Humiliation seems to provide my hubs with an emotional high. He is then relived when he has to see that my Bull can then give me what he can’t. Win/win/win
Adding to my original comments - Since I was very curious about the how’s and why’s, regarding hub’s aspects of humiliation, I used a recent session to dive deeper:
Our Bull had to leave right after He came so hubs was invited to clean, as usual, but this time, it was just hubs and me. I began to question him as to why he seemed to enjoy being humiliated, since I viewed him cleaning me as being very humiliating. He confessed that where it IS humiliating, he also enjoys the clean-up act as it it his portion of active participation. He then confessed that he loves watching me be pleasured so much (observation: if I ever want to punish hubs, don’t allow him to watch).
I then asked about his perspective on humiliation. He admitted that he views being humiliated as a form of “what he deserves for not providing me with the physical/sexual needs, as a husband.” He also admitted that being humiliated along with witnessing my bliss of another powerful and capable lover, really turned him on.
I pushed further:
”So if I were to want to experience…..”
I listed several scenarios, each more kinky and even perverse than the last, and hubs not only agreed to my desires, but got totally hard.
In summary, hubs enjoys most aspects of humiliation because he “deserves it”, due to his inadequacy, and hubs has agreed to almost anything, if it makes me happy.
what do other Wives and chucks feel?