable about herself and her relationship with you the door may open... or maybe it won't.

Short version: Be the man she wants to go to bed with because she can depend on you to take care of her and love her.... and then one day she might open up to other things.

Nothing is guaranteed.... Good Luck

Agree 100%. She will have to feel completely secure in her relationship with you, and know that if she ventures out to try it, you'll be there to catch her if she or both of you decide it's not for you. It will be a team effort, and she has to understand what's in it for her.

That said, don't give up hope. I was in the same situation. Took 4-5 years for the wife to come around to the idea. Now? She loves it.

I'm sure there are 101 ways to go about it, but for us it was roleplaying the idea in the bedroom and introducing the sensual versions of hotwife porn (again, plant the seed of why/how this is good for her). Also, after she became more curious about it, lots of conversations about the how and the why it had the potential to improve and strengthen our relationship.

p.s. hotwifing is not typical in any world, but you'll find couples from all worlds doing it