Having been in this lifestyle all our adult lives, Stacey has never cheated per se but there were a couple of times in our younger days where she became more attracted to her lover than I wanted. I traveled a lot early in my career and - with my permission - she would meet her lover for frequent lovemaking sessions, meals, social outing, etc. without my presence. She had a career that kept her busy though she didn't have to travel. Before there were cell phones or internet we'd go days without talking and our agreement was that I didn't need to know about every meeting prior to it happening as long as it was with a man we both had already agreed to. But in several instances I would come home and she was a bit distant and preoccupied with meeting her lover and talking with him on the phone. [We had kids at home at the time so she was very careful and we have never had lovers at our home - even now we keep our activities away from home.] I was of course jealous and she wasn't very sexually active with me as her energy was going into her lover. We always worked things out and I regard these instances as bumps in the road - a hazard of living this lifestyle.
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I dated a lady for 7 yrs, she had sex with lots of guys ,lots of times. She fell for one of them and they got married. The funny part is he started sending Yvonne to my place to fuck me. I would fill her up and she would leave right away so my cum would be fresh for him to eat . They got divorced and she is with a non lifestyle guy now.
 
Ya bro its true . But what is the need to try to cheat on when hubby alrrady allowed to do. ???
It isn't cheating.its the thrill she wants to have. Sometimes women still don't open up in front of their husband. She went out with out your permission doesn't mean she loves her Bull. We are indian couple & very much experienced in this. Reach on DM if you need help
 
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My first wife and I were very into the swinging scene which I know isn't the same thing but there are overlaps.
Anyway we saw a lot of relationships fail in the groups we played with. And there were two major reasons:
1. Couples who were using swinging to try and patch up a relationship that was already struggling for whatever reason (and it wasn't only sexually, in fact that was often the least of their issues) which never ended well.
2. Couples where they both had different expectations about what they wanted to get out of having sex with others. And that seemed to take two forms - men who wanted to use swinging as a excuse to fuck other women but who weren't very attentive as to whether their wives were getting what they needed and the other was couples where one half was really up for it but the other half was only going along with it to please the partner or had been badgered into it in the first place and didn't really want to be there (and that applied to both the male and female halves of couples - it wasn't always the husband who was the driving force).
I think this highlights two point that are equal valid to this lifestyle - the first is having a strong relationship to start with and the second is knowing and talking through what you both are looking for in non monogamous relationship.

But I guess there is some degree of luck involved too. When I met Lynn she was in an unhappy marriage and had been been screwing around behind her husbands back for years. We hit it off and became very close very quickly and I think it worked for us because I was more than happy for her to carry on fucking whoever she wanted, after all that was the woman I fell in love with so why would I want her to change and in any case I loved how this smart, successful professional woman could be such a slut.
But I say lucky because we met at just the right time - I'd had a couple of years to get over losing my first wife and was ready for another long term relationship and her daughter had grown up and so she was ready to get out of her marriage. So I guess that luck is the one thing you can't plan for but more importantly we went into our relationship knowing exactly what was involved and knowing that we were both happy with that.
Apologies that that turned out to be a longer reply than I'd intended.
 
It’s a risk. My wife and I roleplayed the fantasy and watched a lot of that kind of porn during sex which finally led to a threesom with my neighbor. She had an incredible time and I had given her permission afterward to hook up with him wherever as long as she told me. I never thought she would but told my neighbor I’d be out of town one weekend secretly hoping. Well he took me up on it and turned her into his slut behind my back. She did whatever he wanted her to including fucking his friends and his dad and I didn’t find out for a year. It was tough and the dynamics between being turned on by her behavior and hurt by it almost ruin me and our marriage. She didn’t want to lose me but couldn’t say no to her new activities and eventually I had to accept it
that would not have worked for me a cheater is a cheater
 
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