Been with my wife for 10 years. Was a wannabe who kept it to himself for the first 8-ish because I was embarrassed. Then I finally told her and she didn’t totally shut it down but wasn’t super enthusiastic and was nervous when it came up. Then I finally talked to her enough that she got an opportunity and did fuck another guy last week and loved it. So I’ve been through all the stages now, hopefully she keeps fucking other men now that she’s finally made the jump. I just kick myself for not saying anything earlier.