The Shame of Being Outed

My wife cheated on me at her friend’s wedding (I had to work that wknd, so she’d gone without me).

I was completely blind-sided when she confessed and scared she was going to leave me. I even made excuses for her, like, “it’s a wedding, lots of drinking, I get it.” And I let her frame it as a drunken one-night stand, even though she’d spent the whole weekend in the guy’s hotel room.

I had no idea about my cuckold tendencies until she told me, but very quickly I was jerking, envisioning the guy fucking my wife.

My wife had been one of the bridesmaids, and all her old college sorority BFFs were there. I was always a bit intimidated by them – hot, big-titted thirty-something girls who liked to party, but with a cliquish/superior attitude and who I always felt insecure around.

All her friends would’ve seen my wife out on the dance floor with the guy. And far from intervening and saying, “but you’re married”, they’d have told my wife “go for it!” and encourage her to go back to the guy’s room.

And my wife no doubt shared the details with them afterwards. So, they all knew a lot more about my wife’s fuck-fest weekend than me.

Which made it awkward as hell, whenever I had to see my wife’s friends out socially. Knowing they knew I knew my wife got fucked, and that I just accepted it. Like a cuck would.

My wife even told me, that one of them said they were impressed by how maturely I had handled it. But in truth, I’m sure they viewed me as a complete beta-pussy.

Whenever I learned her friends would be coming in town, I would look at her pictures of her friends, and jerk off, imagining them belittling me.

I’d stare at my wife’s BFF’s big tits in her bikini, and imagine her voice: “She cucked you real good that weekend. And you were so oblivious. As she sucked his cock while you talked to her on the phone. As he came on her face as you told her you love her.”

Which all made me even more intensely insecure when I met them. Or when I was shaking hands with her friend’s boyfriend, who likely also knew how my wife had publicly cucked me.

We divorced a couple years ago, and I have a new girlfriend now, and have to deal with a bunch of her 20-something friends who also intimidate me.

And if my new gf were to cheat on me, part of me would likely get off to knowing her friends knowing.

But I could never deal with anyone else knowing. Certainly not my guy friends, or my work peeps, or any family members. That would change everything. And what scares me about ever being openly cuckolded in real life.
 
After we found the right guy for a longer term relationship with my wife, we worried less and less about being "outed." Eventually my wife and her BF were going to restaurants and traveling without concern. In a way, being outed would have added some spice to the whole thing, and the idea sure made my wife feel sexy.
 
My wife's sister found out when they were on a trip together, she got up early to go to the hotel gym and saw the nice gentleman they'd met at the bar last night leaving my wife's room. She brought it up and my wife explained that it was our choice and she was cool with that, cool enough to share the story with their mom and her husband. My wife doesn't have a problem with it and actually is happy that her family knows so I'm fine with it as well.
 
Stop turning it into something you dislike, it's humiliation you are secretly after.
The thought that your expartner has been used as a cum dump is a great boost to both your ego and your humble side. Her friends wasn't laughing at you, they were secretly admiring you wish that their partners would let them fuck other guys and Afterwards be happy to clean them out by licking her swollen pussy and sore pussy.
She did you a big favour mate, she opened a door for you and you should tell your new partner what she did and how much you enjoyed it. Maybe she will repeat the performance again for you
 
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We have always been pretty open about it. We don't really consider it a "cuckold" situation like some people tend to think of. More of like a hotwife (or hot GF since we're not married) or just an open relationship.

I would say early on there were some mixed emotions. Some jealousy and humiliation probably existed. It wasn't really a general feeling though. It was more situational. There were certain situations where I could clearly see some guys, including my closest friends trying to humiliate both me and my GF as a sort of kink in getting themselves off. I wouldn't say I felt humiliated by it though. Sometimes probably angry, frustrated or jealous. But they still do the same stuff today and I don't feel any emotions about it any more. Every so often there are certain situations that make you feel different emotions.
does that only happen in private? or do your friends also do the humiliation thing in public?
 
does that only happen in private? or do your friends also do the humiliation thing in public?
It's mostly done in private in a sexual setting. So certain sexual acts they might make her do would have the purpose of trying to humiliate her which would be humiliating to me. I don't know if that makes sense or not.
 
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when you say outted? were NOT a cuck couple and VERY proud of each other and our relationship sooo no such thing? Sorry never got the cuck thing if we bring a third into the equation its simply to strengthen and enhance what is already awesome and sound LOL male or female ? so
 
When younger 20’s I would feel embarrassed when out with her friends who all knew she fucked about, but they guys who had fucked her where worse. Now I don’t care and haven’t for a long time.
Most embarrassing was my dad telling me not to be jealous as she danced with a friend of his and the guy was fingering her and lifted the hem of her skirt and showed my dad and winked at him.
But I don’t feel embarrassed anymore