First Time Failure

Oct 7, 2021
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Our first time was a complete failure! I met up with one of who I thought was going to be a favorite. After getting to the hotel and some small talk we moved to the bed. He took forever to get hard. Like…. FOR-EV-ER! I jerked him off, I sucked him, I let him jerk himself off while I made out with him, and still nothing. After FINALLY getting hard 45 mins later, he asked to fuck me bareback when we told him beforehand that the rules were he had to wear condoms. After that the sex lasted for a complete 5 minutes befor he asked to take a break.
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Thankfully my husband was able to fulfill my needs tonight!

All I can say is next please!
😂
 

Anonymousrob84

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I figured I should throw my two-cents in as an observer of this debacle. I have to admit that I was very nervous and anxious before he arrived. Half of me wanted to lock the door and hide my wife. The other half wanted to punch through every wall.

Once he arrived, there was some small talk. He said he was bringing a nightcap, but he showed up with two cans of something in his sweatshirt. Yikes.

Once it started, I was able to relax some. Still some jealousy but I figure that’s a part of this, especially in the beginning. The kissed, she stroked and blew him. He kind of fingered her although it didn't really seem as though he knew what he was doing. I know my wife’s body language but it was like he wasn’t paying attention room to any signs.

Then it began: The great tug off of 2021. My wife gives great head and killer hand jobs but after 45 mins, it was like a windsock on a windless day. This was supposed to be so thrilling and hot but I found myself more interested at times in the football game on tv.

When he finally got “hard”, he tried to circumvent one of our major rules, and go bareback, but luckily my wife is amazing and stopped that really quick.

Then the sex. A few moments of maybe good thrusting, but literally five minutes and he asked for a break.…yikes. I love my wife so much and I’m so proud of her for taking that big step, but damn it was awful and cringey to watch and from what I understand, it was even worse to experience.

I made her cum after he left and then we fucked for a while. Sadly the awfulness of the sex kind of ruined the reconnection because we were both laughing a bunch.

There are some things I need to work through emotionally but hopefully there are better interactions in our future because fuck me that was bad.
 

Anonymousrob84

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failure to perform in that situation is not unusual, especialy for a guy who has never been in that situation
I would agree, but he promoted himself as a very experienced bull. I would not even be upset if he was a first time guy who wanted to try it. He told us he had done it a lot, was experienced, and knew how to please. Lol. He didn’t even know how to play with her pussy properly with his hands and didn’t even attempt to perform oral, even after my wife went down on him for almost a half hour. That was our biggest problem. I get the performance issue, but he sold himself as something and I’m relatively sure he had zero experience.
 
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keylife022

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Sep 10, 2021
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Our first time was a complete failure! I met up with one of who I thought was going to be a favorite. After getting to the hotel and some small talk we moved to the bed. He took forever to get hard. Like…. FOR-EV-ER! I jerked him off, I sucked him, I let him jerk himself off while I made out with him, and still nothing. After FINALLY getting hard 45 mins later, he asked to fuck me bareback when we told him beforehand that the rules were he had to wear condoms. After that the sex lasted for a complete 5 minutes befor he asked to take a break.
🙄
🙄


Thankfully my husband was able to fulfill my needs tonight!

All I can say is next please!
😂
Hi, I’m Next Please. How did you know I was here?
 

Hwcouple702

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Our first time was a complete failure! I met up with one of who I thought was going to be a favorite. After getting to the hotel and some small talk we moved to the bed. He took forever to get hard. Like…. FOR-EV-ER! I jerked him off, I sucked him, I let him jerk himself off while I made out with him, and still nothing. After FINALLY getting hard 45 mins later, he asked to fuck me bareback when we told him beforehand that the rules were he had to wear condoms. After that the sex lasted for a complete 5 minutes befor he asked to take a break.
🙄
🙄


Thankfully my husband was able to fulfill my needs tonight!

All I can say is next please!
😂
Tons of ED in the lifestyle. Mrs Hotwife quits much sooner than that, gets dressed and leaves. It happens unfortunately.

HW
 

Lynnandhubby

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I'm sorry to hear your first time was a bust. It is very disappointing when you've put in a lot of effort to find who you thought was the right guy. But don't let it put you off. Unfortunately is does happen. Some guys claim to be experienced just to get laid and others get performance anxiety in front of another guy.
So don't let it put you off, just put it down to experience and move onto the next guy. It is worth persevering with xx
 
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I'm sorry to hear your first time was a bust. It is very disappointing when you've put in a lot of effort to find who you thought was the right guy. But don't let it put you off. Unfortunately is does happen. Some guys claim to be experienced just to get laid and others get performance anxiety in front of another guy.
So don't let it put you off, just put it down to experience and move onto the next guy. It is worth persevering with xx
Knowing that I have someone else in line for the next time, I am not letting it put me off as much. I am glad we made the first step and am hoping for better things next time around. This next guy seems to be much more experienced than the first one that we can tell from our in person conversations we had with the both of them. I just don’t want to get my hopes up again to have it fail again. I really can’t wait to have my first amazing experience in it all. I’m just kinda bummed that every time someone asks me about my first time, this is what I will remember.
 

keylife022

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Sep 10, 2021
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Knowing that I have someone else in line for the next time, I am not letting it put me off as much. I am glad we made the first step and am hoping for better things next time around. This next guy seems to be much more experienced than the first one that we can tell from our in person conversations we had with the both of them. I just don’t want to get my hopes up again to have it fail again. I really can’t wait to have my first amazing experience in it all. I’m just kinda bummed that every time someone asks me about my first time, this is what I will remember.
This will not be your first time. This will be your first failure. Your first time time will be a success
 
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Had you met him face to face before or was this the first face to face?
We met with him face to face before. Just for drinks. I have a rule that I have to meet for drinks first just to see the chemistry between us. When we met for drinks I thoroughly enjoyed it. And I thought he thoroughly enjoyed it as well since we asked if he wanted to move ahead with it and he agreed. Looking back on the first meet, I think I have more questions I will be asking when we meet with others for the first time.
 
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Our first time was a complete failure! I met up with one of who I thought was going to be a favorite. After getting to the hotel and some small talk we moved to the bed. He took forever to get hard. Like…. FOR-EV-ER! I jerked him off, I sucked him, I let him jerk himself off while I made out with him, and still nothing. After FINALLY getting hard 45 mins later, he asked to fuck me bareback when we told him beforehand that the rules were he had to wear condoms. After that the sex lasted for a complete 5 minutes befor he asked to take a break.
🙄
🙄


Thankfully my husband was able to fulfill my needs tonight!

All I can say is next please!
😂
Everything doesn't always work out like what plays out in our heads.
 
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franklyn

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Our first time was a complete failure! I met up with one of who I thought was going to be a favorite. After getting to the hotel and some small talk we moved to the bed. He took forever to get hard. Like…. FOR-EV-ER! I jerked him off, I sucked him, I let him jerk himself off while I made out with him, and still nothing. After FINALLY getting hard 45 mins later, he asked to fuck me bareback when we told him beforehand that the rules were he had to wear condoms. After that the sex lasted for a complete 5 minutes befor he asked to take a break.
🙄
🙄


Thankfully my husband was able to fulfill my needs tonight!

All I can say is next please!
😂
Sorry it went so bad
 

desimilf80

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I figured I should throw my two-cents in as an observer of this debacle. I have to admit that I was very nervous and anxious before he arrived. Half of me wanted to lock the door and hide my wife. The other half wanted to punch through every wall.

Once he arrived, there was some small talk. He said he was bringing a nightcap, but he showed up with two cans of something in his sweatshirt. Yikes.

Once it started, I was able to relax some. Still some jealousy but I figure that’s a part of this, especially in the beginning. The kissed, she stroked and blew him. He kind of fingered her although it didn't really seem as though he knew what he was doing. I know my wife’s body language but it was like he wasn’t paying attention room to any signs.

Then it began: The great tug off of 2021. My wife gives great head and killer hand jobs but after 45 mins, it was like a windsock on a windless day. This was supposed to be so thrilling and hot but I found myself more interested at times in the football game on tv.

When he finally got “hard”, he tried to circumvent one of our major rules, and go bareback, but luckily my wife is amazing and stopped that really quick.

Then the sex. A few moments of maybe good thrusting, but literally five minutes and he asked for a break.…yikes. I love my wife so much and I’m so proud of her for taking that big step, but damn it was awful and cringey to watch and from what I understand, it was even worse to experience.

I made her cum after he left and then we fucked for a while. Sadly the awfulness of the sex kind of ruined the reconnection because we were both laughing a bunch.

There are some things I need to work through emotionally but hopefully there are better interactions in our future because fuck me that was bad.
Happens once in a while, must have been nerves, silly question, but did you guys have Viagra on hand? that may have helped?
 

MMV23

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Our first time was a complete failure! I met up with one of who I thought was going to be a favorite. After getting to the hotel and some small talk we moved to the bed. He took forever to get hard. Like…. FOR-EV-ER! I jerked him off, I sucked him, I let him jerk himself off while I made out with him, and still nothing. After FINALLY getting hard 45 mins later, he asked to fuck me bareback when we told him beforehand that the rules were he had to wear condoms. After that the sex lasted for a complete 5 minutes befor he asked to take a break.
🙄
🙄


Thankfully my husband was able to fulfill my needs tonight!

All I can say is next please!
😂
Damn sorry to hear tht. That’s what I call a con artist right there.
 

desimilf80

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It might have also been that he had some “liquid courage” prior to the meet up which could lead to “whiskey dick.”
Wifey will generally have some liquid courage if she is nervous, when she was new, she would have one shot of olive oil and a few shots of vodka, olive oil to slow the absorption so that she is not too drunk at the start and then it wears out - but she did not need to worry abt her "performance"