THIS!! All of this fantasy talk on here is one thing but I can assure you that at least some of the guys on this site have wives who are fucking around behind their husband's back. This is thrilling, but if you want to find out how quickly the guys here who express these fantasies become jealous husbands then wait till a few of them find out that there wife is fucking the neighbor, or a guy from work, or one of their best friends or just getting picked up in bars on business travel or nights out with girlfriends. You want "humiliation"? Well, it's not all of that "sissy" stuff or anything else. It's truly finding out that your wife fucks around on you and that other people know about it. It's also the fact that no matter how many apologies, etc come from her, there is NOTHING you can do to "unfuck" her. Once other guys know what your wife's mouth feels like and know everything about her most intimate desires in bed and how to please her, there is NO "forgetting" that in your mind or the mind of all of the people who know your wife is a cheat.
This is a very odd site but we tend to "normalize" our desires and behaviors but the entire lifestyle is considered "weird" and freakish in the normal "vanilla" world. Most wives who cheat on their husbands have no interest in this 'lifestyle" nor do their husbands. They simply want sexual adventure. We're wired that way. This is why most affairs are so dangerous to the relationship. Most wives (I believe) who cheat find a guy who they really enjoy spending time with and who treats them like something special. This can lead to breaking up marriages. This is why open sexual communication is so critical. If we can't discuss these things as a married couple (and most couples can not) then it leads to the inevitable sneaking around for the sexual variety that both husbands and wives have craved since the beginning of time.
Guys, wives can hide what should be so obvious to you because you DO NOT WANT to see what's actually going on. You just want a bit of a slutty fantasy thrill, but when a wife starts down this path, it's not going to end. You either accept it or your relationship fails. There's your "decision". I suppose I've been a bit hung up on the philosophy of "decisions" of late.
Mrs Hotwfie