Many married woman get flustered. It throws them off - probably because they're no longer used to it. It happened yesterday. I was talking to a woman about her kids. At a lull in the conversation, I complimented her shoes. It completely threw her. She looked up at me and her eyes got wide. She blushed, looked away guiltily, and said "oh" very softly to herself. This all happened because I said something about her shoes! She probably would have completely lost her composure had I followed-up with "Oh...I've never seen your eyes sparkle like that." I don't know if she's a hotwife. Maybe some day. Maybe soon. But my point is...if you're hoping your wife will become a hotwife, look for and support opportunities for her to experience non-platonic interactions. Even small, harmless ones that lead to nothing. Especially small, harmless ones that lead to nothing. Help her rediscover the feeling of being desired by someone other than you.