Good Point Mr. K and well taken but I am not saying there is any 1 right way of doing things but we live in a community of about 200 people and that is not very conducive to finding playmates. Everybody already knows all your business and now they know who you are being cucked by also? We try to branch out but her search requirements are not about numbers. More about memorable. We are about finished in a 2 year relationship and that was comfortable. so no big numbers of playmates piling up. I would classify us as more of a polyamorous couple with cuckold ambitions and tendencies.