I greatly desire the thoughts/insights of the knowledgeable practitioners found here on the husband's role in this type of arrangement. First some background. My wife and I have recently begun playing with the hotwife fantasy, primarily with me (the husband) being a cuckold. However, my wife is very shy and submissive, and would need me to arrange everything if things were ever to go from the fantasy stage towards any kind of reality. Now much of cuckolding literature involves the husband reverting to a much more submissive role as his wife (1) becomes more comfortable with her new role, and then (2) starts to enjoy it. Often in these scenarios, there is a good deal of welcome humiliation going on, as well as the husband becoming subservient to both his wife and her boyfriend. My question is, does it need to be that way? I think not. My own perspective is that I might very well like to watch another man sexually pleasure my wife, to revel in her enjoyment of a type of sex that I have difficulty providing for her, however, we both (my wife and I) are enjoying the encounter, which only takes place as long as we are both getting what we want from it. In that sense, the "boyfriend" is much more like a living sex toy than a quasi-dominant player with any king of rights to sexual favors from the wife or position of alpha dominance over the husband. I believe this attitude makes me more stag than cuckold...
Now it is true that marital relationships do evolve and change over time, and what might be true today might not be true tomorrow, but those dynamics begin with and can remain with the original husband-wife pair. While it may also be true that once out, the genie can never be completely, put back in the bottle, as long as the genie is granting our wishes alone, if the lines of communication are open between husband and wife with no deception (including engaging in self-deception), what pitfalls do any of you see going forward? Also, what is your take on separating sex from love, and should a husband expect that his wife will to some extant fall in love with a new man that is fucking her and providing deeply pleasurable sex with passion? Can one fall in love with a cock and not fall in love with that cock's owner?
My appreciation in advance...
Now it is true that marital relationships do evolve and change over time, and what might be true today might not be true tomorrow, but those dynamics begin with and can remain with the original husband-wife pair. While it may also be true that once out, the genie can never be completely, put back in the bottle, as long as the genie is granting our wishes alone, if the lines of communication are open between husband and wife with no deception (including engaging in self-deception), what pitfalls do any of you see going forward? Also, what is your take on separating sex from love, and should a husband expect that his wife will to some extant fall in love with a new man that is fucking her and providing deeply pleasurable sex with passion? Can one fall in love with a cock and not fall in love with that cock's owner?
My appreciation in advance...