I'm 51, wife is 44. Is it too late? Should I stop trying to convince her?

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Sorry for the long post. Thanks for reading and responding.

I'm 51 and my wife is 44. I need advice on what to do. I'd like to hear from the gals out there as well as the guys. My wife and I have know each other almost 20 years and have been married for 15. I think she is hot and love her very much. About 3 years ago I told her of my fantasy to see her fuck another man. She initially said, "I don't know. I'm not saying no." We talked more and she agreed to meet another married couple to talk and see how this feels. I think I took the lead too strongly, nothing happened and my wife got pissed. I think we didn't have the best communication at the time. She said she doesn't want to see me have sex with another woman and she doesn't want to have sex with another man.

I stopped talking about this after that. She was ok with using penis sleeves and dildos in the bedroom but would always say she liked how my dick felt better and how I give her pleasure and she enjoys herself with me. Real dick maybe feels better than a rubber one. Sometime passed and I brought the subject up again. Maybe we could go to a sex club or place with people in the lifestyle are just to check out the vibe. Maybe we could have sex with each other while other people were watching. Again she got mad and I dropped the topic.

When we have sex it is good and we both get off. After 20 or so years it is a little vanilla though. We have sex maybe once or twice a month. My wife says she is entering into perimenopause and doesn't have as much desire as she used to. I tried watching porn with her and she felt like I was trying to convince her to be like the other women in the videos.

Life is kind of hectic right now. We both own our own businesses which can be demanding. We still have kids at home who are busy with school and sports etc. I've had some health issues. Now is not the time so I've decided to give up. Maybe in another 5-10 years when we are empty nesters thing can be different. I'm afraid after menopause she won't be interested in any sex at all. I don't want that and I don't want to be any other women. Have any wives gotten into this lifestyle after menopause and after the kids are out of the house? Was that easier or more comfortable? I'll be pushing 60 by then. Feeling kind of dejected and rejected. Any advice?
 
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It’s never too late, I’m 53 and have been a hot wife for 30 years. I’ve recently got one of my close friends, a wife of 56, cuckolding her husband for the first time. She has been married for 32 years and never fucked another guy in that time.

Since beginning cuckolding her husband she’s fucked five different guys on her own and I’ve taken her to two swingers parties. She’s also expanded her sexual preferences with have anal sex for the first time, BDSM, WS, and being exposed naked online, things she’s never done before.

She is really loving the lifestyle and she is proof it’s never too late to start.

Sian. Xx
 
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Dcucked said:
Sorry for the long post. Thanks for reading and responding.

I'm 51 and my wife is 44. I need advice on what to do. I'd like to hear from the gals out there as well as the guys. My wife and I have know each other almost 20 years and have been married for 15. I think she is hot and love her very much. About 3 years ago I told her of my fantasy to see her fuck another man. She initially said, "I don't know. I'm not saying no." We talked more and she agreed to meet another married couple to talk and see how this feels. I think I took the lead too strongly, nothing happened and my wife got pissed. I think we didn't have the best communication at the time. She said she doesn't want to see me have sex with another woman and she doesn't want to have sex with another man.

I stopped talking about this after that. She was ok with using penis sleeves and dildos in the bedroom but would always say she liked how my dick felt better and how I give her pleasure and she enjoys herself with me. Real dick maybe feels better than a rubber one. Sometime passed and I brought the subject up again. Maybe we could go to a sex club or place with people in the lifestyle are just to check out the vibe. Maybe we could have sex with each other while other people were watching. Again she got mad and I dropped the topic.

When we have sex it is good and we both get off. After 20 or so years it is a little vanilla though. We have sex maybe once or twice a month. My wife says she is entering into perimenopause and doesn't have as much desire as she used to. I tried watching porn with her and she felt like I was trying to convince her to be like the other women in the videos.

Life is kind of hectic right now. We both own our own businesses which can be demanding. We still have kids at home who are busy with school and sports etc. I've had some health issues. Now is not the time so I've decided to give up. Maybe in another 5-10 years when we are empty nesters thing can be different. I'm afraid after menopause she won't be interested in any sex at all. I don't want that and I don't want to be any other women. Have any wives gotten into this lifestyle after menopause and after the kids are out of the house? Was that easier or more comfortable? I'll be pushing 60 by then. Feeling kind of dejected and rejected. Any advice?
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KevinNewell said:
It’s never too late, I’m 53 and have been a hot wife for 30 years. I’ve recently got one of my close friends, a wife of 56, cuckolding her husband for the first time. She has been married for 32 years and never fucked another guy in that time.

Since beginning cuckolding her husband she’s fucked five different guys on her own and I’ve taken her to two swingers parties. She’s also expanded her sexual preferences with have anal sex for the first time, BDSM, WS, and being exposed naked online, things she’s never done before.

She is really loving the lifestyle and she is proof it’s never too late to start.

Sian. Xx
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Thanks. Thats encouraging. Maybe one day. Who knows
 
KevinNewell said:
It’s never too late, I’m 53 and have been a hot wife for 30 years. I’ve recently got one of my close friends, a wife of 56, cuckolding her husband for the first time. She has been married for 32 years and never fucked another guy in that time.

Since beginning cuckolding her husband she’s fucked five different guys on her own and I’ve taken her to two swingers parties. She’s also expanded her sexual preferences with have anal sex for the first time, BDSM, WS, and being exposed naked online, things she’s never done before.

She is really loving the lifestyle and she is proof it’s never too late to start.

Sian. Xx
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Never too late in fact most couples are in their 40s to 50s from what I’ve found.

32 Bull here in Pensacola beach FL on white sand beaches emerald oceans. Originally from Manchester UK aswell !

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CONVINCING THE WIFE

i succeeded in convincing my wife so i thought i would try and help you out, fulfilling your dreams of cuckolding. now, if your wife is leading the charge and dropping hints about sharing herself, then this is not for you. this is when you are the cuckold wannabe.

first, the impt question is whether she is able to fantasise. this is never an easy question to answer as it involves many factors. most impt of which is whether she IS ABLE to at the very least, fantasise with you about being a hotwife. THIS IS KEY.

if she has not, then it is a harder hill to climb.

1. there are some things that you must first learn - patience and persistence. these are your tools to help you achieve this.

2. never push her. you must be very very patient in getting your fantasy to be a reality. always let her think she is in control of it. this means that if she does not want to talk or fantasise anymore, stop. respect her wishes. start again another time. but be persistent. she will give in eventually.

this is a slow and steady process and your Mrs MUST always have the feeling that she is in control. ALWAYS! This reassures her that should she want to stop, IT WILL BE STOPPED. only then will she trust you.

3. AGAIN REMEMBER that the focus here is your wife. not you and what you desire her to do for you (please understand this as they will learn the truth).

this was one of the methods i used on my wife......

my mrs loves to suck cock. she really loves it as she can go for an hour or more just sucking on one. and you will only enjoy having your cock sucked IF the person sucking enjoys what she is doing. i should know this as im her hubby. she loves to swallow too. and not the porn you watch type where they spit it out! she love to taste it and swallow (i suppose this was the thing that turned me bi too as i loved watching her do it so much that i too got hooked).

so during my convincing her to join a swing party, i bought a vibrator and when she was sucking my cock, i used the vibrator on her. now when she sucks she is in heaven and then applying the vibe on her pussy was the ultimate for her. i used that moment to fantasise that it was a mutual friends. an american guy that we knew (she is partial to orang putih). this method me a great deal in convincing her that another cock or cocks would be great in our sex life. so i did this time and time again. this was the persistent part. as long as she likes sex, half the battle is won.

about 4th month - the reluctance soon gave way. and she began to allow me to talk to her about a third person.

about 8th month - then i began to ask her things. and she answered!!

with this i knew i was doing the right things.

10th month - while having sex SHE asked for the vibrator.

after a year of some hard work she finally agreed to join in a swing party. and the rest is history. this was the patience part.

she enjoyed herself at the party. and it was enjoyable to watch her too.

so keep plugging at it. always remember that the focus is on her. not you.

we began with swinging, then moved gradually (as my cuckold side began to emerge) to threesomes and finally cuckolding. this is something i really enjoy. i especially watching the action up close (like in fucklicking) as it is so intoxicating.

as i noted, patience, persistence, and non-pushy.

secondly, compliment her dressing, her beauty, her sexiness. and do it truthfully. women can tell if you are bull-shitting or theres something behind the compliments.

send her flowers, chocolates at her workplace. let her feel proud in front of her friends, family.

this is an entire package of things you need to do. men are different. we only want 1 thing. with women it takes many things. and your heart.

i honestly did all these things to convince, cajole and encourage my wife. it took me more than a year before she agreed to join me in a swing party. happiest moment of my life.

the most common mistakes made involve rushing.

rushing into cuckolding

sharing your wife is already a big step. getting her to cuckold you is even greater. so consider taking this one step at a time.

my advice to you is to leave out the cuckolding part of it for now. That will come later. Currently you are only focused on your needs which is for her to cuckold you.

So leave that part out for now. instead, focus on HER PLEASURES. make sure she reaches new heights, better climaxes and mind-blowing pleasures. Get her more involved in the sex. Introduce a dildo, if you have not already. Then show her 3some porn - mmf, orgies, gbs where there are more men than women. This will engage her curiosity about having more than one cock.

but always keep these in mind - persistence, patience, non-pushy.

this is all a plan.....as once she starts experiencing all these new things, your sex life will change and then you slowly bring cuckolding into place. so your time will come my friend.

that will be the ultimate. her the tools. and then fuck her with it, while watching a nice cuckold porn movie. find out who she likes to fuck her. colleague, neighbour, friend etc. then introduce the vibrator as the person. in her pussy or mouth while your cock does the free hole. your wish to be cuckolded will come (cum??) true.

because one day when you see a large hard cock plunging in and out of your wifes pussy, and juices spurting everywhere, the wonderful squishing sounds the aroma wafting into your nose as you watch this up close then you know your time has come. and it is just fucking erotic. we had so many wonderful moments too with my wife.

dan
 
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Patience is definetly the key. We have been married 30 years and I tried once we became empty nesters (about 15 -20 years ago) to spice it up ,offered her a hall pass, showed her swinger porn,etc. Took her to several bars and asked her to flirt with guys she found sexy, but was always met with, "I'm happy with what I got". or usually with a flatout NO. About 8 years ago she came home from the gym and was all bubbly and excited they hired a new trainer, he was in his 30's according to her and after a week or two told me she was going to switch trainers. I knew something was up so I went to the gym and met him. Very nice guy ,tall, well built, had a great personality so I saw what was making her school girlish, I decided to get to know him better and talk to him more in depth when we were comfortable with each other.
After a few months he and i decided to go out one night and have a drink. After the second drink I asked him if he found the wife attractive, him almost spitting out his drink, he admitted she was in extremely good shape for her age and easy on the eyes. The next question I asked was if he would be up to seducing her, that one I thought he was going to fall out of his chair. I explained how I wanted her to open up and enjoy sex more and I had asked her to go to bed with other men over the years. I explained I was on board but she was going to be the hard sell, that he couldn't pursue to hard or he would scare her off. We agreed to this and I left it up to him to try and get her in bed.
It took him about a year but he succeeded in getting her into his bed (that's another story) and on her trip home she got a case of the guilts. To make a long story short she and I had several days discussion about it, that I had influenced the setup and that I loved her to enjoy the attraction of other men. Her first was with us for about 5 years until he transferred out of state. She is now comfortable in the lifestyle and has been with 12 other men since her first. We and she especially enjoy the hot sex and attention paid to her and hopefully will continue on for a few more years
 
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danum said:
CONVINCING THE WIFE

i succeeded in convincing my wife so i thought i would try and help you out, fulfilling your dreams of cuckolding. now, if your wife is leading the charge and dropping hints about sharing herself, then this is not for you. this is when you are the cuckold wannabe.

first, the impt question is whether she is able to fantasise. this is never an easy question to answer as it involves many factors. most impt of which is whether she IS ABLE to at the very least, fantasise with you about being a hotwife. THIS IS KEY.

if she has not, then it is a harder hill to climb.

1. there are some things that you must first learn - patience and persistence. these are your tools to help you achieve this.

2. never push her. you must be very very patient in getting your fantasy to be a reality. always let her think she is in control of it. this means that if she does not want to talk or fantasise anymore, stop. respect her wishes. start again another time. but be persistent. she will give in eventually.

this is a slow and steady process and your Mrs MUST always have the feeling that she is in control. ALWAYS! This reassures her that should she want to stop, IT WILL BE STOPPED. only then will she trust you.

3. AGAIN REMEMBER that the focus here is your wife. not you and what you desire her to do for you (please understand this as they will learn the truth).

this was one of the methods i used on my wife......

my mrs loves to suck cock. she really loves it as she can go for an hour or more just sucking on one. and you will only enjoy having your cock sucked IF the person sucking enjoys what she is doing. i should know this as im her hubby. she loves to swallow too. and not the porn you watch type where they spit it out! she love to taste it and swallow (i suppose this was the thing that turned me bi too as i loved watching her do it so much that i too got hooked).

so during my convincing her to join a swing party, i bought a vibrator and when she was sucking my cock, i used the vibrator on her. now when she sucks she is in heaven and then applying the vibe on her pussy was the ultimate for her. i used that moment to fantasise that it was a mutual friends. an american guy that we knew (she is partial to orang putih). this method me a great deal in convincing her that another cock or cocks would be great in our sex life. so i did this time and time again. this was the persistent part. as long as she likes sex, half the battle is won.

about 4th month - the reluctance soon gave way. and she began to allow me to talk to her about a third person.

about 8th month - then i began to ask her things. and she answered!!

with this i knew i was doing the right things.

10th month - while having sex SHE asked for the vibrator.

after a year of some hard work she finally agreed to join in a swing party. and the rest is history. this was the patience part.

she enjoyed herself at the party. and it was enjoyable to watch her too.

so keep plugging at it. always remember that the focus is on her. not you.

we began with swinging, then moved gradually (as my cuckold side began to emerge) to threesomes and finally cuckolding. this is something i really enjoy. i especially watching the action up close (like in fucklicking) as it is so intoxicating.

as i noted, patience, persistence, and non-pushy.

secondly, compliment her dressing, her beauty, her sexiness. and do it truthfully. women can tell if you are bull-shitting or theres something behind the compliments.

send her flowers, chocolates at her workplace. let her feel proud in front of her friends, family.

this is an entire package of things you need to do. men are different. we only want 1 thing. with women it takes many things. and your heart.

i honestly did all these things to convince, cajole and encourage my wife. it took me more than a year before she agreed to join me in a swing party. happiest moment of my life.

the most common mistakes made involve rushing.

rushing into cuckolding

sharing your wife is already a big step. getting her to cuckold you is even greater. so consider taking this one step at a time.

my advice to you is to leave out the cuckolding part of it for now. That will come later. Currently you are only focused on your needs which is for her to cuckold you.

So leave that part out for now. instead, focus on HER PLEASURES. make sure she reaches new heights, better climaxes and mind-blowing pleasures. Get her more involved in the sex. Introduce a dildo, if you have not already. Then show her 3some porn - mmf, orgies, gbs where there are more men than women. This will engage her curiosity about having more than one cock.

but always keep these in mind - persistence, patience, non-pushy.

this is all a plan.....as once she starts experiencing all these new things, your sex life will change and then you slowly bring cuckolding into place. so your time will come my friend.

that will be the ultimate. her the tools. and then fuck her with it, while watching a nice cuckold porn movie. find out who she likes to fuck her. colleague, neighbour, friend etc. then introduce the vibrator as the person. in her pussy or mouth while your cock does the free hole. your wish to be cuckolded will come (cum??) true.

because one day when you see a large hard cock plunging in and out of your wifes pussy, and juices spurting everywhere, the wonderful squishing sounds the aroma wafting into your nose as you watch this up close then you know your time has come. and it is just fucking erotic. we had so many wonderful moments too with my wife.

dan
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very well said and very true
 
Elja1 said:
Patience is definetly the key. We have been married 30 years and I tried once we became empty nesters (about 15 -20 years ago) to spice it up ,offered her a hall pass, showed her swinger porn,etc. Took her to several bars and asked her to flirt with guys she found sexy, but was always met with, "I'm happy with what I got". or usually with a flatout NO. About 8 years ago she came home from the gym and was all bubbly and excited they hired a new trainer, he was in his 30's according to her and after a week or two told me she was going to switch trainers. I knew something was up so I went to the gym and met him. Very nice guy ,tall, well built, had a great personality so I saw what was making her school girlish, I decided to get to know him better and talk to him more in depth when we were comfortable with each other.
After a few months he and i decided to go out one night and have a drink. After the second drink I asked him if he found the wife attractive, him almost spitting out his drink, he admitted she was in extremely good shape for her age and easy on the eyes. The next question I asked was if he would be up to seducing her, that one I thought he was going to fall out of his chair. I explained how I wanted her to open up and enjoy sex more and I had asked her to go to bed with other men over the years. I explained I was on board but she was going to be the hard sell, that he couldn't pursue to hard or he would scare her off. We agreed to this and I left it up to him to try and get her in bed.
It took him about a year but he succeeded in getting her into his bed (that's another story) and on her trip home she got a case of the guilts. To make a long story short she and I had several days discussion about it, that I had influenced the setup and that I loved her to enjoy the attraction of other men. Her first was with us for about 5 years until he transferred out of state. She is now comfortable in the lifestyle and has been with 12 other men since her first. We and she especially enjoy the hot sex and attention paid to her and hopefully will continue on for a few more years
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Patience is definetly the key. We have been married 30 years and I tried once we became empty nesters (about 15 -20 years ago) to spice it up ,offered her a hall pass, showed her swinger porn,etc. Took her to several bars and asked her to flirt with guys she found sexy, but was always met with, "I'm happy with what I got". or usually with a flatout NO. About 8 years ago she came home from the gym and was all bubbly and excited they hired a new trainer, he was in his 30's according to her and after a week or two told me she was going to switch trainers. I knew something was up so I went to the gym and met him. Very nice guy ,tall, well built, had a great personality so I saw what was making her school girlish, I decided to get to know him better and talk to him more in depth when we were comfortable with each other.
After a few months he and i decided to go out one night and have a drink. After the second drink I asked him if he found the wife attractive, him almost spitting out his drink, he admitted she was in extremely good shape for her age and easy on the eyes. The next question I asked was if he would be up to seducing her, that one I thought he was going to fall out of his chair. I explained how I wanted her to open up and enjoy sex more and I had asked her to go to bed with other men over the years. I explained I was on board but she was going to be the hard sell, that he couldn't pursue to hard or he would scare her off. We agreed to this and I left it up to him to try and get her in bed.
It took him about a year but he succeeded in getting her into his bed (that's another story) and on her trip home she got a case of the guilts. To make a long story short she and I had several days discussion about it, that I had influenced the setup and that I loved her to enjoy the attraction of other men. Her first was with us for about 5 years until he transferred out of state. She is now comfortable in the lifestyle and has been with 12 other men since her first. We and she especially enjoy the hot sex and attention paid to her and hopefully will continue on for a few more years
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Wow. Thats a hot story. I so want this to be something for my wife and I to share but she gets angry at even the hint of it.
 
Dcucked said:
Sorry for the long post. Thanks for reading and responding.

I'm 51 and my wife is 44. I need advice on what to do. I'd like to hear from the gals out there as well as the guys. My wife and I have know each other almost 20 years and have been married for 15. I think she is hot and love her very much. About 3 years ago I told her of my fantasy to see her fuck another man. She initially said, "I don't know. I'm not saying no." We talked more and she agreed to meet another married couple to talk and see how this feels. I think I took the lead too strongly, nothing happened and my wife got pissed. I think we didn't have the best communication at the time. She said she doesn't want to see me have sex with another woman and she doesn't want to have sex with another man.

I stopped talking about this after that. She was ok with using penis sleeves and dildos in the bedroom but would always say she liked how my dick felt better and how I give her pleasure and she enjoys herself with me. Real dick maybe feels better than a rubber one. Sometime passed and I brought the subject up again. Maybe we could go to a sex club or place with people in the lifestyle are just to check out the vibe. Maybe we could have sex with each other while other people were watching. Again she got mad and I dropped the topic.

When we have sex it is good and we both get off. After 20 or so years it is a little vanilla though. We have sex maybe once or twice a month. My wife says she is entering into perimenopause and doesn't have as much desire as she used to. I tried watching porn with her and she felt like I was trying to convince her to be like the other women in the videos.

Life is kind of hectic right now. We both own our own businesses which can be demanding. We still have kids at home who are busy with school and sports etc. I've had some health issues. Now is not the time so I've decided to give up. Maybe in another 5-10 years when we are empty nesters thing can be different. I'm afraid after menopause she won't be interested in any sex at all. I don't want that and I don't want to be any other women. Have any wives gotten into this lifestyle after menopause and after the kids are out of the house? Was that easier or more comfortable? I'll be pushing 60 by then. Feeling kind of dejected and rejected. Any advice?
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Don't know what her situation is, but if she's the woman in your profile pic then she's really hot and will have no problem finding
hot guys and girls to play with.

As for menopause, fitness is huge, strength training especially. Testosterone administered by a professional and at the appropriate levels
is almost a "must" for women as they age, in order to keep the sex drive going. It's also very critical to keep her using her body and
having orgasms...this should be done frequently! Keeping everything filled with blood and working, as well as keeping her stimulated
is a must. Lack of use will lead to more of the same.

She really should read the stories of wives in the lifestyle. Once she starts, she will wish she had started sooner...that is as long as everything goes
well and isn't fraught with bad experiences.
 
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Don't know what her situation is, but if she's the woman in your profile pic then she's really hot and will have no problem finding
hot guys and girls to play with.

As for menopause, fitness is huge, strength training especially. Testosterone administered by a professional and at the appropriate levels
is almost a "must" for women as they age, in order to keep the sex drive going. It's also very critical to keep her using her body and
having orgasms...this should be done frequently! Keeping everything filled with blood and working, as well as keeping her stimulated
is a must. Lack of use will lead to more of the same.

She really should read the stories of wives in the lifestyle. Once she starts, she will wish she had started sooner...that is as long as everything goes
well and isn't fraught with bad experiences.
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Can you point me in the direction of any such posts/stories that are written by women for women?
 

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