How to encourage my wife to go further than her first vacation flirt some 6 weeks ago?

[Aspiring2025]

In my opinion you should admit her you are jelaous. Women dig reasonably jelaaous men because it is sign they care.

Tell her you are indeed jelaous but that you don't let your ego come in way of her enjoyment. Tell her that she DESERVES to free her sexuality because she has been an amazing wife. That she looked so hot and confident while being desired by other man.

Then be graphic and tell her you don't mind if she took him to your car to play in backseat while you drive. Make her feel like a Queen.

Thanks for your reply and for opening up a different perspective to the jealousy aspect. Hm, you could be right about that, actually, and my spontaneous response is that I’d rather take even mote care in not being too extreme in my dealings with her but rather balancing things out in that I say for instance that I can’t rule out feeling jealous of another man’s qualities and effect on my wife, but that that jealousy is not a negative one as it also makes me proud of her and her attractiveness and that I would like to find out if I could feel the same positive ambivalence should she go further with a man who appeals to her as much as the gentleman on our vacation. What do you think about that?

 

[Wannabe97]

Thanks for your reply and for opening up a different perspective to the jealousy aspect. Hm, you could be right about that, actually, and my spontaneous response is that I’d rather take even mote care in not being too extreme in my dealings with her but rather balancing things out in that I say for instance that I can’t rule out feeling jealous of another man’s qualities and effect on my wife, but that that jealousy is not a negative one as it also makes me proud of her and her attractiveness and that I would like to find out if I could feel the same positive ambivalence should she go further with a man who appeals to her as much as the gentleman on our vacation. What do you think about that?

Yeah that's a key in my opinion. Of course, i could be wrong, i just put out nmy perspective and how i would do it.

Put on emphasis that you do it for her enjoyment and that other men drooling over her and wanting her makes you realise how lucky you are. Most importantly give her choice: Tell her that she controls tempo, how and if she wants it. You love her no matter what she decides. She must not see cuckolding as important defining kink, its just a result of your sexual curiosity as couple-merely a byproduct.

I was cheated on by my 3 ex's. They admitted to me afterwards. Of course i dumped them. Had they nicely asked for sexual freedom, i would appreciate honesty and accept it. Tha kfully i didn't love either one of them so it wasn't hard on me. Now i am happily engaged with girl who was virgin prior me. Should she be curious and want to experience more spices, i would accept it not because it is my kink, but because i would like to see her horny and confident, no matter who causes it.

 

[du_sabot]

Hello. I'm Martin 50 and my wife Martina 38. We've been tog for 5, married for 4 years. Six weeks ago she danced a lot and flirted with a man at a dance we attended on vacation. She even allowed him to invite himself to our table and we chatted nicely, with him leaving no doubt he felt attracted to her and her sounding my face expressions for signs of jealousy. Nothing happened as we decided to call it the day before he would feel too encouraged, but later in our room we talked about the evening and Martina raised the question of jealousy and that she was positively surprised I had been ok with her dancing a lot with others. So, I used the opportunity to own up to her about the arousal I had felt at seeing her enjoy herself and particularly at that one man's obvious interest in her. I said he was an attractive and well-behaved gentleman and it made me proud to see such a man take an interest in my wife, maybe even desire her. That somehow put a glow on her face again, just like at the dance, and she responded by seeking reassurance, i.e. if I really thought he was "desiring" her, if I thought he was hoping for more? When I confirmed she briefly bit her lower lip and then said hm, and that did not make you jealous, are you sure? And so I and so I confirmed that to her again, too, and then she said hm again and let's sleep now, I'mabsolutely exhausted. And so we slept ... and we haven't talked about that evening since then. - So, now I'm wondering if she is still harbouring any thoughts, or if the chapter is closed for her already. And if I should raise that experience again, or wait for her to do so ... maybe on the next occasion, when we plan to go on vacation again or only when we are there and decide to go to another dance venue ...As for myself: I've been harbouring the hotwifing thought for long already and am therefore prepared for her to venture forth.

I'd say she was testing the waters. If she knows of your desire she is thinking about it but not convinced yet. Keep assuring her how much you love her and how much fun she would have. Assure her it's going to be good for your relationship. Good luck

 

[Aspiring2025]

I'd say she was testing the waters. If she knows of your desire she is thinking about it but not convinced yet. Keep assuring her how much you love her and how much fun she would have. Assure her it's going to be good for your relationship. Good luck

Thank you, much appreciated.

 

[robbiewillsucku]

Guys - always tell her if she fucks another cock to come home and ride your face and share the details.

 

[hubbysexywife]

Wonderful way to start a conversation between the two of you. We discussed our fantasies before we married, and her flirting and being with another man was my main one. Alarmed at first, she finally understood my thinking..as best she could. Our first time much like yours, on a bar stool, a nice younger man beside her who happened to be in wifes profession. Talking led her to feeling nicely about herself, and I convinced her to cross her legs a little higher with her short skirt and heels on...That night she had an almost see thru white blouse on, no bra..When he left for restroom, wife and I talked about the situation and she agreed to asking him to join us at a club with a great DJ and dancing.
We met him there, got a booth, her in between us. She and I danced,and I asked her to invite him to dance with her too..a couple of drinks later she did, and they spent 20 minutes together, almost putting on a sex show to others. He was a great dancer, and she was having a great time. Could see her putting her leg between his, and him massaging her cute butt, kissing her neck and her snuggling up to his chest and neck. We lived about 90 minutes from there, so when time to leave so I got up, and told her I would meet her by our car. Soon they came out together, hand in hand...he took her away from the main entrance and started kissing her softly and touching her breasts thru the blouse. No hesitation or resistance on her part either.
When we did leave, we had a lot to talk about..she readily admitted it was fun being naughty and having a younger man want her. That started our journey of sharing her with 11 different men, some many times..
Good luck, keep us posted

Awesome statement!! A true complete and horny story! I could imagine that to my wife too. Like a dream

 

[cheadle]

Bring it up again and reassure her about how you feel. Mine took a long time to be convinced but loved it once she took that step.

Totally gorgeous

 

[toolman2c]

WOW! Awesome. My wife and I are both white Germans, but I for one surely approve of taboo sex on her part should that be her wish and maybe the element that may entice her to cross the line (as she's had a marraige and several sex partners, all white, and so something different might actually trigger the necessary hormones in her). I might give our next vacation destination some thought then - direction Caribbean for the winter vacation might fit both, the summer we crave and the sexual heat

if your sure you want 2c ur sweet sexy wife Blacked, that winter vacation would work well, hung black men there know most white wife's that come there are yearning to explore the native BBCs bareback and deep seeded for the ultimate thrill, and will openly offer to fuck her,.
most white wives are curious how much of her pussy depths have never been touched by a cock, and the Taboo of being Black cock fucked will be in her mind 24/7.. Pleas keep me updated , as a southeastern USA older white husband with a sexy much younger wife of 20yrs I've fought the desire 2c her Blacked, but at times pretend I'm watching a younger Black man fucking her as we fuck, I know I'm harder and cum more picturing a BBC is blasting black seeds up in her hot married pussy.

 

[toolman2c]

Awesome statement!! A true complete and horny story! I could imagine that to my wife too. Like a dream

we are nearly alike, I have a sexy wife also, that's unaware of my growing desire 2c a real cocksman plant his seeds into her depths.

 

[toolman2c]

I'm certainly interested to learn more. Lots of myths and stereotypes surround the "Balck Man on White Girl" interracial here in Germany and most people who know or are curious about it do so / are so because of porn, in which, as we know, usually exceptional Black males are selected as performers - and perform they do

have you watched a video with your wife where a white wife is pounded by a BBC, that cums in her, if not you should.. thank me later whit your progress

 

[Aspiring2025]

have you watched a video with your wife where a white wife is pounded by a BBC, that cums in her, if not you should.. thank me later whit your progress

I've already put the BBC video on a list in my mind ... but it's not at the top of the list as I'd be runing the risk of pushing things too fast and too much; still: suggestion taken and appreciated!

 

[Davidtops1]

Well, even though that's not like dancing and flirting yet, it is still clearly similar in that she noticed his interest and enjoyed granting him visual access to an extent. So, just like with my wife, I think there could be a follow up and for you it could indeed be through you buying her a new dress that's a bit more revealing than usual and if she comments on that, you could say something like she can be assured to yield positive responses in public, certainly from men like the one from the other day ... whose attention for her made you feel proud at that moment. I guess she might like to hear that and I'm also planning on using that word (proud) to encourage my wife further.

Same exact experience and somewhat stuck now.