Is your wife's BF just a fuck buddy, or is it a full second relationship?

For the longest, I've just wanted her to have a fuck buddy, which she does. Recently, I've been turned on by the idea of them having a real relationship. Going out on dates, vacations etc. Her wanting to share time between us. How does that work for those that do something similar.
My wife has had several relationship's over the years she needs that to get the best out of the sex , one lasted almost 20 years before he became ill and past away, the current boyfriend has been around for six years now sex really works for them although his wife has found out and slowed things down a lot, my wife has daily contact with him and her fanny is all his I'm not allowed to touch.
 
Over the years my wife has had numerous long term FWBs with my consent then later a relationship with another man spanning 5 years plus, this had totally different dynamics for all.

With FWBs we dipped our toe into this LS as and when it suited all, one evening of deborchary then back to normal life.

With a relationship, he controlled her sexuality 100% and thus i became completely surplus to her as a lover, completing this transition from the 80% i had been before he arrived.

We would wait for her arrival from work and became good friends, she would arrive home, kiss me then him, then she was his. We chatted around the dinner table as she made a meal for the two men in her life, then later go for a quick bath. He would join her then they would take to our marital bed.

I consented to all this, the role of a cuck husband. He never sought to control me, he said to her he knew he couldnt as i was and am a dominant male. My wife surrendered to his sexual desires and it was she that commenced semi feminizing me during this period, not him.

They became a couple, would go out together, on holiday and stay occasonally in hotels if away for the night, he wanted complete excusivity over her sex life but never achieved it. My wife wanted me involved, watching, touching her and we even went to a couple of clubs where she did play with other men, a rare event i will say, as in the main we just went to the pleasure and kink of being there, therefore in a way it was he not me that she cucked, if thats possible.

The problems were emotional, they fell in love, he was married and would not give his wife and family up, it was my wife that wanted more, he was happy with the arrangement as it had always been. What she wanted was a true poly relationship but didnt understand the dynamics of this, i did and would have allowed this as he would never have lived with us.

Therefore it was she that broke this relationship, she walked away from him and told me it was becoming too complicated, she simply could not love two men and felt it would damage our relationship.

In truth she has never really recovered from the split with him, even if by this time she had another FWBs, she though chose to continue with my semi feminisation, i think as much as anything to stop me straying, she saying you like it, err yes i do.

A further hurdle was covid, she suggested we try again with a sex life, one like we used to have, however having been a cuck for 30 plus years, locked away most of the time, semi feminized my mind had changed and so had my sexual ability and desires. I also knew i couldnt satisfy her anyway.

The painful truth as we have discussed is that she now sees me more as a brother or sister sexually, i can touch as i wish, she still dresses for me and we kiss numerous times a day, she still allocates me my female clothing daily and we remain deeply in love. However i doubt we will ever have sex between us and i know from her reaction she understands this too.

This is the downside of a lifetime in this LS.
 
Over the years my wife has had numerous long term FWBs with my consent then later a relationship with another man spanning 5 years plus, this had totally different dynamics for all.

With FWBs we dipped our toe into this LS as and when it suited all, one evening of deborchary then back to normal life.

With a relationship, he controlled her sexuality 100% and thus i became completely surplus to her as a lover, completing this transition from the 80% i had been before he arrived.

We would wait for her arrival from work and became good friends, she would arrive home, kiss me then him, then she was his. We chatted around the dinner table as she made a meal for the two men in her life, then later go for a quick bath. He would join her then they would take to our marital bed.

I consented to all this, the role of a cuck husband. He never sought to control me, he said to her he knew he couldnt as i was and am a dominant male. My wife surrendered to his sexual desires and it was she that commenced semi feminizing me during this period, not him.

They became a couple, would go out together, on holiday and stay occasonally in hotels if away for the night, he wanted complete excusivity over her sex life but never achieved it. My wife wanted me involved, watching, touching her and we even went to a couple of clubs where she did play with other men, a rare event i will say, as in the main we just went to the pleasure and kink of being there, therefore in a way it was he not me that she cucked, if thats possible.

The problems were emotional, they fell in love, he was married and would not give his wife and family up, it was my wife that wanted more, he was happy with the arrangement as it had always been. What she wanted was a true poly relationship but didnt understand the dynamics of this, i did and would have allowed this as he would never have lived with us.

Therefore it was she that broke this relationship, she walked away from him and told me it was becoming too complicated, she simply could not love two men and felt it would damage our relationship.

In truth she has never really recovered from the split with him, even if by this time she had another FWBs, she though chose to continue with my semi feminisation, i think as much as anything to stop me straying, she saying you like it, err yes i do.

A further hurdle was covid, she suggested we try again with a sex life, one like we used to have, however having been a cuck for 30 plus years, locked away most of the time, semi feminized my mind had changed and so had my sexual ability and desires. I also knew i couldnt satisfy her anyway.

The painful truth as we have discussed is that she now sees me more as a brother or sister sexually, i can touch as i wish, she still dresses for me and we kiss numerous times a day, she still allocates me my female clothing daily and we remain deeply in love. However i doubt we will ever have sex between us and i know from her reaction she understands this too.

This is the downside of a lifetime in this LS.
I understand this completely. These dynamics are almost word for word the same scenario my little family has come to and discussed. I'm blown away by the similarities
 
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I understand this completely. These dynamics are almost word for word the same scenario my little family has come to and discussed. I'm blown away by the similarities

Over the years my wife has had numerous long term FWBs with my consent then later a relationship with another man spanning 5 years plus, this had totally different dynamics for all.

With FWBs we dipped our toe into this LS as and when it suited all, one evening of deborchary then back to normal life.

With a relationship, he controlled her sexuality 100% and thus i became completely surplus to her as a lover, completing this transition from the 80% i had been before he arrived.

We would wait for her arrival from work and became good friends, she would arrive home, kiss me then him, then she was his. We chatted around the dinner table as she made a meal for the two men in her life, then later go for a quick bath. He would join her then they would take to our marital bed.

I consented to all this, the role of a cuck husband. He never sought to control me, he said to her he knew he couldnt as i was and am a dominant male. My wife surrendered to his sexual desires and it was she that commenced semi feminizing me during this period, not him.

They became a couple, would go out together, on holiday and stay occasonally in hotels if away for the night, he wanted complete excusivity over her sex life but never achieved it. My wife wanted me involved, watching, touching her and we even went to a couple of clubs where she did play with other men, a rare event i will say, as in the main we just went to the pleasure and kink of being there, therefore in a way it was he not me that she cucked, if thats possible.

The problems were emotional, they fell in love, he was married and would not give his wife and family up, it was my wife that wanted more, he was happy with the arrangement as it had always been. What she wanted was a true poly relationship but didnt understand the dynamics of this, i did and would have allowed this as he would never have lived with us.

Therefore it was she that broke this relationship, she walked away from him and told me it was becoming too complicated, she simply could not love two men and felt it would damage our relationship.

In truth she has never really recovered from the split with him, even if by this time she had another FWBs, she though chose to continue with my semi feminisation, i think as much as anything to stop me straying, she saying you like it, err yes i do.

A further hurdle was covid, she suggested we try again with a sex life, one like we used to have, however having been a cuck for 30 plus years, locked away most of the time, semi feminized my mind had changed and so had my sexual ability and desires. I also knew i couldnt satisfy her anyway.

The painful truth as we have discussed is that she now sees me more as a brother or sister sexually, i can touch as i wish, she still dresses for me and we kiss numerous times a day, she still allocates me my female clothing daily and we remain deeply in love. However i doubt we will ever have sex between us and i know from her reaction she understands this too.

This is the downside of a lifetime in this LS.
Wow, similarities with how we are as a husband and wife to this story - amazing. The only difference was that the guy my wife fell in love with, and while she was spending 3 to 4 nights, sometimes a week or two, became too much controlling and wanted her 24/7. He wanted her to leave me and she did not want that so she quit the relationship. Other than that, same story.
 
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Wow, similarities with how we are as a husband and wife to this story - amazing. The only difference was that the guy my wife fell in love with, and while she was spending 3 to 4 nights, sometimes a week or two, became too much controlling and wanted her 24/7. He wanted her to leave me and she did not want that so she quit the relationship. Other than that, same story.
Being a more considerate bull i understood my role a little better and knew their relationship was much more important to me than my goals
 
For the most part. J has affairs with her Lovers. Most of them are 3 months to a year, usually depending on whether the guys wife starts asking about all the overtime he is working, but a few have been longer. Some of them take YEARS to happen too.......they start out as friendships and it takes a lot of time for them to make the first move (co-workers who have concerns about problems occurring). Her longest affair was with her Boss/Lover, and it really only ended due to COVID.......they were together 11 years!! They got pretty serious, although it could never have been more than an affair. He has had sex with her more than I ever will. She really hoped that she would get pregnant by him too....they wanted a baby together.

CW
 
For the most part. J has affairs with her Lovers. Most of them are 3 months to a year, usually depending on whether the guys wife starts asking about all the overtime he is working, but a few have been longer. Some of them take YEARS to happen too.......they start out as friendships and it takes a lot of time for them to make the first move (co-workers who have concerns about problems occurring). Her longest affair was with her Boss/Lover, and it really only ended due to COVID.......they were together 11 years!! They got pretty serious, although it could never have been more than an affair. He has had sex with her more than I ever will. She really hoped that she would get pregnant by him too....they wanted a baby together.

CW
So where did you fit in with her affair with her boss?
Did he know, you knew etc?