Worth noting, most of J's extramarital dalliances took place with co-workers and on business trips (company paid). Some of them got to a point where she saw them when at home (like her 10 year affair with her Boss/Lover) but ALWAYS at their homes or in motels. None of them knew I was aware of their sexual relationships. So moving someone in was never a possibility, just a fun fantasy discussed alone the way.My 2 cents on moving them in......while the thought of her wanting him SO BADLY and so frequently that she wants him around ALL the time........he would be there ALL the time!!! I would not be willing to sacrifice my own privacy to make this happen. I would suggest the move be the OTHER direction, her going to live with him, if they wanted it that badly. And if she came back, cool, and if not, cool too. Just make sure you separate ALL finances before this happens. Thinking ahead!! LOL CW
Even with my first wife, who was seeing her favorite Lover every night (he would call and come to the house), moving him in never got past talking about it and fantasizing about it. He could come and go at will, even showered at the house so he could come straight form work (oddly enuf always together!! LOL), and he frequently spent the night with her, but moving him in just wasn't something we both wanted.
CW