Having been in this lifestyle all our adult lives, Stacey has never cheated per se but there were a couple of times in our younger days where she became more attracted to her lover than I wanted. I traveled a lot early in my career and - with my permission - she would meet her lover for frequent lovemaking sessions, meals, social outing, etc. without my presence. She had a career that kept her busy though she didn't have to travel. Before there were cell phones or internet we'd go days without talking and our agreement was that I didn't need to know about every meeting prior to it happening as long as it was with a man we both had already agreed to. But in several instances I would come home and she was a bit distant and preoccupied with meeting her lover and talking with him on the phone. [We had kids at home at the time so she was very careful and we have never had lovers at our home - even now we keep our activities away from home.] I was of course jealous and she wasn't very sexually active with me as her energy was going into her lover. We always worked things out and I regard these instances as bumps in the road - a hazard of living this lifestyle.