Hi all,
I have been reading the forum for a bit and decided to write and bounce off a question that has been running through my head and not sure how much of it is my imagination and fantasy and how realistically should I be about it.
Just to give you a background..
We're happily married couple in mid 40s with couple of grade school kids, nanny etc, both educated, making six figures (myself twice what she makes) and with busy careers in same industry in one of the biggest cities in the US. I am reasonably handsome, 6'2 and 220 lbs with more muscle than fat (obviously not the abs from 10y ago but still pretty good) and she a petite brunette, 5'5 and 115 lbs who didn't change much after kids in terms of her appearance or style (elegant, dictated by her job) but her sex drive is nothing compared to before. We used to **** like rabbits for 10 years together but with kids and career development this became difficult. I supposed that her confidence in her body suffered too since she looked like a super model (super flat tummy and perky breasts etc) until after the kids when her boobs got bigger but obviously body is not exactly the same. She still is a fiery lover in the bedroom who likes using dirty words and be dominated and I love her body, smell and skin and I dont imagine ever being with another woman. She is tight and barely fits my 8inches and can barely walk following morning. Life is life and we don't have sex as much as before, probably 2-3 times a month, dictated by work and family responsibilities.
Nevertheless that is not really the main issue or question I want to ask, merely a background. Here is the Q:
So.. She has always been extremely possessive and jealous about me, to the point of massive fights about her perceptions about someone I had contact with at work (and ZERO interest of intention of having affair for number of reasons beyond the love for my wife) which has settled down a bit over the years but never went away and with her not being in a mindset to keep up our sex life, it became more and more frustrating because I am the most loyal man a woman could dream of, we share responsibilities at home, I make twice she makes, I shower her with compliments, buy flowers randomly and give her multiple orgasms EVERY single time.
She's feisty and emotional at baseline, in a cliche Latino manner (although she's not Latina) but submissive and I lead our family on daily issues and make most important decisions which make her uneasy and conflicted.
She does have this fetish for infidelity in fantasy realm where (while being fucked hard) screams out about being a dirty whore, taking multiple cocks and having this fantasy of being sexually exploited but older professor at the university, taken forceful and bareback on his desk and choked with cock etc.
Simultaneously she's extremely monogamous and loyal and always has been.. well since she cheated on her previous husband with me which led to our relationship we have been in happily for 10 years.
I have always had some interest in kinks and especially non monogamy but those have crystalized into fantasizes of nude beaches, sex in public (with her) and obviously seeing her fucked by other men.
Is this a good starting point to even contemplate hotwife lifestyle?
Would hotwifing be a good fit for her and help or work well with her jealousy?
I have no inclination towards cuckolding style humiliation and like to dominate her and the idea of her screaming her sex out with others or in MFM or MMMF scenario sounds appealing.
Ideas if and how to start? Or wait?
Thanks so much
I have been reading the forum for a bit and decided to write and bounce off a question that has been running through my head and not sure how much of it is my imagination and fantasy and how realistically should I be about it.
Just to give you a background..
We're happily married couple in mid 40s with couple of grade school kids, nanny etc, both educated, making six figures (myself twice what she makes) and with busy careers in same industry in one of the biggest cities in the US. I am reasonably handsome, 6'2 and 220 lbs with more muscle than fat (obviously not the abs from 10y ago but still pretty good) and she a petite brunette, 5'5 and 115 lbs who didn't change much after kids in terms of her appearance or style (elegant, dictated by her job) but her sex drive is nothing compared to before. We used to **** like rabbits for 10 years together but with kids and career development this became difficult. I supposed that her confidence in her body suffered too since she looked like a super model (super flat tummy and perky breasts etc) until after the kids when her boobs got bigger but obviously body is not exactly the same. She still is a fiery lover in the bedroom who likes using dirty words and be dominated and I love her body, smell and skin and I dont imagine ever being with another woman. She is tight and barely fits my 8inches and can barely walk following morning. Life is life and we don't have sex as much as before, probably 2-3 times a month, dictated by work and family responsibilities.
Nevertheless that is not really the main issue or question I want to ask, merely a background. Here is the Q:
So.. She has always been extremely possessive and jealous about me, to the point of massive fights about her perceptions about someone I had contact with at work (and ZERO interest of intention of having affair for number of reasons beyond the love for my wife) which has settled down a bit over the years but never went away and with her not being in a mindset to keep up our sex life, it became more and more frustrating because I am the most loyal man a woman could dream of, we share responsibilities at home, I make twice she makes, I shower her with compliments, buy flowers randomly and give her multiple orgasms EVERY single time.
She's feisty and emotional at baseline, in a cliche Latino manner (although she's not Latina) but submissive and I lead our family on daily issues and make most important decisions which make her uneasy and conflicted.
She does have this fetish for infidelity in fantasy realm where (while being fucked hard) screams out about being a dirty whore, taking multiple cocks and having this fantasy of being sexually exploited but older professor at the university, taken forceful and bareback on his desk and choked with cock etc.
Simultaneously she's extremely monogamous and loyal and always has been.. well since she cheated on her previous husband with me which led to our relationship we have been in happily for 10 years.
I have always had some interest in kinks and especially non monogamy but those have crystalized into fantasizes of nude beaches, sex in public (with her) and obviously seeing her fucked by other men.
Is this a good starting point to even contemplate hotwife lifestyle?
Would hotwifing be a good fit for her and help or work well with her jealousy?
I have no inclination towards cuckolding style humiliation and like to dominate her and the idea of her screaming her sex out with others or in MFM or MMMF scenario sounds appealing.
Ideas if and how to start? Or wait?
Thanks so much