I can relate completely! I bought a cage to wear when I was on my own, and I was planning to show it to my wife at some point. It was too small however, so I had to ditch it. But I wore it a few times, and it was great to feel the restraint and the inability to masturbate. I don't necessarily see it as humiliation - it is more than that for sure, but my wife will see it as humiliation. And she likes that I'm in control, that I decide when she should see her lover and what he can do with her.