I think a lot of us have similar experiences with our wives who let’s be honest, more often than not are simply reluctant participants of our kink, or gradually “giving in” to satisfy our ideas of excitement and (most) wouldn’t really even consider this lifestyle in a serious way if it were left to them alone.
I want my wife to dress sexy and love for other men to notice and pay her attention, she likes it when they do and I mention it to her. She openly admits to me that she’d actually LOVE fucking another guy or even more with my consent and involvement too, but it’s still a step that she’s really not comfortable taking.
Ultimately, I’m sure it’s a thrill and great nut, but she may know ME better than I think I know myself and she could be right about me not being able to handle it once it were to become real? I honestly don’t know but I seem to keep pushing forward. Are you sure how you will handle it if you do eventually convince your wife?