For me it’s a mix of both. I really want it to happen but i just worried she would leave me. She knows this is my kink. When we have sex she always plays into it for me. We did have a conversation but if she would ever be in a 3some. at first she was upset cause she thought i wanted to add a girl into but once i said a guy she didn’t mind me thinking about that. She said she wouldn’t and doesn’t think she would enjoy it. She’s more of a sub and so am i so we take turns being one but at the end she knows talking about another man will help me finish sooner.