I finally confessed to wife

[layla]

Hello,

I'm writing this with mixed emotions, though mostly positive. My wife and I have faced some challenges recently, and at one point, we considered parting ways. However, we came to realize just how deeply we love each other. In the midst of everything, I found the courage to express things I had kept to myself. One of the things I shared was a fantasy I've had about a threesome involving another man. I didn't want to hide this from her, as honesty is vital in our relationship.

Her initial reaction was one of offense, though she did thank me for being open with her. However, she made it clear that she would never consider such an experience, as she doesn't understand why people engage in that kind of activity. The conversation was an emotional rollercoaster for me. When I brought up the idea of role-playing, she agreed, which gave me hope.

Now, I really want to continue exploring this and perhaps bring my fantasies into reality, but I'm unsure how to proceed. I'd appreciate any advice on how to approach this situation.

 

[nariah1957]

Role play is a good way to start but take it slow and gage her reactions. Dont go straight to the sex bit. Start with 2 men massaging her or both nipples sucked, gage her reaction and go from there.
If she gets into then slowly up the scenario but if her reaction is not good then drop it and stick with the fantasy or you will lose her. It her call if she wants another man in her bed.

 

[Shadowstalker]

Hello,

I'm writing this with mixed emotions, though mostly positive. My wife and I have faced some challenges recently, and at one point, we considered parting ways. However, we came to realize just how deeply we love each other. In the midst of everything, I found the courage to express things I had kept to myself. One of the things I shared was a fantasy I've had about a threesome involving another man. I didn't want to hide this from her, as honesty is vital in our relationship.

Her initial reaction was one of offense, though she did thank me for being open with her. However, she made it clear that she would never consider such an experience, as she doesn't understand why people engage in that kind of activity. The conversation was an emotional rollercoaster for me. When I brought up the idea of role-playing, she agreed, which gave me hope.

Now, I really want to continue exploring this and perhaps bring my fantasies into reality, but I'm unsure how to proceed. I'd appreciate any advice on how to approach this situation.

Do you use sex toy? If not introduce a decent size dildo and name it .. bring him into your foreplay

 

[hubbysexywife]

Hello,

I'm writing this with mixed emotions, though mostly positive. My wife and I have faced some challenges recently, and at one point, we considered parting ways. However, we came to realize just how deeply we love each other. In the midst of everything, I found the courage to express things I had kept to myself. One of the things I shared was a fantasy I've had about a threesome involving another man. I didn't want to hide this from her, as honesty is vital in our relationship.

Her initial reaction was one of offense, though she did thank me for being open with her. However, she made it clear that she would never consider such an experience, as she doesn't understand why people engage in that kind of activity. The conversation was an emotional rollercoaster for me. When I brought up the idea of role-playing, she agreed, which gave me hope.

Now, I really want to continue exploring this and perhaps bring my fantasies into reality, but I'm unsure how to proceed. I'd appreciate any advice on how to approach this situation.

Congrats for your courage. Would know more when you have news

 

[jaandaj]

You took the biggest step. Take thing as they come for now. She will build on the role play. More comfortable she feels the more the idea will grow in her mind.
Work on some her fantasies in the meantime.

Remember doesn't matter you can go from 0 to 120 it matters how well u handle the ride.
So the more she enjoys working up to it the more natural it will feel when she gets there

 

[layla]

You took the biggest step. Take thing as they come for now. She will build on the role play. More comfortable she feels the more the idea will grow in her mind.
Work on some her fantasies in the meantime.

Remember doesn't matter you can go from 0 to 120 it matters how well u handle the ride.
So the more she enjoys working up to it the more natural it will feel when she gets there

Could you suggest any role play ideas or suggestions to play together? Thank you!

 

[WiseOld]

Honesty, in a relationship, has its limits. All virtues taken to an extreme, become vices, so Aristotle informed us over 2,000 years ago. Do you tell you think she looks fat? I hope not.

A good rule is to never mention any sexual topic unless she is already deep into sexual bliss. Why? Apparently, that part of our brain that handles disgust is also the same part that deals with sexual desire. Evidence is found that when turned-on, we are less sensitive to the disgusting. (Imagine how bad cave men and women smelled. Hence the need to shut off the disgust circuit to further the species.) Inversely, when disgusted, we cannot be made lustful. Moreover, when we are sexually excited, we are less rational, otherwise there would be far fewer one-night stands and affairs. This dual purpose working also explains why so many sex fetishes are based on the disgusting, such as coprophilia and mutilation fetishes (acrotomophilia ). A miswiring of sorts, no doubt.

Revealing your fantasy to your wife was a mistake, as you are (at least in her mind) responsible for your fantasies. Dreams, on the other hand, are things that happen to you, much like being rained upon and slipping on the wet sidewalk. Not your fault. You should have recast your fantasy as a weird dream you had. And when you reveal your "dream," after you had nearly brought her to orgasm, you should only outline it briefly and let it drop away. Women are not men. Where a man might need five minutes to before being willing to fuck a strange woman; a woman might need five days, if not five months... (In general, if you know that someone wants to have sex with you, you will feel that attraction much like the planets feel the sun's gravity. Given enough time—and some opportunity—you two will have sex.) In other words, let your "dream" simmer in the back of her mind.

If you are up to it, you might be able to explain away your fantasy as the result of that crazy dream you had. Although it was insane and unworthy of a loving couple, the dream strangely made some sense while dreaming it.

Most men do not know how to spell "subtle," i.e. making use of clever and indirect methods to achieve something, let alone how to it or be it.

 

[layla]

Honesty, in a relationship, has its limits. All virtues taken to an extreme, become vices, so Aristotle informed us over 2,000 years ago. Do you tell you think she looks fat? I hope not.

A good rule is to never mention any sexual topic unless she is already deep into sexual bliss. Why? Apparently, that part of our brain that handles disgust is also the same part that deals with sexual desire. Evidence is found that when turned-on, we are less sensitive to the disgusting. (Imagine how bad cave men and women smelled. Hence the need to shut off the disgust circuit to further the species.) Inversely, when disgusted, we cannot be made lustful. Moreover, when we are sexually excited, we are less rational, otherwise there would be far fewer one-night stands and affairs. This dual purpose working also explains why so many sex fetishes are based on the disgusting, such as coprophilia and mutilation fetishes (acrotomophilia ). A miswiring of sorts, no doubt.

Revealing your fantasy to your wife was a mistake, as you are (at least in her mind) responsible for your fantasies. Dreams, on the other hand, are things that happen to you, much like being rained upon and slipping on the wet sidewalk. Not your fault. You should have recast your fantasy as a weird dream you had. And when you reveal your "dream," after you had nearly brought her to orgasm, you should only outline it briefly and let it drop away. Women are not men. Where a man might need five minutes to before being willing to fuck a strange woman; a woman might need five days, if not five months... (In general, if you know that someone wants to have sex with you, you will feel that attraction much like the planets feel the sun's gravity. Given enough time—and some opportunity—you two will have sex.) In other words, let your "dream" simmer in the back of her mind.

If you are up to it, you might be able to explain away your fantasy as the result of that crazy dream you had. Although it was insane and unworthy of a loving couple, the dream strangely made some sense while dreaming it.

Most men do not know how to spell "subtle," i.e. making use of clever and indirect methods to achieve something, let alone how to it or be it.

Great perspective! Could you write me more details about how can I describe a dream? Thank you 🙂

 

[hubbysexywife]

Great perspective! Could you write me more details about how can I describe a dream? Thank you 🙂

Check your messages

 

[WiseOld]

Here we go:

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Post in thread 'Wife Flipped Out Last Night'

Mar 8, 2022

The big mistake most men make is being too direct, too much to the point. In addition, they are in a hurry. An erection only last so long, but a female's sexual arousal can last hours, if not days. The ideal situation is where she pesters you to try hotwifing, not the other way around. See https://www.wifewantstoplay.com/threads/the-first-step-towards-sharing-your-wife.16505/

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Post in thread 'Wife Flipped Out Last Night'

Mar 17, 2022

I was not ever direct or to the point until the other night. Ultimately I think in the past week I’ve learned she has zero desire to sleep with anyone else. We went deep and ultimately she has said sex just doesn’t feel that good.

When we had makeup sex over the weekend though, at one point I had on a cock ring and was completely inside her. I guess the ring was rubbing against her funny and she mentioned it was great because she needs to tell me that stuff. I took it off and was nowhere near as turned on at that point, I put it back inside her. After a minute I said, does this feel...

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Post in thread 'Looking for knowledgeable and experienced advice'

Feb 13, 2022

So I’d just like to share my story as briefly as I can and I’m looking for anyone who’s willing to share their experiences and advice.

I’ve wanted my wife to fuck other men our whole lives but she’s never been into it. She would appease me and look for guys and say things I wanted to hear but it was disingenuous. What I wanted was her to WANT to act this way and want it like I do, not to manipulate her in any way just to be clear. If she doesn’t want it, I don’t want it.

Anyway we tried stuff in the past and she actually got to a point where she would say things like I’m pathetic and...

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Post in thread 'Advice Please'

Oct 23, 2021

My wife took it up another notch. As has become the norm I ate her pussy her until she had an orgasm then she told me she was ready for Bob (her dildo) to fuck her. The entire time I was using bob on her she's again tell me how much she loves bob fucking her while I'm watching, how much she loves bob's cock, she will always spread her legs for Bob and I can only fuck her after bob is cum in her. After she came twice on her dildo she told me it was my turn. What was new was she's entire time we are fucking she's calling bob saying things like come on bob fuck me good and hard while my...

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Post in thread 'How to move forward'

Oct 19, 2021

Stay in fantasy mode as long as possible, before trying to move into reality. Keep the fantasy people and locations far away from your actual life as possible at first, then slowly bring them closer to home. It should seem to be her idea, not yours. Buy her two of the most realistic dildos possible, one small, one large. It's thrilling to shoot a 44 magnum, but not repeatedly; if you are going to burn off a few hundred rounds, let it be a 22. Make the larger dildo a special event. Pretend to not want to use the large dildo on her, as it is "too big." Let her convince you to insert it in...

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Post in thread 'Advice Please'

Oct 7, 2021

Thanks and yes she may never make it a reality but if not I hope she keeps the role play up because she now knows hard it makes me and how hot our sex life has become again. 😉

Imagine that you decided that you and your wife should do some thrilling things together. Skydiving is thrilling. You ask your wife if she is wants to go skydiving this weekend. Her answer is likely to be "Fuck No! Are you insane?"

Too much, too soon. On the other hand, indoor mountain climbing, with safety cables attached to your waist, might be as far as she is willing to go. As you two worked your way...

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I saved the best for last:

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Thread 'The first step towards sharing your wife'

Apr 21, 2021

Husbands willingly share their wives for many reasons. Some desire to approach bisexuality, without actually touching it. These husbands take great vicarious delight in watching their wives please another man's cock. Other husbands hope to perform a preemptive strike of sorts; knowing that their spouses are weakly faithful, they hope that a controlled burn of wanton sexual desire under their vigilant supervision will prevent uncontrollable lust fires from destroying their relationships. Other husbands want to give their wives sexual presents, wishing her to experience her most pleasing...

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• Forum: How to Convince Your Wife / Partner

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[hubbysexywife]

Honesty, in a relationship, has its limits. All virtues taken to an extreme, become vices, so Aristotle informed us over 2,000 years ago. Do you tell you think she looks fat? I hope not.

A good rule is to never mention any sexual topic unless she is already deep into sexual bliss. Why? Apparently, that part of our brain that handles disgust is also the same part that deals with sexual desire. Evidence is found that when turned-on, we are less sensitive to the disgusting. (Imagine how bad cave men and women smelled. Hence the need to shut off the disgust circuit to further the species.) Inversely, when disgusted, we cannot be made lustful. Moreover, when we are sexually excited, we are less rational, otherwise there would be far fewer one-night stands and affairs. This dual purpose working also explains why so many sex fetishes are based on the disgusting, such as coprophilia and mutilation fetishes (acrotomophilia ). A miswiring of sorts, no doubt.

Revealing your fantasy to your wife was a mistake, as you are (at least in her mind) responsible for your fantasies. Dreams, on the other hand, are things that happen to you, much like being rained upon and slipping on the wet sidewalk. Not your fault. You should have recast your fantasy as a weird dream you had. And when you reveal your "dream," after you had nearly brought her to orgasm, you should only outline it briefly and let it drop away. Women are not men. Where a man might need five minutes to before being willing to fuck a strange woman; a woman might need five days, if not five months... (In general, if you know that someone wants to have sex with you, you will feel that attraction much like the planets feel the sun's gravity. Given enough time—and some opportunity—you two will have sex.) In other words, let your "dream" simmer in the back of her mind.

If you are up to it, you might be able to explain away your fantasy as the result of that crazy dream you had. Although it was insane and unworthy of a loving couple, the dream strangely made some sense while dreaming it.

Most men do not know how to spell "subtle," i.e. making use of clever and indirect methods to achieve something, let alone how to it or be it.

It's a really good point. Anyway, somewhere at the journey, you need to assume and confess to your wife your fantasy. Of course it's easier if you give her some subtle clouds about it and, if she is a good detective as most woman are 😂, she already would know what you are confessing. More or less my case.

 

[Jerryteroga]

Hello,

I'm writing this with mixed emotions, though mostly positive. My wife and I have faced some challenges recently, and at one point, we considered parting ways. However, we came to realize just how deeply we love each other. In the midst of everything, I found the courage to express things I had kept to myself. One of the things I shared was a fantasy I've had about a threesome involving another man. I didn't want to hide this from her, as honesty is vital in our relationship.

Her initial reaction was one of offense, though she did thank me for being open with her. However, she made it clear that she would never consider such an experience, as she doesn't understand why people engage in that kind of activity. The conversation was an emotional rollercoaster for me. When I brought up the idea of role-playing, she agreed, which gave me hope.

Now, I really want to continue exploring this and perhaps bring my fantasies into reality, but I'm unsure how to proceed. I'd appreciate any advice on how to approach this situation.

My advice would be if she made it absolutely clear that she would never consider a threesome with another guy be very cautious about guiding her near or in that direction as it could cause harm. If she is really not into it there is no point in talking her into something she is not comfortable with. Talk to her and find things that she is ok with that she likes, these things will be 100 times more enjoyable because you will both like them. Role play sounds like much fun, enjoy.