I don't know if it's common since I haven't talked about it with anyone but I do fantasize all the time about my wife with other men. We've been married for 24 years and I think she deserves the passion of a newly met man. I have three types of fantasies. I think of her on a massage session surrendering to a seductive stranger attractive masseur. I also think about her with her boss when she works overtime and gets home later or when she spends the night over on a business trip. The other fantasy I have is when she goes to the doctor because I guess she has to undress to certain extent and he is a friend of us. My wife is attractive, I get complimented by men a women alike because of her a lot. I have also had fantasies about her being with other women, particularly with a girl friend of mine with whom I would love to have something but I won't. The closest I've been to telling my wife about all this is by encouraging her to dress in a way that her charms are in display. I would not dare to asker to dress sexy because I think she would notice but I do suggest her to do little things like going braless sometimes "to avoid showing bra straps on her uncovered shoulders or back" or to wear rather short skirts with thick tights underneath or to wear a bikini when he have friends over in our bathtub. Oh! and I forgot about her being with her sister's husband. I know she must feel flattered by the way he looks at her. I love it when she hangs out in her rather short pajamas long shirt aound the house in a morning during the holidays when the family get together.