BTW, I've been to Lausanne a couple of times. We have some old family friends that live there.
The best and easy way to convince your wife
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I really think you’re already in a very good place. The fact that she can play with the hot-wife fantasy, even lightly, shows that she isn’t closed to the idea at all. That alone is a huge step and many couples never even reach that point.
What’s even more encouraging is that you can actually see her evolving and growing more comfortable. That means there is movement, a positive dynamic, and that’s often what matters most. When someone starts shifting, even slowly, it usually keeps progressing as long as everything feels safe, playful, and free of pressure.
From my own experience, those small challenges and those moments where she becomes a little sexier each time, always with a reward and with positive reinforcement, can be incredibly effective. It builds confidence, desire, and a sense of freedom rather than fear or guilt.
If you keep nurturing this dynamic with the same patience and the same supportive energy, you won’t need to envy anything. With time, trust, and the right rhythm, you may be surprised by how far she is willing to go, and you might one day have the chance to see her give herself fully in a way that’s deeply meaningful for both of you.
You’re already on the right track. Stay patient, stay supportive, and stay playful!!!
Find a respectful guy online and get her to chat with him, I would be willing of you would like
be patient, this does not happen overnight it can take a few years, just don't give up on the fantasy
When she's in the middle of a orgasm whisper to her you want to share her with other men
JessaBobroc
Couple
It does work this way. Be patient and build her confidence to lose her inhibitions. Definitely the right way! I did it with Jessa in a very similar way!
We had a first threesome, and I was very afraid of doing it a second time.
My fear came from the idea that what was once an exception might start to feel repeatable or expected.
I was scared of losing control of the dynamic and of not knowing where the limits would end up.
There was also the fear that I might no longer feel free to say no without disappointing my wife.
In the end, the second time was actually even better, because I was more involved and present.
We adapted the dynamic in the moment based on what I wanted and what felt right for me.
Now we plan to do it again, but this time I want to be more in the background and mostly watch.
We talked openly about my role, my desires, and my boundaries.
She likes that we experiment together as a couple.
She does not judge me, and I do not judge her.
My advice to you and your wife: keep talking before and after, make sure every “yes” is chosen and never expected, and remember that you can always adjust, pause, or stop. What protects the experience is not the fantasy itself, but trust, clarity, and respecting each other’s limits.
From my side, this choice came from wanting my wife to experience the best possible pleasure.
I’m very aware of my own limits, including physical ones, and I don’t see that as a failure.
There are things I simply cannot offer, and instead of denying that, I chose to integrate it honestly into our relationship.
Seeing her enjoy a different kind of pleasure with someone else does not threaten what we share.
On the contrary, I find it exciting to witness her access a side of herself that only emerges in that specific context.
For us, the men she sees are not competitors, but sources of a different kind of stimulation, comparable to a toy or an external experience.
Just like she can enjoy a device on her own without it diminishing our intimacy, this does not take anything away from us.
I feel no jealousy because her pleasure belongs to her, and our bond is not based on exclusivity of sensations.
What excites me is the raw, instinctive, almost primal energy that appears in those moments.
We experience this as something we explore together, with trust, consent, and no judgment on either side.
make her comfortable with the fact that it’s what you want. She’s probably more concerned that you will be upset in the moment so just reassure her throughout “you are so hot right now” and “you look so sexy riding him” etc.
dinoo-2
Male
What is the best and easiest way to convince my wife?
Even before we were married, my future wife had no problem flirting with other men.
She would even French kiss a guy in front of me. But that was an exception, to be honest.
It took decades for her to suggest visiting a sex club.
Easy or not?
Even before we were married, my future wife had no problem flirting with other men.
She would even French kiss a guy in front of me. But that was an exception, to be honest.
It took decades for her to suggest visiting a sex club.
Easy or not?
dinoo-2
Male
Well, we did.
My wife chose the "nudist" theme for the evening.
At the end of our first visit, a man watched six men ejaculate on her body.
This happened in the early hours of the morning.
My wife was completely satisfied and wanted to go home.
That man stopped us, talked to us and eventually asked my wife if he could have sex with her.
My wife said, "Next time."
I searched the internet to try to make contact with him.
It was rather easy because he told us what he did. As job.
A few weeks later, he visited us at home.
It was a very hot evening.
For me it became a humiliating evening. My wife confronted me with her alter ego.
The attached compilation of two pictures shows what happened at the very beginning of the evening.
My wife chose the "nudist" theme for the evening.
At the end of our first visit, a man watched six men ejaculate on her body.
This happened in the early hours of the morning.
My wife was completely satisfied and wanted to go home.
That man stopped us, talked to us and eventually asked my wife if he could have sex with her.
My wife said, "Next time."
I searched the internet to try to make contact with him.
It was rather easy because he told us what he did. As job.
A few weeks later, he visited us at home.
It was a very hot evening.
For me it became a humiliating evening. My wife confronted me with her alter ego.
The attached compilation of two pictures shows what happened at the very beginning of the evening.
One additional thing I would add based on my own very recent experiences. Hormones.. Besides cultural conditioning and self image, for older women (Lynn is 55) low hormones can have a huge impact. Over the last few years my wife has had almost no interest in anything sexual. I've always tried to be supportive but she didn't like how she looked or felt. She started going to the gym with a group of friends and using trizeputide to help with weight and food cravings. She was losing weight and getting stronger but her libido was stll not there. After starting on hormones, she said she felt something but nothing much happened. After switching doctors, she started a different regime with estrogen and testosterone. Within a few weeks she said she could feel a change.
I've always joked about her going down on me, which has never been something she liked to do at all. 3 weeks ago I joked as usual and the response was "i've actually thought about ita few times". The next week she grabbed me and said she wanted to shower together downstairs. She grabbed towels and walked downstairs naked, something she has always considered "weird" when I would do it. We made love briefly in the shower and ended up in the living room where we continued. For the next hour we were naked downstairs. Out of the blue she said "we might have to become nudists"
Her libido since being on these hormones has gone through the roof! She keeps saying she never knew she could feel like this and wants me in her all the time. She wants me to come home from work every day now.
Finally, we were out with friends the other night and walking back to the car. She said she wanted to take her bra off. I laughed ( there were cars going by every now and then) thinking she was joking. She reached under her coat and shirt and a minute later pulled her bra out from under her coat and handed it to me. The rest of the way, she kept pulling my hand up under her shirt and begging me to pinch her nipples, all while walking down a public street.. On the ride home she was lifting her shirt up and saying I don't care if anyone sees me. She took her panties off in the car and was having me play with her clit and finger her the rest of the way home.
I'm not sure if any of the wives and women on here have had similar experiences but getting her hormones balanced has been amazing. I would suggest if your wife's libido is low, talk to her about this. It's proving to be life changing for us!
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