My biggest wish is the bbc fantasy. But please give me your opinions on this one aspect. My super voluptuous bbw wife is very vanilla. I can’t get her interested in the idea of bigger dicks, she doesn’t like dildos, and she cannot understand my desire to see her enjoy bbc. I have an actual micropenis and literally cannot penetrate at this point (I could a little when we both weight less, but at our current weights I cannot get in at all). I’m the only cock she has ever had, and we’ve been married 35 years. Do you think the whole idea of a bigger dick being more enjoyable isn’t even on her radar because she is just wired that way, or because she has literally never experienced even an average sized cock? Any and all opinions, insights, and advice are welcome. Thank you!
Vanilla wife and micropenis
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Some women aren't wired that way and no amount of persuasion will work.
Some would be open to it in the deepest recesses of their imagination but would be horrified to act on those dark impulses- society frowns on such feelings.
Some come round to it over time (mine did, briefly). Most lack confidence in their own attractiveness and their ability to turn on another man (especially after a long, faithful marriage).
Gentleness, persistence, and loving persuasion are essential.
Speaking personally, I fucked up years ago. The sight of my wife riding another man's cock blew my mind and I couldn't handle it - something I regret to this day. It left a scar, which is hard to heal. Be careful. These are major issues, and it is a huge step which has destroyed relationships.
Some would be open to it in the deepest recesses of their imagination but would be horrified to act on those dark impulses- society frowns on such feelings.
Some come round to it over time (mine did, briefly). Most lack confidence in their own attractiveness and their ability to turn on another man (especially after a long, faithful marriage).
Gentleness, persistence, and loving persuasion are essential.
Speaking personally, I fucked up years ago. The sight of my wife riding another man's cock blew my mind and I couldn't handle it - something I regret to this day. It left a scar, which is hard to heal. Be careful. These are major issues, and it is a huge step which has destroyed relationships.
She is a very sexy lady.
I hope you can convince her to experience a real size cock some day.
Patience
Hello Jared7. My view is that some women just aren't interested in other men in their lives - after all, that may be part of the reason she married you - so that the dating and experimentation would end. If you've sincerely and in a non-threatening manner have shared your interests with her and she's not buying in, there's no sense creating unneeded turbulence in your relationship by mounting a campaign or pressuring her, and assuming your marriage is sound, just let it ride. If Mr. Right does happen along, she'll let you know. Besides, you can live vicariously through us. That might be even better in your situation! 😁
This is much closer to the reality. I would go even further and say that MOST women aren't "wired" that way. My wife is a perfect example of your description of lacking confidence in her attractiveness. And yes we have been married a long time so that goes along with your "long, faithful marriage" notion.
As to your personal reflection, I've thought A LOT about witnessing my wife with anyone else. Years ago I convinced my wife to have some roadside sex when we were driving through the Tehachapi Mountains. She very reluctantly agreed. We scampered off to the woods about 10 yards off the road. There was lots of traffic and we could see them but they couldn't see us. My wife just wanted it over and done with. When she bent over and pulled down her pants and panties she was sopping wet. I mean wet like I'd never seen before.
Like I said we have been together a long time and I've had lots of opportunities to try and reproduce her getting that wet. Since the roadside thing was a "one and done" for her that was out as a way to reproduce that. NOTHING I've ever done since that day has been able to make that happen again. What worries me is that if another came in out of the blue and caused her to get wet like that again and I saw it happen I might spiral into a dark place. I'd know she doesn't get wet like that for me under normal circumstances but she does for some random guy.
I'm also not so sure about the idea that I've been wanting and working towards a more exciting sex life for us both for decades. All the awkward discussions and subtle hints and not so subtle hints over the years that never advanced her beyond the "never gonna happen" stage/point would feel like wasted effort if some guy, in one one night, changed her mind. I'd feel like it happened because of this random guy and not because of my decades of support.
I'm not sure I want to feel those feelings. I know I'm not the biggest or the best but I don't want to feel inadequate either. I still want an exciting sex life for myself. Would I love see my wife having a mind blowing experience, yes I would, and I would hope she would want the same for me! I don't want to be weighed down with a bunch of emotional issues that I would have to work out on my own. I believe people marginalize how the "mental/emotional" can torment the husband/bf if left unattended or unaddressed.
So inspiring.
But sad that one wife is off the market. We need to think of a statue for all non fallen heroes...
My wife is as vanilla as vanilla can come! However she has shown indications of being a slutty whore, she has even used those words to describe herself during intense moments of sex. Every woman, in my opinion is biologically designed to crave cock as a reproductive means. Whether they resist the crave is another matter
Similar situation, It was kina like that with us...at first, of course wanted to try this! ...but worried how hubby would react after. Turned out he was all for it during and after. My cuck hubby turned out to be supportive and we went on to find several bulls to try!
So although not every wife is a 'hotwife' some are just worried how you'll react after hubby sees you scream like a banshee from actually cumming so intensely to a thick large cock. 😉
I’d appreciate any advice or insight you could offer I to my situation, thank you!🤩
Thats hot. all my exses makes fun of my cock. and want bbc before they close to broke up with me
Do I understand correctly that you both tried an extra guy in the past and you having regrets? You still having sex with other people or not?
We swapped one drunken night with another couple who were friends of ours. The guy was really hung, and my wife loved it. She totally ignored me and rode him silly.
So it stayed by only once? You not getting aroused while your wife enjoying so much? I guess she did not on purpose because the way she was filled up blocked up the surrounding and was totally focused on her body reacting to the big cock
That has not been my experience at all.
My wife had had an active sex life before we were married, but settled comfortably into monogamy for many years. I'd always been quite intoxicated by hearing her talk of her previous exploits, which I had painstakingly coaxed out of her over time. They were often the topic of conversation during pillow talk, and I often used those opportunities to convince her that I'd quite enjoy seeing her pleasure another man for my entertainment.
You seem to worry as to how it might make you feel if your wife found greater pleasure in the arms of another than with you, and that is a destructive form of jealousy. But to me, there is another form of delicious agony to be savored should that happen. Indeed, I always hoped it would.
Eventually my lust for having my wife pleasure another was realized when she succumbed to the incessant flirtations of one of my best friends. He'd always wanted to get into her pants, and she knew it. I encouraged him to keep up his campaign, and she eventually surrendered, leading to a years-long affair. I enjoyed every minute of it. So did he. And so did my wife.
You're right, I do. Even though I know it's an inevitability. There's always someone bigger and better. It's when I ask ask myself the honest question as to how I would process this is when I have my doubts. When I remove myself from the equation and I liken it to dancing and dance partners, I'd want her to experience dancing with the best! As you say it should be what I want for her. Still, it's tough pill to swallow.
Most women's biggest hang up over being shared woth a big cock is that they're worried about our male ego, and dont want us to feel embarrassed. Plus they're worried about how they'll be perceived afterwards. You need to insure her that you're okay with the situation. That her pleasure will give you pleasure and that its just fucking, there's no love involved, and at the end of they day, it'll be the 2 of you together in love
